Inner Hoe Uprising

The Hoes talk about smegma & proper genital care, a year of being obstinate, romantic loneliness, being called a “good girl,” being called “easy,” a great date, menstrual cup advice and more!  Bae(s) of The Week: Sera Tonin  Hoe(s) of the Week: All of you Self Care Tips: Get into the habit of boiling your menstrual cup; stop tryna save everybody Fuck That (Current Events): The man who never cleaned his penis (smegma, foreskin, phimosis, and proper genital care)  Fuck Me (Our Lives): Rodecka deals with a liar and a “nice guy”. Some dickhead hurt Sam’s feelings but then she met someone extremely great. Rob is lonely and wants someone to love and care for them romantically. Akua has abstained from sex for an entire year and has been reevaluating her relationship with intimacy.  HASHTAGS Use #InnerHoeUprising and #Podin to keep up with this conversation on social media and let others know that you are listening.  SPONSOR(S) Native Deodorant: For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com a

Life Partners Danny and Cleo join IHU to discuss co-parenting, podcasting, growth, agency, individuality, love and much more.  Fuck It (Topic of the Day):  Points of discussion include: love at first sight, first loves, getting married at a young age, open marriages, abstaining from sex with your partner, coparenting, having separate bedrooms, individuality, podcasting as a couple, the myth #CoupleGoals, kids listening to your podcast, & the theraputic nature of podcasting HASHTAGS Use #InnerHoeUprising and #Podin to keep up with this conversation on social media and let others know that you are listening.  RELEVANT LINKS AND NOTES Danny & Cleo Show: https://apple.co/2HJ8arT & https://soundcloud.com/dannyandcleo Sex Trivia Sundays: https://sextriviasundaysmarch.eventbrite.com Who saves our stories for the future? A Preserve This Podcast Launch Party!: https://bit.ly/2IeGEq9 WEBSITE
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Diamond Stylz of Marsha’s Plate podcast joins the hoes to discuss the elusivity of romantic love as a Black trans woman. Historic Bae(s) of The Week: Mary & Mildred Davidson  Fuck It (Topic of the Day): A conversation about Love with Diamond Stylz of Marsha’s Plate podcast. Points of Discussion include: Ableism and Transphobia, young perspectives on the “rules” love, being the perpetual side chick, internalized misogyny, establishing boundaries, realizing your worth, sex work & romantic partners, financial independence, men with hidden lives, companionship in older age, fostering platonic loves, the kinds of men who date and love trans women, dating black men, dating apps, fetishization & much more! HASHTAGS Use #InnerHoeUprising and #Podin to keep up with this conversation on social media and let others know that you are listening.  RELEVANT LINKS AND NOTES Marsha’s Plate: https://apple.co/2DzgicY Kym Oliver on IHU: https://apple.co/2GRcoQ0   Diamond’s HS Love Story: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=

A Black Trans Millennial Love Story The cutest couple of all time Zee and Mia join the hoes to talk about their Black Trans Millennial love story. Historical Bae of The Week: Ntozake Shange  Hoe(s) of the Week: Michael H.  Fuck It (Topic of the Day): Mia and Zee discuss:  Navigating dating apps; the importance of showing public affection, dating other Trans people, being on a podcast with your significant other, support within a trans relationship that cis folks can’t provide, “chasers”, objectification from cis people, acceptance & rejection from family, transmisogyny, dysphoria, getting clocked, starting a family, learning about black feminism from your girlfriend, responding to weird personal questions from cis friends, dating with a slight generational gap & more! HASHTAGS Use #InnerHoeUprising and #Podin to keep up with this conversation on social media and let others know that you are listening.  RELEVANT LINKS AND NOTES Marsha’s Plate Podcast: https://apple.co/2DzgicY  Mar

Are the 5 Love Languages valid? The 4 hoes are in Wig Crucifix Studios this week to discuss.  Historic Black Bae(s) of The Week: Zora Neale Hurston, Alice Walker, & Gladys Bentley Hoe(s) of the Week: Winter is Cumming attendees, Leigh Ashley M, Fabienne T, Rosemary R, Molly J, Nadia C, Lucy W, David M, Gilmarie B,  Kethia M, Syndee D, & Alyce L, Asha, & James Self Care Tips: Love is in the air…and not just the romantic kind. Foster platonic relationships and date your friends. This month, try to give up sugar to honor your ancestors Fuck It (Topic of the Day): Love Languages The hoes dissect Dr. Gary Chapman’s “The Five Love Languages”; name and define what the love languages are and question whether or not the concept is even a valid one.  Fuck Me (Our Lives): The hoes talk about their own love languages and how they have influenced their sex, love, and dating lives. Can your love language change? What happens when your love language doesn’t align with your partners? & How the love languages can ben

Whoreible Decisions co-host Weezy joins Sam & Rebecca to talk about pegging, podcasting, toxic masculinity, anal play, online vitriol, interracial dating, the millennium tour and more! Points of Discussion Include: Dating some one who has a black racist family; feeling guilty for dating white folks, toxic masculinity and homophobia, shame associated with pegging, partners with podcasting concerns, Dom/sub dynamics in pegging, where to find a good prostate stimulator, how to ask your cishet male partner about playing with his booty, The N-word, the F-word and reclamation vs offensive, [redacting yt sexuality podcast], the importance of bigging up other black sex pods, beings transparent about podcast relationships, The therapy episode of Whoreible Decisions, Lip Stick Alley, Dealing with online gossip and vitriol as a podcaster, protecting your safety and privacy as a personality, stalkers, doxxing, Sandra Bullock and Trevante Rhodes, best lubes for pegging, how to break down pegging stigma, when listeners

Rob, Sam, and Rodicky talk about semen injections, Savage Fenty, chosen names for Trans folks, the aftermath of an abusive relationship, step by step blow jobs, and waiting on an ex.  Bae(s) of The Week: J Mase III & Dane Edidi co-editors of #BlackTransPrayerBook Naima “Queen” Muhammad, Janina Jeff, & Bridget Todd The POC who called out Savage Fenty  Everybody but [redacted name of a particular yt lady] Hoe(s) of the Week: Kieaunna C, QueerWOC, Marsha’s Plate, Jonathan M, Leigh Ashley, Asha, Karla, Myisha C , Catalina F, Erika B, Patrick N, All those who have been going positive feedback on recent episodes Self Care Tips: Stop Ignoring Red Flags When you are having a mental health crisis and you don’t have access to resources reach out. Fuck That (Current Events): Why we’re not talking about [redacted sexual predator musician], The Irish man who injected semen into this arm, The life or death importance of using the chosen names of Trans Youth, & Trans teens risks for suicide and self-harm.  Fuck Me

Glamazon Tyomi joins Akua & Sam to talk about her work as a tantrica and pleasure coach Fuck It (Topic of the Day): What is Authentic Tantra and how can it be applied to ones life and sexual practice? Points of discussion include: Becoming a pleasure coach, What is Tantra?, What kinds of Tantra exist, Tibetan Authentic Tantra, people who commit sexual assault in the name of tantra, meditation before masturbation, Was Barney practicing Tantra?, trans folks and tantra, releasing trauma via tantra, yoni and lingham massages, letting partners know you are using tantra during sex, allowing time for foreplay, straight cishet men as pleasure partners, becoming a certified tantrica, is tantra a form of cultural appropriation?, why is tantra heavily marketed towards women, & sexual censorship online HASHTAGS Use #InnerHoeUprising and #Podin to keep up with this conversation on social media and let others know that you are listening.  SPONSOR(S) Youthtestify.org  RELEVANT LINKS AND NOTES  http://www.authentict

The Hoes reflect on the highlights of their sex, love, and dating lives of 2018 and set goals and intentions for their lives in 2019.  Fuck Me (Our Lives):  Rebecca’s Highlights: Discovering I self-sabotage and try to be perfect in romantic relationships Rebecca’s Goals: Rooting myself in reality and being honest with myself  Sam’s Highlights: Redefining what a life partner means; Proud that I no longer physically chase after people; becoming okay with my natural hair again Sam’s Goals: Staying on top of my sexual health, and doubling down on if it doesn’t serve you then delete it Akua’s Highlights: Processing my Queerness on Air; Realizing I hate capitalism; Abstaining from sex; Akua’s Goals: Continuing to abstain from sex in 2019  Rob Highlights: Coping with loosing my grandfathers; Accomplishing career goals; trash break up; entering into an abusive relationship while deployed; being stealthed; getting really brolic and achieving a physique I wanted  Rob Goals: Go to therapy to understand why I am

All four hoes are back together to discuss our hoe-highlights of 2018 and what we’re looking forward to in the new year. This is a 2 part end of the year hoe recap. Part 2 will air on Jan 2, 2019\. Bae(s) of The Week: The Podcast Baddie Brigade, Chance Perdomo & Tati Gabrielle, @AshleighChubbyBunny, @ErickaHart, & Bria Myles Hoe(s) of the Week: All IHU Event Attendees, Rob, Milton, Karen, Aly Lew, CocoMangoCherry, & Calvin Self Care Tips: Feel your emotions, show discomfort & take up space; Speak your truth or change your space; Be patient with yourself and move on your own timeline; Go to therapy: here are some resources to help you along the way: Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists ZocDoc: https://www.zocdoc.com/ Therapy For Black Girls Directory: https://www.therapyforblackgirls.com/therapist-directory/ Therapy For Black Girls Guide: https://pages.convertkit.com/1836b6b894/d774a0e568 Open Path Psychotherapy Collective: https://bit.ly/2EKgWYh APA Locato

Feminista Jones joins Akua & Sam to talk about kink, race, patriarchy, sexuality, and the historic and cultural complexities of being an African American woman into BDSM. She also tells us about her upcoming book “Reclaiming Our Space: How Black Feminists Are Changing the World from the Tweets to the Streets”. Fuck It (Topic of the Day): Points of Discussion include: discovering the difference between bottoming and being a sub, patriarchal norms influencing views on d/s relationships, personal BDSM journeys, reconciling shame as it pertains to being a black person into BDSM, empowerment thru kink, dealing with abuse while being in a d/s relationship, Race Play, the intersection of BDSM and Chattel Slavery, BDSM as an aid in healing from sexual trauma, African Americans disjointed sexual histories, sex and black academia, the glory and pitfalls of Twitter and Facebook, Kevin Hart, Cancel Culture, problematic favs and allowing for growth, black masculinity and black femininity in perceptions of d/s relations

Akua & Sam answer listener letters! Bae(s) of The Week: @itsashforde & @dapperpenniless Hoe(s) of the Week: Leigh Ashley (PAH), Katherine Wood, Oleaser, Graberuh, Shaheen W, and the sex trivia attendees Self Care Tips: Reenforce your boundaries with yourself, Swap your ACV toner with Rose Water, Reminder that it’s cool to be a work in progress Fuck You (Your Lives):  We answer your listener letters. Topics Include:  How to navigate BDSM communities as a virgin? Cuckquean tools Do not listen to IHU while operating heavy machinery 
My Boyfriend is lying about showering before bed. Please help! Dealing with internalized fat-phobia within my relationship HASHTAGS Use #InnerHoeUprising and #Podin to keep up with this conversation on social media and let others know that you are listening.  SPONSOR(S) Hot Movies For Her: Go to VOD.HotMoviesForHer.com/bonus and enter the promo code IHU to get your free minutes.   RELEVANT LINKS AND NOTES Tickets to Tea With Queen and J Live!: https://web.ovationtix.c

Akua, Sam, & Rebecca are at Wig Crucifix Studios to workshop Sams love life, talk about a recent break up, and lament over closed strip clubs. Bae(s) of The Week: @shezuschrist, Who Tells the Story of our Future Panel, The Podcast Baddie Brigade, Black femmes at Werk It, and BRUHMove + LuvStory Hoe(s) of the Week: @ogStefani, @princeshortyfly, Aly Lew Self Care Tips: How To Take Care of Yourself During the Holidays: 1\. Reenforce your boundaries 2\. Take care of yourself 3\. Remove yourself from situations when and if possible as soon as possible Celebrate and connect with lost loved ones during the holidays using altars, art, music. Hotlines 
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 NYC Well: 1-888-NYC-WELL (1-888-692-9355) or TEXT “WELL” to 65173 National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 Grief recovery support: 800-395-5755 Crisis Text Line: text “HOME” to 741741 Fuck That (Current Events): Sex Science wit Sam - Why do Clits and Dicks experience

Sexual Health Educators Omotayo, Janelle, and Alex join IHU live to talk about how to hoe safely. This episode was recorded live at the Not Yet Series’ Sex Positivity Showcase  TOPICS INCLUDE: What’s the difference between STI’s and STD’s, How long should you wait to have Sex after STI treatment? Re-Testing, Anti-biotic Resistant Gonorrhea, What are the most common kinds of STIs? Mycoplasma Genitalium is a thing, How often should you be getting tested?Sight specific STIs and testing, Can you get tested too often? Do we All Have Herpes? Why is Herpes so stigmatized? HIV Transmission Risks, Why do some STIs increase the risk of HIV Transmission?Common Modes of STI Transmission, What are some STI Symptoms? How do you properly use a condom? How do you prevent STIs? Shortcomings of sexual health service providers and programs, How to find a sex positive doctor? Modes of HIV Transmission, Are there HIV symptoms? How to make your HIV test less stressful? How to make a Dental Dam? How to find HIV free and low c

Graduate student in biology, Anna, joins Akua & Sam to talk about what its like dating and learning while being a black woman in the realm of STEM academia. Bae(s) of The Week: Kym Oliver and Olajumoke 'Jay' Abdullahi Hoe(s) of the Week: David M, Leigh Ashley & Sydney C. Self Care Tips: Sam’s 4 C’s of Anxiety Coping Mechanisms: CBD Oil, Cold Brew, Consuming the News while Working out & Calling on your Ancestors. Fuck It (Topic of the Day): Guest Anna discusses sex, love, and dating woes as a NYU grad student in a biology masters program. Points of discussion include: Majoring in biology, Growing up black in upstate New York, becoming emboldened in college, experiencing racism at PWIs, when deciding to go to an HBCU, are biologist dating germaphobes?, dating in undergrad, are men conditioned to be sociopaths, what do white frat guys smell like?, burnout, tips for surviving undergrad as a black femme, advice on applying to grad school, What’s it like going to NYU, the truth behind the head in a c

Rob & Sam shoot the shit on what's going on in Robs life overseas. Points of Discussion include: Garbage communication skills in men, issues communicating about sex, When your new partner triggers thoughts about your old partner, institutionalized relationships, entering into a poly relationship with another non binary baddie, sexual assault classes in the military, finding feminists in the military, Robs to do list when they return home, memes, rob-eoke, being brolic, recycled nudes, Robs shout out to Trans folks back at home & more! HASHTAGS Use #InnerHoeUprising and #Podin to keep up with this conversation on social media and let others know that you are listening. SPONSOR(S) Simple Health is giving our listeners a free prescription - just go to simplehealth.com/INNER or enter the code INNER at checkout. WEBSITE
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Virtual Reality Artist Leah joins Akua & Sam to discuss her art lab Motherlode and their work in VR sex education.  Bae(s) of The Week: Riesling Wine, Money & Nikeeta (QueerWoc), Diamond Stylz (Marsha’s Plate)  Hoe(s) of the Week: Meghan C, Molly D, Diamond Stylz, Sidney M, Julia C, Natalie, and Everyone who came to the Halloween Bash! Self Care Tips: Listen to QueerWOC the podcast Fuck It (Topic of the Day): Leah Roh of the AR/VR/3D Art Lab Motherlode talks to IHU about sex ed in virtual reality, WOC in STEM and the sex tech industry. Points of discussion include: Virtual reality labs, is sexism in STEM inherent?, VR World Smells, the importance of masturbation and pleasure in sex education, talking thru consent is like making a sandwich, compliment sandwiches, the gender unicorn, whats the appropriate age range for sex ed, How accesible is VR?, avoiding funding from places that don’t support your ideals, Are women in sex tech spaces too white? & advice for WOC and NB POC looking to get into art

Fanna and Amie of Raseriet join IHU to discuss feminism, anti racism, and life as black woman living in Northern Europe. Fuck It (Topic of the Day): Raseriet podcast, Race relations in Sweden, Elections, The Nazi Political Party, racial violence. Svart Kvinna Instagram account and book, micro aggressions, creating safe spaces for black women in Sweden, White “Allies,” How cold is Sweden?, being the only black person in your village, Season Affective Disorder, “Hoes Don’t Get Cold,” being tokenized in the media, conflicts in being a ‘radical’ podcaster and journalist, Xenophobia, White Feminism in Europe, The Feminist Party in Sweden, hip hop; feminism; and strip culture, Giselle Marie’s #StripperStrikeNYC, dealing with internalized feelings towards strippers, exploring power dynamics at strip cubs, Swedish National Television, and perceptions of nudity on black bodies vs white bodies  HASHTAGS Use #InnerHoeUprising and #Podin to keep up with this conversation on social media and let others know that you ar

Tori of Phi Nu Kappa Sorority Inc joins Akua and Sam to discuss what its like to be apart of a LGBTQ non collegiate Greek organization Bae(s) of The Week: Kayvis D, Hilary J, Jay H, Yewande A, Latinos who Lunch. and Latinos Out Loud  Hoe(s) of the Week: Inner Hoe Uprising Self Care Tips: Delete what doesn’t serve you and consume things that make you feel good.  Fuck It (Topic of the Day): LGBT Sorority and Fraternity Organizations with Tori Kendall. Points of Discussion Include: Phi Nu Kappa Sorority Inc, Alpha Psi Kappa Fraternity Inc, Alpha Omega Kappa Fraternity,  Kappa Iota Sigma , The Divine Nine, Non Collegiate Organizations, demographics, pledging later in life, community service, cultivating space spaces, parties, dating within your greek party, drinking in your letters, how black folks perceive greek life, burning sands and perceptions on hazing, and how to know if Greek life is a fit for you HASHTAGS Use #InnerHoeUprising and #Podin to keep up with this conversation on social media and let oth

Akua & Sam talk about depression, waiting 10 hours for dick, alcohol and sexual assault, sex while grieving, fucking in college and much more!  Bae(s) of The Week: Scottie Beam Hoe(s) of the Week: J., Alia Sterns, Aria, Surya A, Eye Sore, Sammy Bryant, & Shanell E. Self Care Tips: October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Here are some resources that might be useful to survivors and loved ones of survivors. Recognizing Intimate Partner Violence: https://everydayfeminism.com/2014/12/recognizing-domestic-violence/ Keeping Yourself Safe in an Abusive Relationship: https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/04/safety-with-abusive-partner/ How to Help Loved ones experiencing IPV: https://everydayfeminism.com/2014/01/how-to-help-a-loved-one-experiencing-domestic-violence/ Self Care After Leaving an Abuser: https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2017/11/5-powerful-ways-to-rise-again-after-emotional-abuse/ Our other self care tip this week is to create a seasonal bucket list for yourself this Autumn.  Fuck That