4 Dimensional Man

Are you doing the work when it comes to your relationships—even when you’re on vacation? We’ll discuss why spending one-on-one time with your partner and your kids is important whether you are at home or away. We’ll talk about how to carve out the time to connect with your loved ones individually, even during a family trip. Finally, we’ll talk about the importance of taking your Core 4 daily actions with you when you travel. POINT #1: No Matter Where You Are, You Always Need Balance * If you’re living the Warrior’s Way, you know that part of the Core 4 means making daily deposits into your relationships and taking your kids and partner on a weekly date. * It’s your job to maintain that intimate connection with your loved ones, even when you travel. * In the midst of the stress and chaos that sometimes comes along with travel, it is especially important to stay connected. POINT #2: One-on-One Time Is

Although you may view travel as a time to get away from your business responsibilities, travel can help you learn to work more efficiently. We’ll discuss how traveling effectively means working effectively. We’ll talk about how setting specific times for work will help you complete tasks more efficiently—and will allow you to enjoy the rest of your day. Finally, we’ll talk about the benefits of scheduling time for the things that are important to you. POINT #1: Traveling Effectively Means Working Effectively * Travel forces you to work efficiently so you can enjoy the rest of your time without guilt. * When you only have limited times to work, you will be more productive. * Traveling is a great time to practice working efficiently so you can incorporate the same strategies at home. POINT #2: Schedule Time for Work and Play * Scheduling your work times will allow you to plan fun thin

Josh Wells, a fire service worker from Sedona, Arizona who also operates Rockstar CPR, realized early in his journey as a stepdad that giving and serving are the keys to developing solid relationships with his two stepkids, his biological daughter and his wife. He’ll discuss his initial reluctance to take on the role of stepdad and the game-changing moment when he realized that he could shift his focus outward toward his family. He’ll talk about how he connects with his kids and supports them as they develop into adults. Finally, Josh will talk about the benefits of having an open line of communication with his stepkids’ biological father and how it has enabled him to positively influence his kids. POINT #1: It’s Normal to Feel Unsure * When Josh first met his future wife, he initially did not want to get involved because she was divorced and had two children. * However, after spending time together casually, Josh realized

Discipline can be a touchy subject for stepdads, but it is possible to discipline effectively while remaining calm. We’ll discuss how keeping discipline standard and establishing rules in advance can help your kids understand what’s expected. We’ll talk about why disciplining your kids in the heat of the moment isn’t always the best option. Finally, we’ll talk about how waiting until emotions settle and using agreed consequences teaches kids and prevents repeated problems. POINT #1: Set Standards and Stick to Them * Establishing standards for your kids and going over rules in advance will help your kids know what is expected of them. * Rules such as “don’t be rude” and “listen to others” establish a baseline for good behavior. * By anticipating problems in certain situations, you can establish corresponding standards for your kids to follow. POINT #2: Let Emotions Settle * Although

Have you spent enough quality time with your children lately? We’ll discuss how feeling disconnected from you can cause your children to become rowdy and what you can do to help them to calm down. We’ll talk about the benefits of scheduling daily one-on-one time with your children. Finally, we’ll talk about how one-on-one time with your kids can help you become more open and giving while improving your listening skills. POINT #1: Kids Need Connection * Connection with others is a basic human need. * If you notice that your kids are getting rowdy, think about how much one-on-one time you have spent with them lately. * When kids feel disconnected from their parents, they can become fidgety. * In order to calm down and stay grounded, kids need to feel connected with their parents. POINT #2: Make One-On-One Time a Priority * Between work and family responsibilities, it can be d

Many people dread traveling with kids because of all the baggage they require—but there are ways to help them travel light. We’ll discuss how you can help them understand the opportunities and possibilities for the trip by emphasizing the experiences they will have. Finally, we’ll talk about the benefits of not cluttering your days on vacation with extra stuff from home. POINT #1: Traveling Light is Key * Packing well is the start of a great trip. * Your family will get more out of the trip if they are not distracted by lots of clutter from home. * One of the keys to successful travel with kids is to travel lightly and reduce the amount of baggage. POINT #2: You Can Prepare Kids for Travel * Discussing the opportunities and experiences your kids will have on vacation will reduce their desire to bring tons of stuff from home. * If kids understand that there will be lots of f

If you want to finish fast, you have to start slow. We’ll discuss how mastering the basics and laying foundations will help you hit your targets. We’ll talk about how trying to hit home runs and achieve big results right away will set you back and slow you down. Finally, we’ll talk about the importance slowing down so you can go fast later. POINT #1: It’s OK to Start Slow * In order to hit your targets, you need to start slow. * Taking the time to master the basics and lay proper foundations is important to your overall success. * Although it can be tempting to push for big results right away, going slow at first is a smarter approach. POINT #2: Going Too Fast Too Soon Can Set You Back * Going too fast too soon isn’t realistic; it can cause setbacks and ultimately slow you down. * When it comes to physical fitness, going too fast too soon can cause injury. * In bus

Matt Jones, a stepdad of one and father of two, will discuss how he believes that embracing your parenting experiences can help you become a better person. He’ll discuss how he grew into his role of stepdad, learned from role models in his life and developed a relationship with his stepson. Finally, Matt will share his thoughts on being grateful for what he has been given—even when he didn’t expect it. POINT #1: Trying Too Hard Doesn’t Work * As Matt adapted to his role as stepdad, he was encountering some resistance from his stepson due to pressure from extended family members. He realized that being himself and not trying too hard was a great way to ease the tension. * Matt had a great role model in his mom’s partner, who Matt described as a man “who didn’t push himself on anyone.” * After the pressure was reduced, Matt found that he and his stepson could be friends. * Matt said that as his stepson gets

Are you having trouble hearing your inner voice? If so, slow down and take the time to meditate. We’ll discuss how all the chaos, confusion and information in your daily life can prevent you from hearing your inner voice. We’ll talk about how reconnecting with your inner voice can help you to understand what you want in life. Finally, we’ll talk about the importance of pushing through resistance to achieve maximum growth. POINT #1: Hearing Your Inner Voice is Key * You have an inner voice that is telling you the answers to problems in your life, but you must pay attention so you can hear it. * With so much information, confusion and chaos in your daily life, it can be hard to tune into your inner voice. * Hearing your inner voice helps you grow as a person and understand what you want in life. * If you are caught in constant mental chaos, you won’t be able to progress. POINT #2: Meditation

Are you leading your family from a domineering perspective, or are you leading by example? In every household, someone must lead the way—whether it’s you, your partner or the kids. We’ll discuss the difference between leading by example and being domineering and why it can be frustrating when other members of your family are moving slowly or aren’t yet ready for growth. Finally, we’ll talk about the benefits of leading the way and allowing your family to follow. POINT #1: Someone Must Lead the Way * In every household, someone must lead the way—whether it is you, your partner or the kids. * Leadership roles can shift between different family members at different times. * When you are leading and other family members are lagging, it can be frustrating. POINT #2: Leading is Different Than Dominating * Truly leading comes from being the example and not expecting anything in return.

Comparing yourself to others is a natural tendency that allows you to measure where you are in a specific area of your life. However, comparison does not encourage production. We’ll discuss how production comes from within as you challenge and compete against yourself. Finally, we’ll talk about the importance of setting targets and connecting with your “why” to give you powerful motivation to produce. POINT #1: Comparison and Competition Do Not Create Production * It is normal to compare yourself to others to see where you are in a specific area of your life. * Comparison with others does not allow you to produce results within yourself. * Although competition against others may give you an edge, it doesn’t actually produce results. * Production comes from within and occurs when you are challenging and competing with yourself. POINT #2: Production is Your Responsibility * W

If you improve as a stepdad, your kids will benefit—and that’s the mission of Stepdad Success. We’ll discuss the value of passing down your wisdom to help your kids learn how to live a better life. Finally, we’ll talk about how sharing the Stepdad Success message with other stepdads will help to raise an entire generation of leaders. POINT #1: Improve for Your Kids * If you improve as a stepdad, your kids will reap the rewards. * If children have a negative role model or no role model at all, they will not be set up well for adulthood. * Having a positive role model helps kids to learn positive behaviors that stay with them throughout their lives. POINT #2: Your Kids Are the Future * Even though your stepkids aren’t your biological children, you should treat them as though they are. * You need to form a bond with your stepkids that goes beyond everyday transactional interac

As a stepdad of three children, Grant Belcher of the Sunshine Coast in Australia knew that his role was to show his kids the possibilities for their lives. He’ll discuss how his kids reacted to him becoming their stepdad and his philosophy of treating his stepkids as his own. He’ll talk about how he developed an emotional connection to his kids and learned to put their needs first. Finally, Grant will talk about the benefits of helping his kids to better understand themselves and showing them different “models” for how to live. POINT #1: Establish a Friendship * Grant owns and operates several aquatic centers on the Sunshine Coast of Australia and met his wife while coaching her kids in swimming. * When Grant and his future wife were dating, they waited several months to tell her children that they were involved. * Although the kids were very excited about the relationship and Grant loved them as his own, Grant ma

Everyone experiences challenges now and then, but effectively dealing with these “storms” is key to achieving your goals. We’ll discuss the negative impact of stopping and waiting for a storm to come—or creating a storm of your own. Finally, we’ll talk about the importance of preventing storms from dragging you off course and staying focused on the blue skies ahead. POINT #1: Don’t Create Your Own Storms * When things are going well in your life, it can be tempting to stop moving forward while you wait for a storm to come. * Although occasional storms are an inevitable part of life, negative thoughts and behaviors will cause storms to blow in more frequently. * Negativity can lead you to creating your own storms. POINT #2: Storms Affect All Areas of Life * In Body, storms may show up as disease, injury and sickness. * In Being, storms may show up as a poor spiritual connect

Have you ever gotten stuck in a difficult situation because you forgot to ask a simple question? It happens to everyone, especially when dealing with busy schedules and competing priorities. We’ll discuss how asking simple questions can help you to avoid problems and improve your life. Finally, we’ll talk about how avoiding complexity and focusing on simplicity can help you to expand. POINT #1: Asking Simple Questions Can Help You Avoid Problems * It’s normal to want to take control in your life, but you must be sure you are asking simple questions—especially when your actions affect others. * Before booking a family trip, for example, a simple question would be to ask your family if they want to go to the chosen destination and if your proposed date suits them. * In this example, taking the time to ask a simple question would save you from making a costly mistake or having a tension-filled trip. PO

Being the example is a foundational principle in life— and although many people try to make themselves look good, few do the work required to be good. We’ll discuss what it means to be the example for your kids and why modeling positive behaviors is so important. Finally, we’ll talk about how you can be the example in every area of your life and pass good actions and words to your kids. POINT #1: Leadership Means Being the Example * To be a leader, you must be the example you want others to follow. * Being the example means constantly learning and refining your skills, having a great attitude about life and always moving forward. POINT #2: Your Kids Need You to Be the Example * Your kids are always watching and (like it or not) they will do what you do and say what you say. * Your kids learn from your positive and negative behaviors. * As a stepdad, it is your job to be the

When you talk to your children, are they really hearing you and understanding your message? Or, are they just listening? We’ll discuss why speaking to children can be challenging and what you can do to make sure they are understanding what you’re saying. We’ll also talk about how asking questions can help you to ensure that you and your children are on the same page. POINT #1: Communication Gaps Create Challenges when Speaking to Kids * Because you are older than your kids, you have a larger vocabulary and more refined language skills. * Sometimes, adults naturally use words and phrases that children don’t understand. * If you don’t stop to explain things to your children, this language and vocabulary gap will cause your children to listen without truly understanding you. POINT #2: Kids Need to Understand the Lesson * If your kids are just listening and not hearing, they will miss t

Life is always changing, and Luke Perisin, a stepdad of one and a father of one from southern California, learned to adapt. He’ll discuss how he adjusted his plans and goals after meeting his wife and becoming a dad. After years of being a “lifelong bachelor,” Luke also learned to adopt a different attitude to help him relate better to his wife and children. Finally, Luke will talk about how striving for patience and calm helped him to become a better father and husband. POINT #1: You Must Adapt Your Plans to Life Changes * Luke has worked as an emergency services professional for 25 years and is also a musician/actor/writer. * He had a goal of working in labor management and collective bargaining for the actors’ union after his retirement. However, after meeting his wife and stepson and having a child of his own, his needed a new plan. * Because Luke is a proactive and aggressive person, it was a shock to be in a

If you’re like most people, you have a ton of responsibilities. And guess what? It’s OK—and even beneficial—to spoil yourself. We’ll discuss how scheduling time and allowing yourself to indulge creates self-worth. Finally, we’ll talk about how shifting your perspective can help you overcome perceived financial limitations and time constraints that may be causing you to deny yourself. POINT #1: Sometimes You Have to Spoil Yourself * It’s important to schedule time to allow yourself to indulge in activities you enjoy. * When you hold back and deny yourself enjoyment, you are living in scarcity mode. * Giving yourself the things that you desire reinforces self-worth. POINT #2: Ask Better Questions So You Can Say “Yes” to Yourself * If you can’t afford to spend time or money on yourself, you need to make changes. * Instead of saying, “I can’t afford that,” you need to say, “How

The news and entertainment content you consume can affect your mindset, values and interactions with others. We’ll discuss the impact of negative content and how positive content can inspire and motivate you. Finally, we’ll talk about how you can choose the content that is right for you and your family. POINT #1: Most News Content is Negative * As a society, we’re trained to react to bad news and news outlets take advantage of that by reporting negative news to make more money. * Some news content includes “propaganda” that can promote negative values and program your response to life events and family. POINT #2: You Need to Look at Your Content-Consumption Habits * It is important for you to understand how you and your family are consuming and reacting to content, especially news. * It is not healthy or productive for you and your family to be consuming negative content all the tim