My Life My Choice

More often than not, we have a tendency to move through life, almost, as if we are flying by the seat of our pants or being dragged along. We find ourselves in situations and places that leave us trying to figure, “how did this happen? Or how did I get here?” In order for your life to manifest  the car, house, relationship, money, career, health etc., the way in which you want it to, you must first figure out what you want and then ask for it.  In life we don’t get what we want, we get what we believe.  This understanding is crucial for us to use our abilities  to consciously manifest what we want. Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne as we explore consciously getting what you want.

If your past is holding you back, you are haunting yourself.  If you are living in your past, you are haunting yourself.  If you are trying to change your past you are haunting yourself. If you are doing anything that doesn’t serve you and support you living at your highest potential you are living inside your head in a haunted house. To haunt means: to visit habitually or regularly. Is this you? Are you habitually visiting your past…on a regular basis? Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Intrinsic Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression Coach and Artist as we look at the ghosts that maybe holding you back.

This is a question that many people ask themselves, “Can my life be more abundant?” Typically, when people speak of abundance, they associate it with money and the things that money can bring.  In fact, most metaphysical/spiritual teachers teach from that perspective, for you to experience abundance you must have money.  Affluence is the monetary segment of the Abundance wheel, but by no means is it the greatest portion.  And this is where many people become stuck.  Not realizing that abundance is all things that matter to us and things we don’t even realize matter.  Dictionary.com states that the word abundance means extremely plentiful, copious amounts. It also is an infinite energetic supply to which we all have an account, debit card and checkbook.  Do you know what to do so your life can be more abundant?  Do you know how to use your debit card or how to write a Universal check?  Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne, Choice Expert and Intrinsic Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression Coach and Artist as we take our

The Universal Law of Judgement invokes your right to make an informed opinion based on your knowledge or passed experiences.  This opinion is used to support you in making decision. However, your opinion is yours and yours alone.  You having an opinion, doesn’t make it right.  Nor does it make it right for me or anyone else even if you think so.  In life, this is where things have gone radically wrong.  People will stand in judgement of others who do not embrace or share the same opinions.  As a result, wars have been fought, lives lost, relationships and families decimated.  Dreams unfulfilled and potential untapped and the greatest tragedy of all people leave this life saying, “if I wouldha, shouldha, couldha.”   It’s everyone’s divine right to judge.  This is how we weigh in and find balance, giving us the internal green light to make a choice. It’s not your right to pass judgement on anyone, but yourself.  Matthew 7 1:2 states this eloquently. “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. 2 For in the same w

Are you putting up and shutting up just to make it through another day?  If this is true for you then you need to map out your life.  Do you have a map of your life’s journey? If you don’t, you should.  Without a map you will undoubtedly find yourself in a place where you don’t want to be. Married to someone you shouldn’t be, working in a job you shouldn’t be, living beyond your means when you shouldn’t be, experiencing ill health when you shouldn’t be and generally unhappy with the life that you have lived and are living.  Are you putting up and shutting up? Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Intrinsic Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Personal Expression Expert and Intrinsic Laws of Attraction Coach as we look at why you need a personal inspired map as you journey through life. Visit the https://thelawsofattractioninaction.com

When things happen in our lives good and or bad, but in particular bad or traumatic, we have a tendency to view it from a negative standpoint.  Why me?  How could they?  How dare they? We allow our emotions to dictate how we respond.  And as a result, we perpetuate negativity in all areas of our lives which prevents our conscious expansion or spiritual growth.  When people do things to us with the intent that they are hurtful, mean spirited, cruel, abusive etc. we automatically assume it’s been done to us. Why because it’s an assault on our five senses.  We believe that people are working against us to achieve our end goal.  Using dark arts to hold us in bondage. They’re keeping us down or enslaved not allowing us the thrive.  Everything is not done with our betterment in mind.   Yet, as hard as this may be for you to believe, that simply isn’t true. Deuteronomy 32:29 See now that I, even I, am he, and there is no god with me: I kill, and I make alive; I wound, and I heal: neither is there any that can deli

In the blink of an eye our lives can become very complicated.  One moment everything is fine and the next it appears that everything has exploded into a million fragmented pieces. Many people struggle to create the lives they say they want to live, because, it’s complicated.  As a result of “it” being complicated, many people talk themselves into staying in relationships, marriages, homes, jobs, health protocols you name it.  In fact they talk themselves into doing many things that they really don’t want to do.  All of which are toxic, very toxic to the mind and body.  Your life being complicated has far reaching effects, which are impactful in both good and bad ways.  So how do you go about uncomplicating your life so you can live it to the fullest? Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Intrinsic Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression Coach and Artist as we look at ways to uncomplicate your life. For tutorials and other podcasts visit our website The Laws of Attraction In Action

It’s helpful having an understanding of how the Universal Laws of Attraction work together, whether you are wanting to use them consciously or not. The Laws of Attraction are natural Laws, Spiritual Laws, God’s Laws or your chosen deity’s Laws. These Laws are immutable and exacting by nature.  These two facts, immutable and exacting, say it all when it comes to the Universal Laws and how things unfold in our lives.   They, the Laws, exhibit the true meaning of detached involvement.  You see, the Laws are unemotional, unbiased and detached.  The Laws careless about gender, race, age, finances, good, bad, infirmities, diseases, disorders and believe it or not our spiritual or religious beliefs.  And yet, each Law individually and collectively are very, very much involved in our lives.   The Laws have one function and one function only.

There are usually multiple reasons why manifesting is uncertain. But, in the main it boils down to the violation of four Universal Laws: Polarity, Fixation/focus, Intention and Clarity.   Asking in the right way is the key to receiving what you want. The life that you want to live, the love that you want to experience. The health that you desire, the money that you want to have, the house, the car, family, friends, and anything else, is yours for the asking. Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Intrinsic Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression Coach and Art as we explore manifesting with certainty.

Many people find expressing themselves a challenge.  They don’t want to hurt anyone and they don’t want to be hurt themselves. Usually, what needs to be said is caught up with highly charged emotion and deep seated feelings, which, can prove to be unhelpful.  We have a tendency to wait until a gasket is ready to blow and then purge, venting and expressing in a way that is hurtful to us and the person(s) we are addressing. Expressing yourself doesn’t require you being angry or building anger to give yourself Dutch courage.  It requires that you are clear about what you want to say, and what outcome you want to experience, bearing in mind that the only person you can control is yourself.  Effective communication starts with you. Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Olivia Lashley Expression Coach & Artist as we explore expressing yourself.

Time travel as portrayed on the silver screen usually starts out well, but is fraught with problems.  And as the main characters achieve their desired goals of putting something they believe that needs to be put right, and or preventing something from happening, another disaster befalls them.  It’s almost like plugging a leak only to have five more spring up that a bigger and badder than the first one.  Many people spend a tremendous amount of time and energy imagining what they would have done differently.  Most don’t realize that spending their energy and passion in this way is going to manifest things that they don’t want verses what they do want.  Spending time trying to turn back the hands of time creates new situations that are unwanted.  Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Intrinsic Life Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression Coach and Artist as we look at turning back the hands of time.

How well do you know you?  This is a burning question that needs to be answered, if you want to use the Laws of Attraction, with conscious awareness, to get what you want in life. It’s all too easy to rattle off your dislikes and likes.  Pet peeves, what makes you laugh and or cry and what has the power to scare you to death.   You know the rhythm of music that moves your soul and touches you at an energetic healing level.  And without exception you know what inspires you to higher heights.  With an intimacy of self that no one can ever have, you know and have clear understanding of your idiosyncrasies, the things that make you, quintessentially, you.  However, there is so much more to you than what life is reflecting back to you.  How well you know yourself and understand your intrinsic abilities and how to use them will denote how well you can play the game of life, thereby manifesting exactly what you want.  So, how well to you know you, your latent talents and secret gifts. Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne

It has been said that patience is a virtue.  Attractioners, it is so much more than that.  It’s the difference between you getting what you want and not getting what you want.  The Universal Law of Patience supports the ability to choose a specific action or reaction to an anticipated manifestation.  In short, you get to choose how you will behave until the thing that you desire comes into tangible form.  Patience is all about your ability to choose to be in the flow with tolerance and understanding. The Universal Law of Patience supports you in maintaining your “faith in the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.”  Hebrews 11:1.  The Universal Laws are like a gigantic jig saw puzzle, they have a design and flow that fits seamlessly together unlike anything the human eye can perceive.  The Universal Laws are all interconnected.  Without faith, there is no belief.  Without belief, there can be no manifesting of the things that you are wanting to experience in life. Join me Dr. Wendy

“The reason the Father loves Me is that I lay down My life in order to take it up again. 18: No one takes it from Me, but I lay it down of My own accord. I have authority to lay it down and authority to take it up again. This charge I have received from My Father.” John 10:17-18 It’s time to take control of what is yours to control. We as a people, have, for too long allowed others to dictate our fates. From our health to wealth; from our growth and spiritual understanding to our personal connection to the Divine. We have even been controlled in  the way in which we choose to express ourselves.  What we eat, how we dress, how we talk, and how we think.  As a result we find ourselves in a position in which we have forgotten how powerful we are. We have forgotten that we are the co-creators and the orators of the lives that we are living.  We have forgotten God’s Universal Laws which applies to everything in the heavens and earth. It’s time to take your life back!  Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert a

You may have asked yourself this question once or twice in your life or one hundred times, “who is in control of my life?”  You usually go there when you are determined to accomplish a goal that has been fraught with setbacks.  Or when life has taken you to the abyss and is spiraling out of control. How much control do you have over your life and do you know what that control is? Most people aren’t even aware that their lives are manifesting based on the subplots and counterplots that they are running.  You can take control of your life.  However, in order to do that you must understand the Universal Law of Engagement so that you can work within that paradigm.   Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Intrinsic Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression Coach and Artist as we look at who is really in control of your life.

Life is nothing if not a recipe. Your choices for your life are the ingredients for the recipe of your life.  Your clarity of the end result or what you want to manifest or happen in your life will determine the choices you make.  And the Universal Laws of Attraction can help you to create with intent and perfection every time.    Let’s use cake making as your metaphor of life.  You need eggs, butter, sugar and flour as the basic ingredients for your pound cake. To that, depending on what you want the end product to taste like, you can add essences, fruit, alcohol, sour cream, nuts and veggies etc.   There are always ingredients necessary for anything that you are putting together.  If you are baking a pound cake you wouldn’t use liver, heart, kidneys or meat.  However, you could choose to use tallow or lard instead of butter, thus, greatly impacting taste, texture, smell and final outcome.  Your life is like creating your favorite recipe or singing the harmonic lyrics to your all time favorite song.  How doe

The term success is relative to who you are, and basically, what you feel or see success as being.  Remember the old adage, “One Man’s Meat Is Another Man’s Poison?” This is how relative success is.  But what isn’t relative is when you choose to allow something that has happened in your past to block you from achieving your desired goals.  What’s crazy is that what’s blocking you is almost always attributed to one thing.  While it might not appear that way, it is.  Whether large or small the wall that you have thrown up has imprisoned you.  Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Intrinsic Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression Coach and Artist as we look at how to get back on track.

In last week’s episode of My Life My Choice we discuss the elements needed in “Starting My Life Over?”  In Part II we are going to explore taking your “atomic” word, that’s the one word that sums everything up that you are going through to the next level. This creates a personalized supportive manifesting dynamic.  The precursor to “consciously” getting what you want in life is making the right choice.  To make the right choice you need to know with clarity what you want. Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Intrinsic Coach and Olivia Lashley as we look at taking your self talk to the next level. live by clicking link  or call in on 646-727-2759 you can download free podcast at iTunes http://apple.co/2qTTCgS 

When your life comes to a grinding halt it’s usually associated with the loss of someone or something.  The feelings of loss could be as a result of a death, a divorce, a drifting away.  Out growing people, places and things or the thing that fit so perfectly before is no longer a good fit.  Whatever the cause your reaction is one in which you have experienced loss.   In the pain of that loss you have reacted in a way that it has shut you off or shut you down.   The fact that you are still breathing means that there is still life left in you, and although you may be down you are not out.  As long as you are physically breathing, life will gather momentum and demand that you consciously participate in the direction you want to go in.  So how do you start your life over again?  Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Intrinsic Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression Coach and Artist as we look at starting over.

Join us live by clicking the link http://bit.ly/2pImhrO or by calling in 646-727-2759 Everything that happens in our lives, including the if I wouldha, shouldha and couldha’s is supplying us with life changing information. This information is used as a foundation from which we base many things, including, but not limited to our emotional responses to life, but ultimately the choices we choose to make. There are times in your life where you may have flown off the handle or become unglued about a seemingly minor incident. Even you, after calming down, find yourself saying, “Wow! That was a little OTT (over the top). Umm I guess I’m more stressed out than I thought I was.” Your physical, mental or emotional auto-response, to any given situation supplies you with a live stream of intelligence. This creates a wonderful dynamic in which you get to use your response to find clarity for your choice making process. So what are you really trying to tell yourself by the action and reaction you have to life? Join me,