Sex Talk With Lou

My guest is a long time colleague and friend. Dr. Chris Kraft and I are currently on the Leadership Council for Program in Human Sexuality at U of Minnesota. Chris is a licensed psychologist and AASECT certified sex therapist specially trained to achieve pragmatic and solution-oriented results for couples and individuals. His goal is to improve each person's happiness as it relates to their sexual intimacy, expression and identity. Dr. Kraft specializes in the evaluation and treatment of all sexual and gender conditions: low sexual desire, erection, orgasm and arousal difficulties, genital pain conditions, sexual addiction and compulsivity, internet pornography, marital infidelity, sexual orientation, cross dressing, gender concerns, and other unique fetishes and sexual attractions. Dr. Kraft is the co director of clinical services and instructor at the Sexual Behaviors Consultation Unit in the Department of Psychiatry at the Johns Hopkins School of Medicine. Dr. Kraft is also a part-time Lecturer in th

I am so excited to welcome a star peer in our field - Carol Queen. Her creds follow and they are impressive but it is her personality that is even better. A mentor, a teacher, a researcher and a museum founder all in the arena of sexuality. An award-winning author, activist and sex educator with a PhD in sexology, Dr. Carol Queen has been a part of Good Vibrations since 1990. She currently serves as both Staff Sexologist and Curator of the Antique Vibrator Museum at Good Vibrations in San Francisco (www.goodvibes.com). She represents Good Vibes to the public and the press. Honored for her body of work and her immeasurable contributions to sexual wellness and awareness, she received the inaugural AVN “O” Award for Outstanding Achievement in 2009. Queen is the author or editor of eleven books about sex, including Exhibitionism for the Shy, Real Live Nude Girl: Chronicles of Sex-Positive Culture, and PoMoSexuals. She is the co-founder and executive director of The Center for Sex & Culture (www.sexandcul

Welcome to my internet living room!!! You get to be a fly on the wall while I get to dish about all things sexual with Emily Morse, Relationship Expert & Co-host on Bravo's Miss Advised. This is my idea of real fun!!!! We'll talk about what we see are trends in sexual behaviors, our wackiest questions, following my Heroes show last week who are hers. What had her chose this field? What has she learned about herself on Miss Advised. No subject will be off limits so if you have a burning question dail our call in digits, 877-864-4869 Emily Morse is a sex & relationship expert, author, talk show host & Bravo TV star. She is the host of Sex With Emily, a radio show and podcast about sex, relationships and everything in between. Listen to the show on demand at SexWithEmily.com , through itunes or Friday nights on Sirius/XM Satellite radio. As a “sexpert,” Emily is known for her non-judgmental advice, accessibility and humor. Emily launched the Sex with Emily radio show and podcast in 2005 b

This week's Assignment - 1) List Your Heroes. 2) Explain why you are grateful they are in your life. 3) What are the gifts you are giving forward from them? Last week Amy Byer who handles my social media asked me to consider writing out a list of who my heroes are. That had my brain start sorting and shifting on who is a hero and how does one become someone's hero? As I started my list it surprised me what the themes were. Then today one the English speaking world's top motivational speakers Zig Zigler died and for anyone who is a student of motivation and personal development he is a godfather to the field. It had me look at why did I chose particular people. Lord knows here in California we have ALL kinds of motivational speakers and yet I have found many of them do not walk their talk. I'll talk about those that have supported my career and my life's journey.

My guest this evening is Sandra Daugherty. http://sexnerdsandra.com A passionate sex educator based in Los Angeles, her irreverent humor and quirky love for details has given rise to her moniker, Sex Nerd Sandra. So how does one become a sex nerd and what does a sex nerd do??? We'll cover all those details and how Sandra started in the field. Just as there is a range of sexual appetites and desires there is a growing variety and range of sex educators devoloping to match those varying populations. Sandra is the resident sex blogger on Chris Hardwick’s Nerdist.com. She also works & teaches at The Pleasure Chest in Los Angeles and coaches individuals. She has been seen on, “Keeping Up with the Kardashians,” and the pilot episode of “The Wanda Sykes Show.” She has also lent a voice to both Playboy and Spice Radio. Often, Sandra is asked, “Why sex education?” to which she shrugs, “I can’t help it.” Since the first time 9-year-old little Sandra told a friend how babies were made (with anatomically-so

Dr.Linda Mona is a cherished colleague in our mutual field of sexual health. Truly she is my go-to person about sexuality and disability. From panels and hands on breakout sessions for severly injured OEF and OIF soldiers to Disability Conferences to "LInda what's new ?' Linda is my go-to girl. So let's jump into what is the definition of a disability: can be a range of things from someone with a bad hip, to chronic arthritis issues, sight impairments, respiratory issues, mobility issues they are all a part of reduced physical function HOWEVER that in no way means that one need to have reduced sexual function. Advocating for the sexual rights and expression of people with disabilities has been the primary focus of Dr. Linda R. Mona’s career. She has worked in a variety of professional settings addressing the need for a deeper understanding of the sexual lives of people with disabilities. Specifically, she has assisted with increasing appropriate educational and clinical services available to people with

Olga Cohen went into full fledged menopause at the age of 43, as a new bride, complete with unpleasant mood swings and extreme hot flashes. She'd tried hormone replacement for ten years, but stopped after the bad press about the health complications associated with hormone replacement. She could not believe how, almost immediately, so many symptoms returned. Worse, she had a terrible new symptom: painful vaginal dryness. She started researching solutions for the problem, and she could not find anything in the market that offered long term results. Luckily, after decades in the cosmetics industry as the owner of a manufacturing company, she had knowledge and access to many natural ingredients. After having a conversation with Dr. Leo Galland, an intergrated medical doctor, she tried using GLA several times a week -- squeezing the oil directly into the vagina. It took about a month and then she started noticing a difference. The results were dramatic: a complete end to the dryness. When she visited her gynec

I met Jodi and sister Jen at the International Lingerie Show in Las Vegas September, 11th. At any show I look for what's new that I can guide people to try. 'Do It Naturally" is there two companies attitude and they walk their talk. Good, non-toxic, sex products are rare especially in the crowded market segment of lubricants and body lotions. Well much to my delight I walked into the Sierra Sage corner booth and discovered a treat!!!! Earth friendly, Never Tested on Animals, 100% Organic, product line for sex created by three women with heart and intention. Jodi has a Master's in Health Psychology, her sister Jen is a midwife and herbalist. These ladies along with t heir mother and husbands are building the Burt's Bees in the arena of intimacy, sexuality enhancing products.Check out their Tingly Mint, AKA The Baby Maker lubricant. www.sierrasageherbs.com, info@sierrasageherbs.com.

The Chemistry Between Us attempts to do what no other book has done: present a grand unified theory of how love, sex, and human social bonding is created in our brains, how that creation drives our behavior, and to place these mechanisms into social, historical and even political contexts. Provocative, opinionated, and written with humor and insight for the lay reader, The Chemistry Between Us offers answers to some of the most tumultuous, joyous, heart-breaking, questions every one of us faces at some time in our lives, and asks us to consider the broader social impact of molecular events in our heads. What makes two people, strangers before meeting for the first time, conclude that they not only would like to, but must, spend the rest of their lives together? What could happen inside the brain of a sober, responsible, married man, a federal judge, to enable him to carry a loaded pistol while buying drugs for his stripper paramour? How could male violence relate to the brain chemistry of love? Why would a

My guest Tiffany York, Founder & CEO of Fixsation, did what any great entrepreneur does, she saw a need in the couples' intimacy market and took immediate action to create a solution. She wanted a non-insertive vibe made with all the right component parts that couples could use together during intercourse. Nothing to interrupt the connection, hands free no remotes just the two of them. Voila - The FIXSATION was born. Tiffany's dilemma was to address couple's reaching orgasm together. Not from a performance place but from an enjoyment place. Busy parents and working couples have their regular love making eclipsed by 'duties'. The Fixsation is a 1/2 inch thick ovoid disc shaped vibe, take your ring and index finger and make a slightly open circle, its silky smooth surface has ridges in just the right spots. Held in place by a very hot lace strap panty all you need to decide is which of the 5 vibe settings you prefer and the panty size. Charging is a user friendly UBS port. You and your partner can f

Her show OFF THE RECORD last week about long term affairs had me reach out to host Judy Schriener. I hear about affairs and fooling around every day and sometimes they surface in a relationship and sometimes they don't. As an award winning business journalist, ever curious about how people think, she did research on why men cheat. She found that the reason men cheat isn't always a simple 1-2-3 formula of opportunity. She found there are as many reasons as there are individuals. eg) "I'm entitled to it I make all the money." So are there benefits to affairs? Does one fling lead to another? Do partners leave their relationships and marriages? We'll discuss female and male cheating, same thing or different? Does who makes the money impact cheating..I think so. Are there winners? Ashley Madison as a cultural touch stone. Judy's anecdotes will both entertain and educate you on the business world affair.

The Olympics epitomizes excellence in ideals in attitudes and in bodies. My guest Michele Cameron was Gold Medalist 1988 Seoul Synchronized Pairs and originally I wanted an insider's view on "So how much sex does go on at the Olympic Village?" Michelle's comment she didn't know she swam on the last day so was so focused she never even saw other athletes. Then I realized I wanted Michelle to share her story and how that Olympic passion and burn has fueled and been transformed into the drive behind creating her company Gold Medal Inspirations and her children's foundation, "A Gift of Love." We'll talk about the ups and downs and how the darkest often is just before a break through. Married to fellow Olympian Al Coulter and mom of four terrific children. www.goldmedalinspirations.com

The Sexual Positions and Attitudes of Fifty Shades - the best and how to make them yours. Anastaia and Christian are very active and you can get some ideas from them especially about their willingness to learn and expand what they don't know. Then my guest and colleague Emily Prior of the Center for Positive Sex will discuss the real Kink, BDSM lifestyle. 50 Shades got some things right and others not. BDSM/KINK 101 FYI Ana and Christian never had a true 'scene', they played. We'll discuss best resources, ideas, and techniques to get your kinky sex set and on its way for erotic power play. www.positivesexuality.org

The cultural impact of this trilogy has just started to surface. Movie, product lines, music CDs. In essence it is a love story, Harlequin Romance meets kinky sex. Honestly that doesn't give you the range of nuanced and in depth material EL James has packed into her books. I mean let's be serious I know the world of sexuality and I write books. This was a LOL highly enjoyable read for me, and one I almost didn't do. I thought 'Oh I can avoid reading it, nope couldn't happen. I have two projects and I need to KNOW what's in these books. Devotees expect it. What vanilla can learn from kink. What the BDSM world really is like. What is effective about how Ana and Christian communicate, their range of toys, the eroticism of power exchange play. The sub has all the power. Next week I'll go into depth about the positions and talk with Emily Prior of the Center for Positive Sexuality about the kink, BDSM world. Why people are captivated by it.

How does astrology help people find/keep love? What can they learn about why they are single? 1. Timing – there are seasons of love and seasons of loneliness 2. Compatibility – that magical “wow” feeling you want with someone (this may be great, but the person may be a bad partner) 3. Relationship capacity – the ability to be a good partner – this may be missing, in SPITE of amazing compatibility (and we’ve all been there!) 4. Late bloomers in love” – half of the population isn’t successful at partnering until they’re in their LATE thirties and beyond… and this is SUCH A RELIEF to people and encourages them to NOT quit! 5. Single Archetypes-revealed by the stars that – once understood and addressed can be OVERCOME. Check out www.rightmanreport.com. and you'll find Carols' FREE e-book, “Becoming The Woman Your Dream Man Wants.”

FINALLY a book that delivers THE TALK about peri-menopause, menopause and all things associated with it. Ellen Dolgen is that investigative girlfriend who fearlessly and methodically sorted through the confusing morass of information about this most natural of female transitions. This information is delivered by a woman who is so methodical and meticulous about every aspect of her life she even sorts and organizes all her drawers. You'll find the carefully organized information chapters are so user friendly, with easy to understand definitions, that this will become your go-to bible for all things about your Shmirishky...your vagina in transition. She has read the books, ALL the books, the studies, she has visited many, many physicians, the endocrinologists, and researched the sites and blogs. While researching she then asked every woman she knew, who would talk about her peri-menopausal and menopausal experiences. This revolutionary information is delivered in a go-to-girlfriend style whether it is expl

Imagine taking a retreat that has the potential to change your entire life. Claes Lilja of International Brotherhood Retreats does just that for men who are HIV+. Blending his background of life coaching, guided mediation training, Enneagram expertise Claes structures a program in the Poconos region so these men can experience their own transformations in mind, body and soul. Facebook: Bro Therhood Twitter http://twitter.com/PozRetreat

"This book Inside the Wall will be more useful to seekers on the path than Autobiography of a Yogi because it is so down-to-earth; Megan honestly, authentically presents her seeking." Paramahansa Nithyananda....... I have always loved lives that follow their passion and Megan Bishop-Scott's life is a testament to following heart and intuition. Tonight we will hear her life's and her family's history of soul mates from two completely separate worlds, in her case privileged western Canadian blonde and a homeless black vet who meet and fall in love on Venice Beach. Her passion for writing and stories has fueled her life, from Canada to US to India and beyond. Her book Inside The Wall details her life, with John Warner Scott, their son Esah. Existence has guided her entire life and lead her to her next level of enlightment as a ashramite

Dr. Diana Wiley and I will be Looking at singles and dating. Commitment issues…recognizing patterns in relationship being scared,inappropriate partners. Women pursuing men…what women need to pay attention to (posture, eye-contact, etc.), chemistry, need vs want, etc. What do men really want? Yes, they want sex, but many also want to enhance the emotional relationship Studies show that the odds of a man being happy in a relationship increased by a factor of three if he snuggled up regularly! Passive aggression a relationship spoiler avoid it!

So How Bright is Your Future in Sex? Betsy Crane Ph.D., Professor and former Director of Human Sexuality Graduate Program at Widener University, PA will discuss the explosive growth of people seeking graduate degrees in the field of sexuality. One of only two nationally accredited institutions, in the last five years the Widener Program has grown from 30 students to 100 entering in fall of 2012 making a student body of 200+ students. Who are these students and what are their career paths? What are they focused on and what knew bodies of research are they creating? What drives them to pursue this field. Medical schools aren't training doctors about human sexuality so these students may hold a key to better sexual health programs in institutions. We'll discuss research on gender roles and the bio/social/psych considerations that impact all studies and learning about sexuality.