4 Dimensional Man

Today, we’ll talk about the importance of letting go. We’ll look at how being flexible can allow you to let go of old behaviors that are holding you back and move forward with new, constructive behaviors. Finally, we’ll discuss the power that comes from being able to recreate yourself so that you can achieve your definition of success. POINT #1: You Must Become Comfortable with Letting Go * As you grow older, things in your life will change. * You must become comfortable with letting go of old behaviors, mindsets, beliefs, etc. that no longer serve you. * By letting go of old behaviors, you can move forward with new ones. POINT #2: Being Flexible Helps * Staying flexible can help you adapt to changes in your life and allow you to recognize when you need to let go. * Flexibility can help you create your definition of success and achieve your goals across all areas of your li

Today, we’ll talk about how you are in control of your world. We’ll look at how positive and negative outside influences can affect your family—and your entire life. Finally, we’ll discuss how taking responsibility and making good choices about the outside influences you allow into your life can lead to happiness. POINT #1: You Are in Control of Your World * There is a lot of chaos in the world that can damage your kids and family. * Outside influences can be positive or negative. * It’s important for you to realize that despite outside influences, you are in control of what you let into your life. * Recognizing the effect of outside influences can help to reduce, control or prevent damage to your family. POINT #2: Be Careful About Your Choices * Choice is one of the most critical factors in determining your quality of life. * You choose which outside influences yo

BJ Bench, a father of two and guardian of his 16-year-old cousin, will discuss what he had to learn to be the father-figure that his cousin needed. He’ll discuss the importance of being a part of his cousin’s life, setting limits on technology and training her to recognize concerning behaviors in other people, particularly boys. Finally, BJ will talk about why dads shouldn’t be afraid to have difficult conversations about uncomfortable subjects with their teens. POINT #1: Dads Must Be Adaptable * BJ and his wife have two biological daughters (ages 4 and 1) and took in his cousin after she was placed in the foster care system. BJ’s cousin is now 16-years-old and has lived with BJ and his family for two-and-a-half years. * Getting an “instant tween” was tough and BJ and his wife were not prepared for the hormones and the drama. However, BJ quickly stepped into a father role. * In addition to managing two full-time j

Today, we’ll talk about how you can create an amazing connection with your kids simply by having fun. We’ll talk about the importance of having fun despite all the adult responsibilities that make it easy for us to become too serious. Finally, we’ll discuss the benefits of having fun across all areas of our life. POINT #1: Fun Creates a Connection with Your Kids * Your job and your other adult responsibilities can cause you to become serious, stubborn and stuck in your ways. * Because of everything on your plate, it can be easy to forget to make time for fun. * For kids, fun is life—and having fun with your kids can help you create an amazing connection with them. POINT #2: Take a Break to Play * Your kids don’t understand your responsibilities and why they make you so serious all the time. * Every now and then, you have to let go and play with your kids. * Make ti

Today, we’ll talk about how you can empower your partner by recognizing when she needs a break—and encouraging her to take time to recharge. We’ll talk about how you can help your partner thrive by picking up the slack and throwing out “old thinking” about the roles of men and women. Finally, we’ll discuss how you can show your kids how to lead a family and empower others. POINT #1: Empowering Others is Part of Leadership * Good leaders empower those around them. * Part of a man’s role is leading his family and recognizing when the people in his household need a break. * Encouraging your partner to take a time-out when she needs it will empower her to lead in her own way. POINT #2: Shed Your Old Thinking * Running a household and managing a family are the responsibilities of both partners, and men sometimes need to pick up the slack. * Some men feel that certain tasks are t

Today, we’ll talk about productivity and how doing the right things at the right times will help you to accomplish your goals. We’ll talk about what it means to do the work required—and how it is different from doing only what you must. Finally, we’ll discuss the importance of showing your kids how to achieve goals by going above and beyond while taking the most efficient path. POINT #1: “Doing the Work Required” Improves Productivity * To be productive, you must manage yourself correctly and do the right things at the right times. * “Doing the work required” is more than a to-do list; it will help you look at work from a different angle so you can achieve your goals faster. * There is no map that will show you how to get from Point A to Point B in life, but doing the work required helps you to take a direct, efficient path. POINT #2: Get the Best Help from The Best Source * If you

Today, we’ll talk about gratitude and how you can pass it to your kids. We’ll talk about how life is full of challenges and choices, and how reflecting on these things can help you to feel grateful for where you are today. Finally, we’ll discuss the importance of appreciating what is possible in your life. POINT #1: Becoming a Better Stepdad Helps You Raise Great Kids * When your kids see you learning, improving your lifestyle and asking yourself tough questions, it sends a powerful message. * It is important to teach kids that learning doesn’t just come from books. * You need to take the principles you learn and apply them to your life. POINT #2: Trust that Everything Will Work Out * Life involves lots of trial-and-error, so you must be willing to be open and to change. * During challenging times, it is important to trust that everything will work out. * You can’t

Glenn Osgoodby, a stepdad of two and father of three, will discuss how he has learned from his experiences and grown as a parent while raising his children from his first marriage, his step children, and his youngest child from his second marriage. He’ll discuss how he acclimated to his new role of stepdad and the dynamics in his now-expanded family. Finally, Glenn will share his thoughts on developing a relationship with his step kids that is based on respect and love. POINT #1: Learn from Your Experiences * Glenn had the opportunity to parent his two children from his first marriage (now ages 25 and 23), his step kids (now ages 18 and 16) and his four-year-old daughter with his current wife. * Although Glenn said that each child and parenting experience has been different, he has been able to use what he learned during each parenting “phase” to help him grow. * Glenn has learned to take a step bac

Today, we’ll discuss how your feelings and old stories can hold you back from achieving your goals. We’ll talk about the benefits of long-term thinking and how changing your mindset and feelings can drive change in your life. Finally, we’ll discuss the importance of challenging your thinking to get the results you want. POINT #1: Your Early Experiences Create “Stories” * Your early life experiences create “stories” that you carry with you into adulthood; some stories are positive and some are negative. * For example, if you had a rough upbringing, you may not value family and relationships. * Old stories will influence your actions unless you challenge your thinking and change your mindset. POINT #2: Long-Term Thinking Can Help You Change Your Stories * Thinking about your future is a great way to solidify your goals and decide what you want for your life. * Based on your l

Today, we’ll discuss the power of the questions you ask yourself and how these questions relate to creating a strong foundation for your life. We’ll talk about how your old “stories” can affect the questions you ask yourself today. Finally, we’ll discuss how to look at all areas of your life and ask questions that help you create renewed foundations and new stories that reflect your goals. POINT #1: Dig Deeper with Quality Questions * There are all sorts of questions in life, but most of them are at a surface level. * You need to dig deeper and ask quality questions of yourself to get to the bottom of what you are trying to achieve in life. * Asking quality questions also can help you figure out what might be holding you back. POINT #2: Questions Help You Build a Foundation for Your Life * You need to start at “ground zero” and get real about where you are in each of your Core 4 are

Today, we’ll discuss the one selfish thing that you should be doing every week. We’ll talk about how scheduling time for yourself and doing exactly what you want to do is a great investment. Finally, we’ll discuss how this time will help you to understand why you’re working so hard and give you the energy to move forward. POINT #1: Take a Break * When you’re following the Core 4, you’ve got a lot to do—and sometimes, you just need a break. * To recharge and reenergize, it’s important to take yourself out of your normal routine for a few hours each week and spend some time by yourself. * If you don’t take a weekly break from the chaos of life, you are more likely to perform poorly in one or more areas of the Core 4 and not see the results of all your hard work. POINT #2: Schedule Your Break * To make sure your break happens, it’s important that you schedule the time in advance.

Today, we’ll discuss how to identify when our kids are saying “no” to an activity or opportunity because they are feeling scared about learning something new. We’ll talk about how a simple conversation with your kids can help you get to the bottom of their feelings and give them the confidence to try new things. Finally, we’ll talk about how you can show your kids how to overcome “no” by modeling a love of learning and getting over your fear of asking for help when you need it. POINT #1: Sometimes “No” Means “I’m Scared” * If your kids are saying “no” to a new activity or opportunity that you genuinely think they would enjoy, take the time to talk to them about it and ask questions. * When children are afraid of trying or learning something new, they sometimes say that they don’t want to do it—even if you know they would enjoy it. * To prevent your child from missing out on fun or beneficial learning experiences,

In this week's interview Jason Brangers, a stepdad of two and father of two, will discuss how he went “all-in” with his step kids when he married his wife. He’ll discuss the challenges his family faced as he adjusted to his new role as a stepdad and his thoughts on building trust with his kids. Finally, Jason will share his thoughts on other step-parenting topics, such as coping with transition times, the importance of investing in your wife and relaxing and having fun. POINT #1: It’s Not Possible to Marry Only Your Wife * When your wife has children, Jason believes that it’s not possible to marry only your wife, especially if she’s a good mom; Jason said you’re marrying your wife and her kids. * Jason said that because he decided to go “all-in” and marry his wife, he would go “all-in” with his step kids, too. * Jason and his wife had some challenges adjusting to their new roles after their marriage; Jason said it

Today, we’ll discuss how getting better across all areas of your life takes work and repetition. We’ll talk about how repetition across your Core 4 daily activities can help you to lay a foundation for long-term success. Finally, we’ll discuss how hitting singles every day will prepare you for hitting home runs down the road. POINT #1: Getting Better Takes Work * If you want to get better across all areas of your life, it is going to take some work. * Doing the work involves repeating your Core 4 daily activities over and over again. POINT #2: Focus on the Little Things * By focusing on the Core 4 daily activities (the little things), you can lay the foundation for future success. * You can hit a single every day by writing notes, connecting with your kids, meditating, sweating, journaling, implementing new business ideas and drinking a green smoothie. * Hitting a single every day

Writing Your Stories Today, we’ll discuss the “stories” that we’ve been told about ourselves growing up and how they can affect our lives. We’ll talk about how to get rid of the stories that hold us back and weigh us down. Finally, we’ll discuss how to write new stories that are empowering, motivating and inspiring and reflect who we are today. POINT #1: We All Have “Stories” * From a very young age, we are all given “stories” about ourselves that direct the paths we take in life. * Some examples of stories include, being an athlete, being a “nerd,” being shy, being fearful, etc. * Some of these stories are empowering and inspiring, but others can weigh us down or hold us back. * We can get rid of stories that do not serve us and write new stories that help to motivate us and drive us forward. POINT #2: Asking Yourself “Who Am I?” Is a Gateway * Asking “Who am I?” ca

Today, we’ll discuss the two types of lies and which one is the most destructive. We’ll talk about how lies keep us from getting the results we want in life. Finally, we’ll discuss the importance of getting real with yourself and assessing how you’re doing in all areas of your life. POINT #1: There Are Two Types of Lies * There are two types of lies: The lies you tell other people and the lies you tell yourself. * The lies you tell others include making yourself look like you’re doing better than you really are or making things up to fit in. * The lies you tell yourself have to do with your integrity, such as promising yourself that you are going to do things and not following through. POINT #2: You Must “Be Your Word”—Even to Yourself * When you learn to “be your word” with others, it builds a foundation of trust in your relationships. * When you learn to “be your word” to

Today, we’ll discuss why making choices is an important and powerful leadership skill. We’ll talk about the difference between flip-floppers and leaders. Finally, we’ll discuss how leaders create forward movement in their lives by choosing boldly and committing to their decisions. POINT #1: Leaders Make Decisions and Instruct Others * Leaders make clear, confident decisions and share their choices with others. * Flip-floppers, who never make clear, decisive, fast choices, turn up frequently in life. * Flip-floppers are one-dimensional men who only achieve success in one area of life. POINT #2: Decision-Making is a Skill * Choosing first and boldly while committing to your decisions is a skill that takes practice. * Decision-making is a valuable and powerful skill that allows you to move forward in your life. * Being open about your feelings and knowing how to commu

Today's interview is with William Worthington, a stepdad of three, father of two and professor at Baylor University, will discuss how attitude affects everything—from parenting to work to overcoming challenges. He’ll talk about making the adjustment to becoming a stepdad, building a blended family and how he and his wife model positive values while teaching and training their children. Finally, William will share how his attitude and mindset helped him to overcome the hurdles in his life, including a cancer diagnosis. POINT #1: Don’t Just Say It—Live It * William and his wife, Sarah, believe that their relationship is the greatest gift they can give their children. By doing things like investing in “date night,” they model positive relationship behaviors for their kids. * William built a relationship with his stepkids by telling them and showing them how much he cared for their mother. When the kids saw him

Today we’ll discuss the importance of showing your kids what’s possible in their lives. We’ll talk passing gratitude to your kids by giving them opportunities and experiences that open their eyes to new things. Finally, we’ll discuss how you can give your kids the vision that they can live wherever and however they like and show them that there are lots of options that they can choose from. POINT #1: Anything’s Possible * Leading your children is about showing them what is possible for their lives. * You can pass your values to your kids, such as living simply, doing what you love with your family and spending time outdoors. * You can choose the lifestyle that is right for your family. POINT #2: Let Your Kids Experience New Things * You can teach your children that they can live wherever and however they like by providing them with new opportunities and experiences. * Trave

In today's episode we’ll discuss young love and how, even at an early age, parents have an opportunity to teach values about relationships. We’ll talk about the importance of modeling positive behaviors in your own relationship—and in all areas of your life. Finally, we’ll discuss how strong values learned at a young age can help your children grow up to be great adults. POINT #1: Children Learn Relationship Values from You * Children mimic their parents every day and behave the same way their parents behave in relationships. * Teaching kids to show gratitude and appreciation for others at a young age will help them to continue to do so as an adult. * Being able to show gratitude, love and appreciation will help your kids to have healthy adult relationships. POINT #2: Be Open about Relationships * Kids will experience “young love” sooner or later and they will probably have question