Personal Development Unplugged

Your passion and how to find it - a longer podcast - Pt 1 Aren't you fed up with people pushing that you have to follow your passion and make it your life's work? Putting so much pressure on you and making you feel bad if you're not. I think when some in this niche of personal development they have an agenda and generally to leans towards their profit. So I've been thinking - Have you Cloughie? Yup! and I want to share with you my thoughts on this subject and how you may be so close to finding your Calling and the passion that goes hand in hand. This is the first part of at least two podcasts in which I hope to discover passion, calling and how to live it not follow it :O) And in those immortal words I quote so often 'IN SIMPLICITY THERE IS GENIUS' we'll find the uncomplicated and simple ways to experience just that. Are you prepared to follow me down this particular rabbit hole? Come on - Let's dive in! Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedb

Is this Ridiculous? A 5 minute quickie podcast I heard a great question whilst listening to an interview with Chris Voss on the Jordan Harbinger podcast and thought how could we use this to help us get our goals, outcomes and basically anything we dream of. Who first came up with this question I don't know but it's great to hear people sharing gold nuggets of information so freely just like we do here on this personal Development Unplugged podcast Now you know I believe questions - great questions - are a major tool in your personal development armory and this is one to add. If you add this to "What would this issue / goal /outcome look like or be if it was easy to achieve" , kindly shared by Tim Ferriss  then we're on a winner. So what's this question Cloughie? I hear you say. Well that my friend is what I'll share with you in this podcast and how we can take it from a business closing question to one we can use anywhere and use it to achieve the success in out lives we, you and I, truly deserve. Talking abo

When personal development gets uncomfortable Do you ever give up when things get uncomfortable? I have in the past, until I learnt and experienced this. If you knew that when things begin to feel uncomfortable that things were going to get better, bigger, easier and be a quantum leap you'd look forward to it or look for it wouldn't you? So many questions and if you come down this little rabbit hole with me I'll share with you what I have learnt and am still learning :O) It's good stuff and I think you'll get a lot of take aways from this as I hope you do from every episode.  Please remember if you do why not share them with me via private email feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com and this episode to a friend as you never know how much difference it may make like never knowing how far the ripples of change go. Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email m

Changing your Bias We all have a bias and would it be better to neutralise your bias to become a more balance you? If you could manage your own personal bias to ensure you get the best results - You would wouldn't you - you would - wouldn't you??? When you hear what he definition of cognitive bias you will be shocked! I was and that's why I have looked deeply into how we use our bias and more importantly how it's used by others to influence us. The more I thought about this the more interesting it got, how our internal communication filters towards our bias and how we can effect this to become balanced and in that way ensure the best results for you and create a reality that you really want and enjoy. Lets use our ability to choose and decide for ourselves Come down the rabbit hole with me on this subject and see, hear and feel how far we can go  :O) Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode plea

It's a bummer A five minute quickie podcast So what am I calling a bummer? Well - When you are using an excuse and your best friend calls you out on it - that's a bummer  :O) You see we believe we can fool some of the people all of the time and all the people some of the time and we even try (notice that horrible word) to fool ourselves and think we can get away with it. I had a friend who wold stand up and be counted because if I dodge a question or was deliberately vague he wouldn't let me get away with it. It made me think and be honest, honest with my self. Whilst that can be a little uncomfortable it really is most enlightening and empowering. Yet why should we put our friends in that difficult position? When we can simply own it and call ourselves out to be honest because we know it anyway. Let's go a little deeper in this - come with me and make a difference. Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any ot

Either or Radical or counter-intuitive Evolution or revolution? and does it have to either or? We are told, from so many places, we have to be so radical to make a significant change and only being counter-intuitive is the way. Maybe not being radical is actually counter-intuitive Oh it's so messy to think only one way and no doubt, like me, you have seen radical paths can be so destructive because they're not thought through and the only direction is to be radical. That doesn't work yet we do need to think differently to create new things. Come with me to talk about both sides of this line of thinking and see if we can come up with a way or better still ways (plural) and evolve ways to succeed in ourselves and bring others along by example. Please share and make a difference Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.

When focusing goes wrong A slightly longer podcast There's so much talk about focus and focusing and we've talked about that subject before and no doubt will again BUT this is not about that. You see we all focus and we do it really well - you just don't realize it. So what am I talking about? We have a great skill in/on focusing on the negative, what might go wrong, worst case scenarios and what frightens us then there's behaviors like OCD, phobias and the like. Show me someone with any of these issues and I'll show you how they're constantly focusing on their issue to the exclusion of everything else. Let me explain - Well you'll have to listen because that's the thing about the podcast and I'll also show you ways we can use this skill for good and to enhance your career, goals and life in general. Go on, come with me and see, hear and feel how you can make a difference and what 'take aways' you can gleam. I'd love to hear from you what you did think of this and any other of these podcasts, simply email me

 Now I'm trying too hard! Last FMQ (238) we dived into "Trying" and how that really doesn't work. This episode let's look at the other side of the issue of trying and it's in the title TOOOOO hard :O) You see what can happen when you change from trying to committing to being and doing we  can experience overwhelm - And we thought this was going to be easy - Stay with me because it will be - I promise 'Cloughie' promise. Tony Robbins hit the nail on the head when he said "people over-estimate what they can do in the short term and under-estimate what can be achieved in the long term" Come with me again to share my thoughts on how we can really achieve our dreams/goals/wants and needs and feel empowered at the same time. Yup! that's where we go in this Five Minute Quickie Podcast. When you have please share to your friends, give a review on your listening platform of choice and send me some feedback by email  feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com When you've done all that, sit back and............ Shine b

I'm trying - really A five minute quickie podcast How many times have you (and that include me) said "I'll give it a try" or "I really tried to......" you as usual fill in the blank? I hear this in my world of helping people sooooo much. A client often says that they are so desperate to change and they see, hear and feel that I have a way that might support the change they want and that I'm totally committed to help and then they say GREAT! I'll give it a try. A "TRY" -  How empty is that? To get what we want and what we deserve we need that I'll do whatever it takes attitude So what's the answer? Well I won't leave you hanging and it's not a secret and it is simple :O)  -- Come with me and listen -give it a try :O/ (Tee Hee) I think you will get more than a little gem here and as usual I'd love to here what you heard that made sense, and what didn't, so I can improve and share. Talking of sharing - please share this and the PDU podcast to at least one person, it will make so much difference you will not beli

Addictions - what are they and what can we do about them? "There's no such thing as an addiction" Bold statement I know but stay with me because when you believe what I believe you can CHOOSE. I mean if you had the choice you'd choose not to - wouldn't you? Come with me to see the world just a little bit different. This new way of seeing your world another way, my way, just may be the difference that makes the difference. Don't get me wrong in thinking I'm not recognizing the difficulties in changing or making light of this issue because I treat this area of issues really seriously. Seriously but with an intention to find a way to choose to be how you want to be and not be a slave to ....... well you fill in the blank. I'm keeping this narrative quite vague on purpose because I want you to dive deeply with me in this podcast because it's important to both of you and me. Come with me and let me explain the philosophy of how how I successfully work with this issue and even if you don't have this problem you

Feeling Sorry for yourself........... It's your choose What generally do we do when things don't go our way? Even the little things - Mostly (we choose to) feel sorry for ourselves or angry. What do we say to ourselves at this time too? "the worlds' against me" "Everything's gone wrong now!" So let's ask the question(s) What bloomin' good does behaving that way, talking that way do or achieve? - Nada! Better question.......... What could I choose to behave better say better things? These questions presume you have a choice And .......... YOU DO! Come and explore this with me in this short podcast and see what we can learn. Send me your feedback, what you learnt and what other ways you found to do things differently via the special email - feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Awesome :O) Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevel

When things go wrong - A five minute quickie podcast When things go wrong it's amazing how we can generalize this into every thing we do or are doing and the effect can be disastrous! So what happens, what do we do when something doesn't go right or the way we want it? What do you say to yourself? What are those dis-empowering words we say and what emotions do the evoke? It all goes 'reels of cotton' Let's go through some times in the past when we did that and learn so we can change the way respond and how that can effect our physiology. You see changing the little things in out lives, changing simply things that generalize to other area of our lives can have a far greater effect than going for the 'biggie'. Let's ask ourselves some different questions and notice it's not that difficult - in fact it's easier than you imagine. Have a listen and enjoy. If you do remember it 's great to send in your feedback as it gets the results to sink in deeper and allows them to be shared and help so many others and that fe

Remember the positives because ............ A longer podcast "You are a product of your experiences" A throw away line in a conversation between Joe Rogan and Sam Harris made me think how much of your experiences do we consider? You see we tend to remember the negative times/events in our life and let that define us. That's totally understandable because of our built-in defense mechanism, our reptilian part of our mind that continues to protect us from all those Sabre Toothed tigers :O) Then I got to think about what would happen if we could take learnings from all the events of our past and use them - then we really would be a total product of our experiences. We've got the best computer in the world on top of our shoulders and in every fibre and muscle so it wouldn't really be a problem to do so. The thing is to get this underway we going to need the help of our conscious mind first and get it to send your unconscious mind in the right direction. "How do we do that?"   I hear you ask Have a listen and I'll

Careful what you listen to People can be really good hypnotists even when and especially when they haven't been trained to be one. You see sometimes a hypnotist will say one thing and slip in another thing which you don't consciously notice but it goes in all the same. You see I was listening to two people have a nice, deep and meaningful conversation and all was good then I noticed, because I have been trained to do so, heard a few words that just seemed so innocuous yet so powerful and they went in without being notices. You have to be so careful what you listen to or you may be infected by others beliefs which could be totally incorrect yet you may take them on uncritically. This may seem really sinister but if you have a listen you'll hear what was said and understand why I'm bringing it to your attention. So......... have a listen and let me know what you think. You can do that through the special email I set up feedback@personadevelopmentunplugged.com Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a

Seeing is believing and following on from my promise in FMQ 234  What three quarter of a million people didn't get here's the visualization track I have recorded especially for you and your continued success in anything you want to accomplish.

What three quarter of a million people didn't get And yes there's a process recorded for you to use, download and create so many great things in your life. Did you know some people don't think they can visualize and don't realise when they do? Some think it has to be in 20/20 vision and that can be so far from the truth - I will explain what I think the truth of the quality of your visualizations. I'll start with a little experiment so show you the power of visualizing and the effect it has on our emotions  - it's such a great skill even if you think it's too simple. Hey the old 'In simplicity there is genius' means we can use this skill in so many different ways, easily, comfortably and with great effect with so little effort. The thing is this not 'whoo whoo la la' it has a biological background too - the RAS the reticulating activating system From a YouTube video with over 3/4 million watches  they missed the one thing that makes this skill work - what a shame  :O( and I couldn't let it go. I had to let yo

The perfect morning routine (Ritual) What is the perfect morning routine or maybe the most perfect evening routine? What is /are the most prefect Rituals that start your day or end? There are some many who tell us of what this perfect way to be, if you search the internet/YouTube you'll be over whelmed at the amount of noise in the area. This can be so destructive as when we can't follow these 'Perfect' ways these 'Perfect' Rituals and make us feel so guilty because we fail at being perfect. I am not saying morning routines are wrong because they are really important when we do them our way and even make them - Wait for it - We make them our DAILY ROUTINES and consistently do things that help us grow. Let's use these - well the shining examples - and model what is being shared and adapt it to suit ourselves. I'll share with you a couple of examples from my coaching clients and how we made it totally possible and successful. I'll even share my flexible way that I think will encourage you to find your way and f

What's behind a behavior? Let's have a look at the way people behave and how we react to that behavior. Did you know people are not their behaviors? I have learnt so much by this simple presupposition from NLP. People are not stupid they believed stupidly. I am one of the worlds worst at trying to keep myself to myself, I think I can hide it yet all the time I'm communicating exactly how I feel behind my behavior to the outside world. I wonder where you can see this and wonder what's going on below the surface or simply have been doing what I have been doing and sending out all the wrong signals. Maybe places where we can be compassionate to what appears to be a negative behavior ans the cause is really something else and how much of a difference that compassion can make. This might not make perfect sense but if you listen all way through I think you will and it will make a difference to how you are in this world. Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests

The morning after - A 5 minute podcast What are the reactions that happen after some deep self work or working with a therapist? They're always the same aren't they? The thing is generally it's different for most people and sometimes different each time and that can worry some people because it's not always what they expect. The saying 'Expect the unexpected' springs to mind' I wanted to take that concern away and share with you some ways I have reacted and ways some of my clients have too. And guess what ? they are all different. I hope you both (not the both of you) enjoy and find this impromptu podcast beneficial and interesting. It was something that caught my thoughts and I decided to record it on the fly do to speak. I'll leave to rest to your ears - have fun As always, do let me know your thoughts and maybe the ways you have been following some personal work. Please do this via the email feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to share this and any other of the podcasts and subscribe to y

The one thing that stops you A slightly longer podcast Ever had the experience of doing something on impulse? maybe an Ah Ha moment or a burst of inspiration? They don't seem to choose and come from negative or positive places/events in your life. Can you remember some of yours? I was remembering some of mine and I'll share them with you here and then let's explore how we didn't let obstacles get in our way, we were 'buzzed' and full of unstoppable energy. The thing is they all have one thing, at least one thing, in common and when you get to recognize it and can replicate it we are on a winner. This may seem on the surface to be a bit complicated but if you've been here before you will know we break down the complicated into simple and easy to do steps. So go on - press play and enjoy.You never know of all the wonders waiting for you  :O) Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share an