Sex Talk With Lou

Patti Britton,Ph.D., MPH, co-founder of Sex Coach University is a nationally board certified clinical sexologist and former President of AASECT the largest certifying group for the sexual health and therapy professionals. She'll share highlights from last week's national conference in Austin. Our field is exploding as more people realize the importance of our sexual health as a crucial part of our over all health. Sex isn't just penises and vaginas and orgasms. Look at aasect.org to see career ideas and professionals in your area.

This is an often requested recording of my 2010 Society for the Study of Sexuality-Western Region Symposium. I share my Entrepreneurial Tips and Lessons that have helped my create a worldwide business in the area of sexuality Eduction. AND these lessons apply to all areas of business. Before choosing to focus on sexuality my area of expertise was Manners, Etiquette and Deportment and believe me good manners are an essential business tool. I discuss 32 different Entrepreneurial Lessons and Tips that helped me build my international business.

Monogamy - Do You, Don't You? Whose definition do you use? A recent paper on monogamy by a biomathematician at U of Tennessee had me look at monogamy from a number of viewpoints. Who benefits more Women? Men? Children? Is there a monogamy conspiracy? What is the supposed source of monogamy? How many definitions of monogamy are there? What does evolution/science have to say? Polyamorists?Open relationships? Tara Raucci Robinson, one of the most fearless women I know about relationships will discuss "All Things Monogamy."

Herpes viruses are a leading cause of human viral disease, second only to influenza and cold viruses. Gary Richwald and I discuss what it is, a skin infection, it's impact on how people feel about themselves, why the numbers in US are so big, (60 million of which 50 million DO NOT know they have it) what treatment options there are for this lifetime infection are. The veil of shame about any infection that involves sex. People have no problem seeing a cold sore yet that same cold sore genitally causes a reaction.

Rather than just say "Do x, try y" I want to give people concrete examples of what are behaviors you need to put on your radar to ease you into a new social life and the next part of your life. When relationships end one goes through a mourning period and then at some point one lifts their head and looks at" Okay I want to get back out in the dating world. 1) How important do you think the 'THE LIST" is? What needs to be on it? What doesn't? Draft two lists one about them and one about you. 2) What are the mistakes you have watched your girlfriends and male friends make when looking for a partner.

Chicken or the Egg??? Is your sex life damaging your relationship or is your relationship hurting your sex life? Pasadena based Dr. Lori Buckley (www.drloribuckley.com)and I will look at the two main sources of sex and intimacy issues. What we see are the best ways for an individual or a couple to untangle their issues and have the love life and sex life they want and deserve. We both know that when people hear what others are dealing with it invariably validates, reduces their shame or stress about that issue and has them then see how others are put in the power position to create solutions that work for them as individuals.

Tonight my guest Dr. Diana Wiley and I will discuss Sex Addiction - Real or Made Up? This is hugely controversial topic for those of us in the field of sex education and therapy. Dr. Wiley is affiliated with the SEATTLE INSTITUTE for SEX THERAPY, EDUCATION and RESEARCH, www.sextx.com. Dr. Diana's a board certified sex therapist, a clinical sexologist and a Marriage and Family Therapist for 25 years. www.drdianawiley.com

Larry Garland is the President/CEO of Eldorado Trading Company one the adult industry's top distributors which lives by the motto, Only the Best. Think Neiman Marcus of adult distributors. So he has to have his entrepreneurial eyes looking in both directions, at what the consumers are trending to buy and the supply direction of what the manufacturers are developing. We'll talk about Fifty Shades of Grey on niche product purchases, Who he feels makes the best toys, Any restrictions he may have on shipping into countries and in the US. How he chooses a new product line or manufacturer. The growth of the Big Beautiful Women category and much much more.

Pamela McKee entered the world of adult novelty sales thru a Monster.com ad 6 years ago and has been an advocate of safer and better products. A partner in Papaya Toys and representing the technologically advanced MojoWijo she walks her talk. We will discuss the new trends she sees, the benefits for the consuming market, I mean who doesn't want a better sex toy? Papaya vibes as an eco-conscious line of adult toys. We'll also talk about markets that are drastically underserved, those with chronic medical conditions, severely injured military personnel and those couples physically separated. The main reasons they are underserved and what we see as viable solutions ANYONE can put into place.

Guest Dr. Linda De Villers is the author of an awesome new book, Simple Sexy Foods. Take a serious Foodie who also happens to be a PhD Sex Therapist and you've got Simple Sexy Foods. Blending science and cuisine information she playfully and deliciously takes cooking into the bedroom and sex into the kitchen. I mean there is a reason they call meals the seduction dinner. Apparently even Dracula had one. FYI most people will not be intimate with someone they won't dine with. So listen up and you'll hear Simple Sexy ways that can make meal time and afterwards more fun and more passion.

One of the #1 reasons women are online is health information.  My guest will be S. Diane Paget-Dellio BN, RN  Good Clinical Practice (GCP) Auditor.  As an auditor for Clinical Trials she has seen behind the curtain and can help guide you to finding and getting better sexual health information for you and your family.   Why pharmaceuticals can no longer use a placebo in a clinical trial.  Short answer - there is nothing to gauge its efficacy it means nothing.  So you read an article and find the study online, we'll help with that too, then we'll tell  what to look for to follow the money and we'll give you auditor's eyes and ears to determine if the study really helps you.    

Bringing Back The Connection AKA Parents Being Partners again. This show is for all the moms and dads who want to inject some newness, some passion, some woo hoo factor. My guest Ally Loprete walks in the shoes of mom, wife, blending 2 careers and family so she'll be my 'expert' parent asking: How do other Parents Do IT? Where can we get new ideas? Is spontaneous sex EVEN possible now? What does science say about maintaining sexual connection? Single parents and sex? Pregnancy sex, why did Jessica Simpson say those orgasms are sooo amazing?

Entrepreneur Bonnie Gayle co-creator of Sex Butter, a unique organic sexual enhancement product. This is one of the best enhancement products I have seen and had my peri menopausal field researchers test in a long time. For women and men Sex Butter is made with coconut oil, shea butter, cocoa butter, jojoba oil and grape seed, it is paraben-free and hormone-free. Sex Butter isn't just for sensual play, solo or partnered it is also beneficial for your general skin's health. wwww.sexbutter.net sexbutter@gmail.com Bonnie Gayle

Lou welcomes Winston Wilde, Doctorate of Human Sexuality and Licensed Marriage Family Therapist. Dr. Wilde is a Beverly Hills and Palm Springs seasoned prominent sex therapist who specializes in erotic minorities. Translation, he is the go-to therapist for kinky people, modern couples and polyfolk. Those into BDSM/kink and polyamory are all growing communities. There are very different nuances and understandings that a truly kink friendly therapist has to have. We'll discuss those and more, lots more. www.winstonwilde.com P:323-692-9120

Lou welcomes adult toy industry marketing executive Jenny Tse of Icon Brands to discuss the inside story on all that titillates our sensory fancy. Straight from the expert's mouth Jenny and I will discuss this industry's trends, impact on people's sexual function and perceptions of their sexual selves. Which is the best vibe? Do straight men really like anal toys? Who comes up with these ideas and how many make it into production? Where Jenny sees career opportunities for anyone wanting to market intimate adult toys. jenny@iconbrands.com

PART B with Seattle, WA based sex therapist Diana Wiley Ph.D. who is one of my favorite guests. Diana and I will discuss online dating + 40s, red flags in conversation with a date, AARP survey results for sexual satisfaction, current trends in sexuality, why masturbation is healthy, female brain vs male brain and sexual stimulation. Diana is the co-host of Progressive Radio Network’s Wiley & Sage, Sex Love and Laughter. http://www.progressiveradionetwork.com/dr-diana-wiley-billy-sage. www.drdianawiley.com (206) 448-5359

Tonight Los Angeles based Gretchen Kubacky, Psy.D., Health Psychologist, and I will discuss what we as sexuality educators can do for the growing population of those with a chronic health condition. How we can best guide with information and validate their experiences and give this population options, ideas and recommendations so they can be sexual on THEIR terms. We will discuss erasing the idea that if you have a physical health issue it renders you asexual. Couldn’t be further from the truth. www.DrGretchenKubacky.com, 310-625-6083

Seattle, WA based sex therapist Diana Wiley Ph.D. is one of my favorite guests. She will share her 25 + years of Best Ideas, Techniques and Practices couples can use to stay connected, begin a connection or rejuvenate a connection. An expert on AGING & SEXUALITY, Dr. Diana highlights that lust, laughter, and love need to be kept as priorities in order to improve longevity and enhance quality of life as we evolve and mature. Her comment is “Any age is a great age to strip off the sexual "shoulds" - remembering that sex is play, not work!” Now shall we add people are sexual throughout their lives and this population wants information tailor made to their needs? Pregnancy isn’t an issue, flexibility is so they want best options after hip/knee replacement. Diana is the co-host of Progressive Radio Network’s Wiley & Sage, Sex Love and Laughter. http://www.progressiveradionetwork.com/dr-diana-wiley-billy-sage. www.drdianawiley.com (206) 448-5359

My guest will be Monterey, CA based LMFT and D.S.T., Stephen Braveman. A multi-talented sexuality therapist who specializes in a wide variety of psychological and sexual issues. We will start with the heavy stuff and discuss his work with men who are Adults Molested as a Child and his part in Oprah’s final show featuring men who had been sexually abused. We’ll talk about the healing and hope in the PSA “You are Not Alone” from the Monterey Rape Crisis Center. Stephen also specializes in gender and transgender issues and also presents on the Sacred Sexuality/Tantra connection. He is the co-author of CPR for Your Sex Life which is like having a sex therapist’s reference manual in your hands. Divided into the C’s, P’s and R’s it is A Guide and Workbook for Couples to breathe life into a Dead, Dying or Dull Sex Life. www.bravemantherapy.com, stephen@bravemantherapy.com, 831-375-7553

As an advocate for good science to support our overall general health and specifically our sexual health I rely on hand picked scientific professionals to explain to me or discuss with me impacts and or potential sexual function impacts of medical or pharmaceutical products. My twin sister Di (Dede) Paget R.N., B.N. is one of those rare few. She and I will discuss how to determine good science for you and your family, what to be aware of when you read studies, Marcia Angell. M.D.'s book "The Truth About Drug Companies", Ben Goldacre's "Bad Science", and Cochrane Group www.cochrane.org as sources. We will also discuss STD vaccines eg) Gardasil, and why I won't recommend them, Dr. Diane harper head researcher states still the best prevention for cervical cancer is screening AKA the PAP smear not a vaccine.