My Life My Choice

In our lives, to varying degrees, we will experience states of utter confusion, total lack of organization and general order. When this occurs in your life, you’ve experienced chaos.  Chaos can show up in minor ways, like the small junk draw in the back of your garage.  It can also show up in larger ways, like your closets that a filled to overflowing with outdated clothing.  And then it can present itself in epic ways, where you have become paralyzed, you’re literally frozen in place and unable to have a meaningful and coherent inner conversation with self.  This results in you being unable to make a choice in the best interest of self; and the cycle just keeps getting bigger and bigger.  Chaos has the ability to undermine you in many ways.  The obvious is not achieving your desired manifestation.  But the unobvious is far more sinister and detrimental to your overall wellbeing. Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert, Clarity and Laws of Attraction In Action Coach as we look at the role chaos plays in ou

Finding you, that’s who, and what you are, shouldn’t be an ah ha moment experienced on your death bed.  Although, it could be argued, better late than never.   Finding yourself is to know yourself at a conscious authentic level, and then choosing an authentic life even if it goes against the grain of what everybody believes you must do.  You’re lost because you are not doing what is authentically right for you. You are not living your truth.  And the TRUTH will always come out, because that is what truth is created to do…find its perfect expression…through you.  Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert, Clarity and Laws of Attraction Coach as we look at feeling lost and what to do about it. Click here to download your contrasts and paralell worksheet To visit website click here Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Thelawsofattractioninaction/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Drwendydearbornecc Vimeo: https://vimeo.com/drwendydearborne Twitter: https://twitter.com/wendydearborne Instagra

In order for you to have something new come into your life, what has gone before must die.  This is one of the biggest challenges that many people face because they don’t want to let go.  Letting go is key in your ability to manifest what you want for your life.  From health to wealth and everything in between. When you look at the life cycles of a butterfly, you can witness from conception to birth what has to take place to make that happen...for the butterfly to be born.  It goes through changes.  Change literally means to make the form of something different for what it would be if left alone.  Metamorphosis is needed for you to manifest anything in life. Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Clarity and Laws of Attraction Coach as we look at some of the challenges we face when consciously manifesting our lives. Visit The Laws of Attraction In Action for more information

Many people have a hard time justifying why they have taken a certain action, especially when it goes against the grain of their moral fiber.  Reconciling the action is a confusing challenge because it doesn’t mesh with their ethics, nor is it a part of their intrinsic belief.  It doesn’t belong in their culture, up bringing or religious or spiritual doctrines.  And this is not who they are showing up in the world as, and yet still, they have done the deed.  You see this exhibited as addictions of all types from food, to sex to drugs to shopping and everything in between.  It demonstrates itself as abuse to self and others, anti-social behaviors, even culminating in murder.  What is it that can have this action on people?  In a word, “DESIRE!” It is a powerful medium that can compel anyone including you to do things that you can’t believe you are doing.  Many people have fallen into the trap of desire only to realize that their lives have been irrevocably changed...and usually not for the better.  The Univers

Your ability to choose, is without a doubt, the most powerful energy that you will ever control.  Choice, much like DNA, are the building blocks that give physicality to everything created inside and outside of your life. Choice is the power upon which the Universe is created. The first law in the Universal Laws of Attraction is choice.  It’s a natural law, a spiritual law, manmade law and it IS God’s Law.  Nothing can and will happen in your life, good or bad, without you first making a choice.  More often than not our choices appear to be circuitous, but the reality is, they are not.  You’ve experienced and are experiencing what you are going through, because of choices you have made in the past or in the present.   Don’t get this confused with the feelings of rightness or wrongness of the results experienced.  Attractioners, right or wrong is an emotional call – and that too is a choice!   The Universal Law of Choice the creative force that set into motion all things.  This energy isn’t a respecter of your

When we want what we want, many people do what they must do, to get it, even if it means cutting corners.  As human beings the desire to have a specific experience within a relationship, with people, places and things creates an interesting dynamic for playing “the discount game.”  If you’ve ever felt that you have been taken for granted, you’ve experienced being discounted.  If you’ve used someone for your own agenda at their expense, you’ve discounted that person.  And if you go back and forth doing the above, you’ve entered into “the discount game.” There is nothing wrong with cutting people a little slack sometimes.  We all need it and we all can give it.  However, discounting is totally different and the ramifications are nothing short of disastrous.  It creates a silent chaos within that erupts into a towering uncontrollable volcano.  Like I said the ramifications are disastrous. Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne, Choice and Clarity Expert and Coach as together we explore discounting your feelings and oth

Life is always moving and as a result of that events are continuously unfolding or manifesting.  Some will be to your liking and others will not.  This is the natural order of life with is dualities and polarities that are required for us to consciously and unconsciously manifest.  One of the most powerful positive attributes you can acquire is to always make the choice to find the win-win in every situation.  There is always a “learning” or a takeaway from every situation that you can apply to your life, for the betterment of your life. Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne as I explore this powerful phenomenon and be sure to checkout https://thelawsofattractioninaction.com for blogs, webinar and video tutorials.

I want a divorce.  You’re fired!  You have 8 weeks to live.  Wow, that smoke I saw was my house burning to the ground.  You don’t qualify.  Your too white, too black, too fat, too skinny, too tall, too short, too smart, too dumb, too young, too old.  You’re too critical, too much, too understanding, too negative etc.  You will always be too something for someone.  Life has been likened to a game and in order to play the game of life, you must understand the Universal Laws and the rules of engagement.   But what happens when you’re playing the game of your life and someone changes the rules, conveniently, forgetting to tell you, until you are standing in front of your goalposts, which they have so inconveniently moved.  What happens to your life then.  Are they plotting against you?  Is it a conspiracy? Can you get your old life back?  Are you being given a message?  Did you create this situation? Genesis 50:20 “As for you, what you intended against me for evil, God intended for good, in order to accomplish a

Understanding the function of your subconscious mind is a powerful key that helps you get what you want in life.  Your subconscious mind operates just like the hard drive found on your PC or the OS or IOS iPhone Operating System on your mobile phone, tablets and iPads.  Your subconscious mind doesn’t get the punch line of a joke, understand slang, sarcasm, colloquialisms or rhetorical talk.  It only understands what you tell it, verbatim.  It only takes action to manifest what you tell it to do.  There are several ways to communicate directly with your subconscious mind; talking directly to yourself with intention.  Through unchecked self-talk and runaway thoughts and what you believe and or are passionate about. When communicating with your subconscious mind you must be very specific. Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction In Action Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach as we look at you and the power of your subconscious mind.

Nuance what it is and what does it mean for your life?  Nuance:  It’s a subtle difference and a distinction in the expression of your meaning.  Next to lack of self-discipline, understanding the nuances of your thoughts, speech, actions and deeds is the second reason why people are unable to manifest what they want in life.  What you believe is what you receive.  This is a fundamental Law and it is unchangeable.  Today, we are going to be exploring “nuances” and how using them unintentionally can leave you standing in the rubble of your life.  Your left wondering, how the hell did I get here? Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach as we explore what this means for you. Visit our website: https://thelawsofattractioninaction.com Join our Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/Thelawsofattractioninaction/

The word negative and negate come from the same Latin root: negativus, which means to deny, refute, refuse and or subtract. In today’s world, negative translates to someone who has a disposition that just brings everything down.  They detract or subtract from any circumstance by not adding anything of value. The irony is negative people, conditions or circumstances that show up in your life, are doing so because you have brought them there. The Universal Law of Negativity is designed to show you contrasts and parallels.  The Law of Negativity plays a key role in your ability to find clarity using your sense of what feels good to you verses what doesn’t.  This is all done so you have an opportunity to make conscious choices that are in the best interest of self.    It also shows you how powerful your thoughts are.    “For the thing which I greatly feared is come upon me, and that which I was afraid of is come unto me. Job 3:25. Your thoughts become tangible things in your life.  Your thoughts become your

When people are asked, are you prepared to pay the price for anything, most think in monetary terms.  Paying the price for what you want in life is really about you, your spirituality and using your spiritual currency.  While he didn’t coin the phrase, Dr. Joseph Murphy states, “there are no free lunches.”  And it’s true.  There is a cost for everything that you do…even breathing!  So, with that in mind are you prepared to pay the spiritual cost using your spiritual coin from your invisible bank for what you want. Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach as we explore what paying the price to get what you want means. Email: drwendy@itsmylifemychoice.com

Wherever you find yourself, whatever your current circumstance is, you have co-created this by the choices you have made. By the words that you have spoken, by the actions that you have taken and the deep-seated feeling you hold within your heart.  This is one of the hardest realities for people to accept; that they are the co-creators of what has, and, is transpiring in their lives.   What makes this hard to accept, is that people look at their circumstances in terms of the end result, then assigning their emotional seal of right, wrong and blame.   Many people feel that to take ownership of their life and the part that they have played in getting to their current circumstance, is to condone behaviors, attitudes and action that have been perpetrated against them.  This is so far from the truth.  You have a part in where you end up in your life on a daily basis.  Your part in the co-creation of your life is driven by your choices, which are your deep-seated subconscious desires, also known as the desires of

Love, is it what we think it is or is there more to this word?  Throughout the years the word love has somehow morphed into a term that is colloquially used to describe the depth of our feelings.  From, “I love you to I’m not so in love with that,” and everything in between.  Based on where the word love falls within a phrase or sentence, along with intonation, body language and facial expressions it will tell you what the person is really saying.    The Universal Law of Love, isn’t so much about how passionate or compassionate we feel about people places and things, as much as it is about the ability of a certain type of energy being able to transform energy. The Universal Law of Love is what transforms and or transmutes everything.  Love is the energy of change.  It has nothing to do with turning the other cheek or even being nice, dutiful, helpful, caring, kind and all the other phrases we like to attach the word love to.  Besides, being nice, helpful, kind etc. is subjective.  Love is the binding force o

We are not alone.  We have never been and never will be.  There is help, support, guidance and wise counsel for everyone.  There is so much more happening in our lives than where we find ourselves at this moment.  Throughout the ages there have been raging debates, that continues to this day, as to whether or not angels and spirit guides are real.  Are these heavenly beings’ figments of our imagination or just the stuff that mythological legends are made of?  Interestingly, all cultures and denomination tell of angels in their spiritual texts. We have all incarnated into this current existence with our own personal posse.  That’s right, our very own celestial entourage that has been picked to support us in fulfilling our destine purpose.   My suggestion is before you categorically say no, do your own due diligence.  Do this by examining, with detached objectivity magical or miraculous events or feats that have occurred in your life.  Things that you know that have happened to you that defy reason, logic and a

In today’s show we are going to be talking about changing our dialog and creating the perfect scenario for hearing your inner voice. One of the most important things you do in life is talk to yourself.  You talk to yourself 24 hours a day, 365 days a year, and believe it or not, from before you enter into this life and after you leave it. Talk, talk, talk!  You are always talking to yourself.  If you stop to think about this fact, and it is a fact, it will tell you how important your self-talk is.  The internal conversations you have create the reality that you live in.  You want a different reality, then change your self-talk.  Only you can do this.  No one can do this for you. In this high-tech world we live in, it can be hard to hear your inner voice.  But that doesn’t mean your inner voice isn’t speaking to you.  What this means is that you need to create the optimal scenario to silence the outer world and go within. Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne, Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction In Action Coach a

In life, we want our loved ones to be happy, whole, capable and complete.  We want to see them healthy, wealthy and wise, living a life that's a pure joy to behold and inspiring to be a part of.  However, in the real world it can be gut wrenching watching as their lives unfold one crisis after another.  Wanting what you want for them and trying to make them do your bidding, no matter how forcefully or gently it’s put across, usually leads to the dissolution of relationships and friendships.  The bottom line is this, I can’t want something that I deem best for you to happen in your life, and expect it to happen, if you don’t want the same thing too.  You, must want it too.  Ask any parent or guardian if this is not a bonified fact. We spend an enormous amount of time coaxing, cajoling, pleading, blackmailing, bargaining etc., people we love to do our so called, “right-thinking” bidding.  Why?  Because we feel, based on our personal experiences and our knowledge of them that we know what’s best for them.  The

We live our lives based on our version of our truth…and that’s all we can do.  People live their lives base upon their version of their truth…and that’s all they can do.  However, we spend an inordinate amount of time everyday trying to make someone else’s truth ours or trying to make someone believe and take on the mantel of our truth.  There is no right or wrong to this, it just is.  But as a result, we spend far too much time on things that don’t matter, verses living a purpose filled life.  The Universal Law of Truth:  Speaks to the real essence of who you are and what your belief system is foundered on.  Truth is an immutable fact that cannot be changed, yet it can, and is built upon. Your truth is your self-authentication and will always be looking for expression. Life will continue to create situations that encourage you to express your authentic truth.  By expressing your authentic truth, you inadvertently, give others permission to show up and express their authentic truth too. Join me Dr. Wendy Dea

When you are playing your game of life the ideal way to play it is with no limits! The life that you are living today, is the back bone of the future that you will experience tomorrow.  Whatever limits you impose on your life today will manifest in your life tomorrow.  It's really as simple as that.  We have a tendency to over complicate our lives and get caught up with the "emotions" of the game instead of how we are playing the game.  So how do you live a limitless life within the limitations of the life that you are living?  Is that even possible? Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction In Action coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach as we explore the limitlessness of limits.  Click here for more on the Laws of Attraction In Action and how to use it to manifest what you want in life.

  Most people are striving to live the life that they say they want, and yet, for many this proves to be illusive. And for others wanting to live their dream life is downright unattainable.   Most people don’t understand the Universal Laws, God’s Laws, Spiritual Laws and the nuances associated with them.  And as a result, they’re imagining things, thinking things, saying things and doing things that disrupt their ability to manifest what they want.  They are still working in DOS when new and innovative platforms have been created.  So, why aren’t you living your dream life with your dream man or woman, dream kids, house, dream cat or dog, dream purpose, career, car, friends, health, body etc.?  If the answer to my question is “you don’t know, and you really don’t know, verses you don’t want to know,” perhaps it’s a spiritual nuance, a simple little nuance within the Laws of Attraction that you’ve overlooked or didn’t know about that needs to be addressed.  The Universal Creator, known to me as God has give