Personal Development Unplugged

The Ikigai of Stretch: A New Process for Change In this special, longer episode, we're diving into an extract from a Q&A Zoom call with my son, Joseph Clough. Joseph runs a program that helps people let go of their core issues like anxiety and negative beliefs. We each host two live Q&A calls a month, where we answer questions and introduce new concepts to the program. This particular session focuses on what I call the "Ikigai of Stretch." We explore the concept of Ikigai, which means finding your purpose, and how it can be adapted to help you change behaviors and emotions you don't like. This episode includes a detailed explanation of the Ikigai model, a new fourth circle, and a process I've developed to help you move from your present state to your desired state. The episode concludes with an eight-minute hypnosis process designed to facilitate this change. Make sure you're in a safe, distraction-free environment before you start, especially for the hypnosis segment. Enjoy the journey! 00:00:00" Thi

Simply Being Present In balance, centered and connected. Get these three things together we can be truly present. And if you could get them all in one simple way how good would that be? This follows on from a FMQ of about 4 years ago 'Making Perfect Footprints In The Sand' and I'll share this again with a little bit more that put you perfectly in the moment. It takes less than a minute and you can just be. I find this is a way to get into a 'no mind State', the 'Void' and if you were to be in nature when you do this you will feel being connected to everything. I really hope you enjoy this and maybe you'll find ways to make this even more deeper. Please share this special yet simple way that would be kind https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-449-simply-being-present/ Oh! And if you want to see the video here is the YouTube link: https://youtu.be/HyDjWksTHdY Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any ot

Who Creates Your Reality If it isn't you - Then who? We hear so often that we, YOU, create your reality but id that really the case? Can you really create your own reality? That's what this 5-minute quickie episode is about, a simple muse at first to consider all the possibilities and maybe a few suggestions. Then maybe a longer episode to find processes to be in control of the effects we see, hear and feel. So come with me and sit down for a SPELL  'O) Please share:  https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-448-who-creates-your-reality/ ‎ And if you want to join me on video: https://youtu.be/QIusLi6X5j4 Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR le

How to Deal with Being Attacked: Part Two Welcome back to the second part of our series on handling verbal attacks. In this episode, we dive into a powerful yet simple process that can be done in minutes to help you respond to triggers more harmoniously. This technique, known as the Swish Pattern from NLP, will transform how you react to those triggering moments, making you calmer and more collected. In this episode, you'll learn:   How to identify the visual or auditory triggers that set you off. The steps to use the Swish Pattern to replace negative reactions with positive ones. How to practice this technique to make it a natural response in your daily life.   Follow along and practice with me, and soon you'll find yourself reacting in a way that is healthier and more beneficial for you and those around you. Please share this episode: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/395-how-to-deal-with-being-attacked-part-2 Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questio

How To Deal With Being Attacked Part 1 Protecting Yourself from Triggered Reactions In this episode, we dive into the mechanisms our unconscious mind uses to protect us from feeling hurt or guilty. Often, these protective reactions are triggered and lead to unnecessary conflict. I'll introduce two powerful processes to help you change these triggered reactions and respond more appropriately. This episode is split into two parts to give you time to practice the first process before moving on to the second. In part one, you’ll learn a method to reflect on past conflicts and discover better ways to respond, helping you build a more effective toolbox for personal development. In this first part I dive into the what and the why and all things south and end up with one process that really can have a huge impact on resolving this issue. The process is all about training your unconscious mind to hear and see what's really happening and responding in the the most appropriate way and not just straight int Fight mode. B

Can You? Do You Keep A Secret? I get very cross when I hear about various people in the Personal Development and hypnosis world that do not share what they have learned or created, in effect keeping it a secret from others. Yet what about us? when we find something interesting, new to us how often do we immediately find people to share it with? Maybe something you hear that creates an idea in your head do you share that with others too? Come with me for a few minutes and I'll share a simple metaphor that might make us all think differently about sharing. vAnd of course maybe you would share this episode so others will get it too  'O)   https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-447-can-you-do-you-keep-a-secret       Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you d

Victory Speech and A View From The Balcony This episode is about how to achieve success. Sometimes I hear something and go YES! Someone's using the thing I was also taught because it works. And this episode is developed from listening to master negotiator William Ure and how what he said could be used to create change at the belief, emotional and behavior levels . Writing out a victory speech can help you solve problems, and formulate how you are going to achieve success and looking out from the balcony gives you a different perspective on where you're aiming for. So I've taken these separate thoughts and put them into one process which I thonk you will not only enjoy but find another way to achieve your goals and dreams. I'd love your feed back Please share https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/393-victory-speech-and-a-view-from-the-balcony     Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode plea

If You're Struggling or Lost I was reminded of something so important if you're struggling or feeling lost by my middle son Luke. I caught him on  a reel in Instagram sharing this message It won't last, this feeling will not last, just as those of the past didn't last. You will find a way you just need to reminded that you will and can. Come with me on this 5-miute muse and when you remember please share the message because, like you, they may keep these feelings hidden from the outside world and the people who care. Oh! By the way we CARE  :O)   https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-446-if-youre-struggling-or-lost And the video link to this FMQ: https://youtu.be/QIusLi6X5j4 Please also find Luke (Clough) in Iinstagram, Ticktock and at Cambridge Hypnotherapy Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If yo

Feel Good and Getting Better it me or do we all want everything NOW! Instantaneously or even quicker.I think we've fallen into the trap that instant gratification is the thing. But if we get that then we want the next thing and the next thing and I feel we miss out. Why do we want everything instantaneously? It got me thinking how does this apply to our personal development? Our dreams and desires? Enjoying the adventure and not just the elusive prize. Then I got to thinking about therapy and how I like quick and comfortable change. Is that in conflict with the adventure of developing our true self? If you would, come follow me on this little dive of of discovery of how we can create a practice of celebrating who and where we are and being curious of what's to come. It's really not how fast. It's enjoying how good and getting better. Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/392-feel-good-and-getting-better/   Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions

My Reminder To You I don't know if it's just me but I need reminding to use what I know or at least I think I do. Over the years I, and you, have learned a lot and on the most part I think we use that learning unconsciously but every now and then I get a reminder from a podcast, a video, a book or what someone might say and I go "I bloody know that!!!! why aren't I doing it? Doh!!!" So this short muse is just that - a reminder to check that we're using all the skills we have learned to move to the next level. I hope it makes sense and that you feel able to take it in the spirit it is given and maybe share it to https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-445-my-reminder-to-you/ and there's also a visual in the the form of a YouTube video here: https://youtu.be/jk-2XFf4egg Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.c

Reviewing The Past To Move Forward Now, I know what you're thinking – why dwell on the past? Isn't personal development all about the future? Well, yes and no. Here's the thing: understanding our past is like having a map. It shows us where we've been, helps us see the patterns in our journey, and guides us toward where we want to go. Think about it – when you look back at your own life, what do you see? Moments of triumph, sure, but also those stumbles and falls. And guess what? Both are equally valuable. Those victories? They remind you of your strengths and capabilities. Those mistakes? They’re not failures; they're lessons in disguise, packed with insights about what to avoid and how to navigate obstacles more effectively. Let's take a practical example: maybe you started a project that didn’t quite hit the mark. Instead of brushing it off, dissect it. What worked? What didn’t? What could you do differently next time? This kind of reflection transforms past experiences into stepping stones rather than

Just One More Equals Success Tony Robbins once asked "of the set of 10 press ups which one is the most beneficial?" the answer "The 11th" :O) To be the best version of ourselves we know we need to stretch ourselves every day but, and I don't like buts, too much leads to overwhelm and giving up that's why 'JUST ONE MORE' works. This is a short 5-minute muse to remind ourselves it's not how much but how consistent we are gets results that build on the last result and build exponentially. Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-444-just-one-more and maybe watch the video: https://youtu.be/Dl7dgtiY2Ig   Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe

Changing Your Attitude To Imposter Syndrome When you look at things differently the things you look at are different, I love that saying. So if we change the way we look at Imposter syndrome, change our attitude, Imposter syndrome changes too if not disappears. And we all suffer from Imposter Syndrome in one form or another, in different contexts, and no one escapes from it - from the rich, the famous to little old you and me. A little warning there is 4 or 5 sort of swear words near the end of the episode but they do make sense So what is it?: Imposter syndrome, a psychological phenomenon, corrodes self-esteem, creating a constant fear of being exposed as a fraud despite achievements. Individuals afflicted often doubt their abilities, attributing success to luck or circumstance rather than competence, leading to chronic stress, anxiety, and depression. This pervasive insecurity hampers professional growth, impeding career advancement and stifling creativity. Relationships suffer as affected individuals strug

Making a Habit of Feeling Great Not all habits are bad   'O) I believe when we cultivate a habit of feeling not just good but GREAT things begin to happen. Your RAS ( reticulated activating system) gets fired to look for more of the same I you believe in the Law of Attraction you frequency goes up to attract more of the same Serendipity happens more often Coincidence happens more often You get lucky So in this 5-minte muse we'll explore a way how to get this all to happen Please share this with everybody so they to can get the benefit of feeling Great https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-443-making-a-habit-of-feeling-great and the YouTube link is here too: https://youtu.be/iW_xnV6OvrU Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more

Creating Yours and My Greatest Moments I overheard someone say "My greatest successes did not come from my greatest successes but from my greatest defeats" Defeats are inevitable companions. They arrive unexpectedly, challenging our resolve and testing our mettle. However, within each defeat lies a profound opportunity for growth and learning. In this podcast episode, we delve into the invaluable lessons gleaned from our defeats and how they shape our paths towards success. Defeats are not just setbacks; they are profound teachers. They teach resilience, humility, and the art of adaptation. When we encounter failure, we are forced to confront our limitations, reassess our strategies, and emerge stronger than before. It is through defeat that we discover the depth of our determination and the power of our perseverance. Moreover, defeats cultivate empathy and understanding. They remind us that we are all fallible beings, prone to mistakes and missteps. By embracing our defeats, we foster compassion for ourselve

There Is Always Another Day, Hour or Minute Let's start over If you're like me we can berate ourselves so much worse than we would ever speak to a best friend. I have been known, only to me, to call myself some really harsh stuff. Does it help? Absolutely not!!!! It detracts completely what we were trying to do and what we want to do, yet does that stop us? In this 5-minute quickie I want to muse on how we can stop this with another way of thinking that I think, although terribly simple, re-frames everything. So come with me and press play - let's muse together Oh! If you can share this that would be kind https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-442-there-is-always-another-day-hour-or-minute and then there's the YouTube Video link  https://youtu.be/2i3AzSsuECs Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback.  If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you

Taking My Last Breath So We Can Live A Good Life If it's possible that we have only one life on this little old planet Earth what a waste to waste any of that time. Knowing you're here, I'm guessing you will feel the same as me too. So............................. What would happen if we were to imagine going to the end of our time line of the future and taking our last breath and look back on what we want to have achieved in that life time? And because it's in our imagination you can do this imagining everything you want to have done, experienced - the sight, sounds and feelings of all your dreams having been truly realized. Oh! and probably a bit more because you can   :O) And it's how we can take notice of those reminders and Ah-Ha moments that will guide us to fulfill this life with amazing times. Please come with me, it's not the longest of episodes, and I think we'll make a difference that makes the difference to a life well lived. If you like what you hear please share this episode: https://personalde

Learning By Not Copying Or Modeling the skills you want to learn Modeling excellence involves observing and understanding the methods, strategies, and mindset of those who excel in a particular field, and then adapting and applying those insights to your own work or life. It's about recognizing patterns of success and distilling the essence of what makes someone or something excellent, rather than merely copying their actions without understanding the underlying principles. When you model excellence, you're not trying to replicate every detail of what someone else does. Instead, you're looking to extract the core principles and approaches that lead to success and applying them in your own unique way. This approach allows for creativity and innovation while still benefiting from the wisdom and experience of those who have achieved excellence in your chosen field. By modeling rather than copying, you can develop a deeper understanding of what it takes to excel and tailor it to your own strengths and circumstanc

A Twist To The Act of Gratitude I often feel the act of gratitude, writing those 5 things you're grateful for can end up being a little bit by rote, and the feeling just diluted. This got me thinking of how we can vary this to keep things alive. This is not a replacement just a little spicing up and gets you thinking a little deeper about what you are grateful for. Sometimes just breaking the pattern ( a pattern interrupt) can make all the difference. And feeling grateful, truly grateful makes all the difference to our lives and what we attract in them. Please share  https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-440-a-twist-to-the-act-of-gratitude And there is as usual now a video of this recording here at YouTube https://youtu.be/lguyPPMPYHw Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to th

I'm Scarred and Imperfect PART 2 We've done the talk now it's the walk In the journey of self-discovery and personal growth, embracing imperfections isn't just about accepting them; it's also about engaging in the profound act of self-healing. When we confront our scars and imperfections head-on, we embark on a journey of healing that can lead to greater self-awareness, resilience, and inner peace. Self-healing begins with acknowledging and accepting our imperfections without judgment or self-criticism. It's about recognizing that our scars, whether physical or emotional, are part of our story but do not define us. Instead of viewing them as flaws to be hidden or fixed, we can see them as opportunities for growth and transformation. One of the most powerful tools in self-healing is self-compassion. Just as we would show kindness and understanding to a friend facing challenges, we can offer the same compassion to ourselves. Self-compassion involves treating ourselves with gentleness, patience, and understandin