My Life My Choice

There are a few things you need to be consciously aware of when using the law of attraction.  The Universal or Spiritual Laws have individual, collaborative and collective functions within the manifestation and creation process.  It’s important to note that whether the action of the law is collaborative or collective each law retains its individuality or specific function.  What I mean by this is a cardboard box will carry things, yet, it still remains a cardboard box.   Within the last two decades there has been an oversimplification of how the law of attraction works.  Somehow, it seems to have been relegated to the same status of abracadabra that we read about in the Middle Eastern folk tales called Arabian Nights.  Abracadabra, if taken at face value has mysterious powers and is part of a wonderful fairy tale.  However, the folk etymology associated with the phrase in Hebrew, suggests that abracadabra literally translates to "I will create as I speak" or in Aramaic "I create like the word." That’s some po

Many people don’t realize that their ability to consciously manifest what they want in life is being hampered by their inability to receive and accept praise.  You know the “attaboy or attagirl,” that people give when you have accomplished something.   This underlying issue with the inability to do this for self is a serious one.  It has the atomic potential to undermine everything that you want, and wreck everything that you have.  The Universal Law of Acceptance speaks to the energy of whether you believe you are worthy and deserving of the thing you have asked the Universe to bring into creation for you.   You see, Attractioners, to the Universal Creator, acceptance or non-acceptance is still, acceptance.   Once again, you get to choose how you use the universal Law of Acceptance.  There is an irony here, because, many people can give accolades and the highest of praise, but are self-conscious and downright uncomfortable receiving it.  And therefore, don’t want it, and articulate this in many ways.  As

To everything in life there really is a season, including the starting and ending of relationships.  Our lives are built upon relationships not only with people, but with places and things too.   We never really think of ourselves as being in a working or active relationship with our homes, cars, pens, papers, food, plants or the location where we live.  More often than not, when people speak in terms of relationships they are speaking of a dynamic between two or more people.  It can also be a relationship with an institution that’s representative of an emotionally held ideal.  However, a relationship is all about how you relate to people, places and things.  Based on how you feel about something you are in a relationship with will determine the choices you make.   When you change how you feel about a person, place or thing, you set into motion The Universal Law of Disintegration. Once set into motion it cannot be stopped.   When change needs to take place, based on the change a of heart, the disintegration o

Is there a way to live a stress free life, when all around you it seems that there is nothing, but machiavellianism, mendaciousness, murder and mayhem?  Along with wars! Rumors of wars, social unrest and civil discord.  Man’s inhumanity to man and the list goes on and on.  By consciously choosing to live a drama free life, can you positively impact the world with your “happy” thoughts, righting many of the perceived injustices and imbalances?  Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach, and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach, as we explore the possibility of your thoughts and the power they have to influence your world.  Check out Cancel That! 

People spend far too much time worrying about what other people will think of them, verses what they think about themselves.  As a result of this many people are living lives of quiet desperation, because they are dying to please others so that they will fit in.  They are saying yes, when they really mean no.  They are sucking it up, when they should be letting it rip.  All the time making choices based on what others will think.  We spend an enormous amount of time throughout our lives trying to please other people, primarily, because we feel this action, even though it’s counter to what we want, will make our lives easier.  The ultimate goal of this behavior is to gain the approval of those we are seeking it from.  Approval in this instance, equates to acceptance, which means that someone has chosen to acknowledge you in a way that you need to be acknowledged.  And for a moment this makes you feel good about yourself, until you realize that you don’t even resonate with their core values.   There is a dang

Prayer is consciously thanking The Universal Creator, the Grand Architect, The God Within or whomever your chosen deity is for your desired outcome, before it has manifested into your life.  That’s prayer in a nutshell.   It’s important to understand the structure of prayer and know the distinction between talking with God and praying to God.  Many people don’t understand this nuance and their prayers are structured incorrectly and as a result they feel that their prayers are left unanswered.  Their bodies remain unhealed, their finances remain in shambles, their relationships continue to be contentious and happiness is out of their grasp.   When people don’t receive what they want, they sigh deeply and say in reverent hushed tones that state eloquently that, “God wanted something different for me.” Here’s the cold hard facts, that's simply not true and your prayers are always answered.  Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attract

Has overthinking your next move left you in a state of I don’t know what to do paralysis?  Agonizing over figuring out if the next move is the right move has left many people opting to do nothing.  And that is downright painful.  We have been taught we must find a solution.  Not that there is always a solution, but, we must find the solution.  That nuance is huge.  In fact, it’s the difference between the solution being revealed to you and you trying to unearth it.  There is a simple process when using the Universal Laws to manifest what you are wanting and it doesn’t involve digging for anything.  It’s all about what is revealed to you to by taking inspired action.

When people speak of sacrifices that they have made in their lives for others, they are speaking in terms of what they have given up.  What they have done and what has happened to them as a result of this sacrifice. “I did this all for you so that you could have the experience that you wanted.”  The word sacrifice literally means to give something up or permit something to happen in order for someone to achieve a desired goal. Be under no illusion, no matter how heart wrenching, how disappointing, no matter how painful or soul destroying the sacrifice made, it was a choice.  It was a choice driven by a personal agenda that sacrificer had. They wanted a specific outcome and by giving up or doing _______ you fill in the blank, even when it was counterintuitive, they had their beady little eye on a prize. When the prize materialized, and or not, or people were not suitably grateful or chose to do something else, which flew in the face of the sacrifice etc.  Then the sacrificer regurgitates all that they have don

Upgrading your life can take many forms, and yet, the end result will always be a profound change within self.  The process of upgrading literally means that you have outgrown that which you currently have.  And more importantly, you have the conscious realization that it’s time for something new.  The new maybe similar, yet, it is something new.  Should you want to upgrade your life?  What if you love the life you are living and you don’t want anything to change?  How do I upgrade my life and what do I upgrade it to?  We’ll be exploring these questions and more in this week’s radio show/podcast.  Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expressions Expert , Healer and Law of Attraction Coach as we look at the importance of upgrading and ways in which to start the process.

For those of you on the journey of finding self, “it’s not what you know, it’s who you know” is a cold hard fact.  In truth, it’s not who you know, it’s how you apply what you know, to experience the conscious manifestation of what you want for your life.  You can have all the knowledge in the world, yet if it is not applied in the right way, it’s just knowledge. It’s a little like faith without works or inspired action, is dead.    The saying, “It’s not what you know, but it’s who you know” for many is a fact.  A vast majority of people from around the world are living their lives like this and don’t even realize it. And as a result, they continuously experience cyclic detriment.  Life’s good for a while and then kaboom they appear to be back to square one, left standing in the rubble wondering, “what the hell happened?” They are living a life that is one of total dependency and or inequitably interdependent on others for their success.    People have taken and cloaked themselves in this belief that someone

How many times did you hear this as a child from your parents, grandparents, teachers or siblings. or tell a child this as an adult, “don’t run with scissors in your hand.”   As kids, our guardians always instructed us not to run with glass, knives, sharp objects or scissors.  Why?  Because the potential to seriously injure self was a reality.  As adults you are running with a different kind of sharp object, but no less lethal.  Your running with people who don’t give a damn about you and have passed their expiration date.   Your running behind people who love themselves more than you love you, and they are happily using you for their life’s process. Your running with learnt behaviors that are creating planned obsolescence in your life.  Your running with emotional blocks that compromise your personal growth and ability to see what you want. You are running on the fumes of other people’s ignorance, beliefs, ideologies and bull shit that has the same potential to hurt you, just as if you are running with bro

Letting go of people, places and things, hurts, grudges and feuds is one of the greatest challenges you will ever face.  Why?  Because in some shape or form your needs, wants and desires have been minimized and then trampled into nothingness.  When you think you’re done, and over it, you fill in the blank, along comes a button pusher to check you, letting you know you are still firmly in its grasp.  So why can’t you just get over it?  Why can’t you let it go? The answer to that is simple; you are not done with the situation yet. Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach as we take a candid look at why we are holding on to stuff we need to let go.

The law of Attraction is a magnetic force of intention, which is made up of many, many laws.  The Law of Abundance invokes plenteousness in extremes.  How do you attract into your life money, health, good relationships, fame and all the things that you want? Part I of the process involves having a clearer understand of the Laws and how you can use them.  And part II is understanding how to hold the “space” so that what you desire can come into form. Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach as we take a deeper look into the law of attraction and manifesting abundance.

The word revision might have a tendency to conjure up thoughts of endless homework, looking at CliffsNotes or SparksNotes and or days and nights spent swotting for exams.  However, when used with the Laws of Attraction the art of revision will catapult your desired manifestation toward you.  When consciously revising situations and events that have occurred in your life, puts you in the unique position of being able to decode it, rewrite the script or at the very least not give it any more of your time or energy.  Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression & Laws of Attraction Coach as we explore ways to revise your life and the potential it has to support your conscious manifestation process.

Getting mental clarity for reasons you are making the decisions that you do can sometimes be supported by having the question “Why” answered.  Gaining the knowledge or knowing “why” has the ability to set you up in various ways, so that you can make a choice to move on or let go. Or it can hold you in bondage.  Knowing why, can provide understanding, which may or may not lead to clarity.  Just because you acknowledge something doesn’t mean you have true understanding of it.  In short “your why” can play a pivotal role in your choice making process.    However, it’s been my experience that many people become stuck in their lives because they feel they MUST know the answer to the question “why” before they can make another decision.  Yet, I know that not to be true.  To move forward, regardless of whether you know the answer to why is a choice.  What is most important it’s knowing what you want to do next.  Finding the answer to “why” simply brings, and I use these terms loosely, validation, understanding, c

Figuring out the message that your life’s situations are telling you, no matter how joyous or hurtful, is really a process of decoding.  For you, it will take practice not to continue to fall into a cycle of emotional highs and lows.  Your emotional roller coaster keeps your situations negatively or positively charged, which results in smoking mirrors, uncertainty and confusion.   And that can be a challenge when making choices in the best interest of self or making choices to manifest what you want.  You need objectivity!  Without objectivity it’s virtually impossible to decode your situation.  Your decoding process starts with being able to detach emotionally from your situation, yet remain involved enough to be connected.  As intrinsic coaches, we call this skill detached involvement.  Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert, and Laws of Attraction coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach as we explore the benefits of decoding your life’s situation.

In life there is always a price to pay.  The question is, ”Are you willing to pay that price for what you want?”  Many people when asked this question assume that payment is in the form of money.  Cold, hot, hard soft cash!  There is another form of currency and it’s called spiritual currency.  It represents the intangible energies that we trade  much like money represents the tangibles we trade in.  You don’t get something for nothing, even if it appears that way.  What are you willing to give to get what you want?   Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Olivia Lashley Expression Coach as we take a deeper look at the phenomenon of the Universal Law of Exchange.

Is there such a thing as Divine Intervention and if so what is it, and, better yet, can I have some?  Divine intervention is usually ascribed to a miraculous happening.  Something that defies scientific explanation and logic.  Yet, when witnessed or experienced, we as humans may not understand the mechanics of Divine Intervention, but at an intrinsic level, we get it.  We know it to be true.  So, how do we go about consciously creating Divine Intervention or miracles in our lives? Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Intrinsic Life Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression Coach and artist as we discuss you and Divine Intervention.

At some stage, we will all arrive at this point in our lives.  It’s the point where we are literally crying out to the Universal Creator to “fix it!”  Or for the answer to the question, “What must I do next?”  Very few of us make it through life, without hitting our preverbal emotional “brick” wall, or, spiraling down into our self created abyss.  It matters not whether you believe in God or something greater than self.   You see, whether you are a believer, atheist or agnostic when we are crying out into the ethos for HELP; for guidance, comfort, solace and peace, we are all alike.  We are looking to the Universal Supply for our salvation, or our solution.  We are wanting God or your chosen deity to “Fix It!”  The irony with this is in order for you to receive any help, divine or otherwise, you must have an idea of what you want. Solution and salvation are one in the same they are both found within the question and the problem. Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Olivia Lashley Expression Artist

It’s important to choose the people who you allow into your life, wisely and with great care.  They have the potential to influence your choices, therefore, influencing how you live your life.  The people who you currently mix and mingle with mirror back aspects of your inner beliefs as to who you are.  This doesn’t apply to friends; it applies to everyone in your life, including your family and nearest and dearest.  Do you like what you see when you look at the people in your life?  Is the relationship symbiotic?  Are your life stories filled with dramatic parallels and similarities?  Is this the adhesive that holds the relationship together?  The people in your life can show you four things, Where you’ve been.Where you are now.Where you don’t want to go.Where you can go. What are the people in your life showing you?    Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice and Laws of Attraction Coach & Expert  and Olivia Lashley Expression Coach & Artist as we explore you and the people in your life.