Personal Development Unplugged

Dealing With Anger PART 1 Another episode based on a listener's email telling of their battle with anger and how the effects were ruining every part of their life. And I know this is not an isolated issue having worked with clients with debilitating anger. It affects most of us to some degree or other and it is not, I beleive, acceptable in any way and yes I too have and do work on this. I have split this between two episodes, so they are just the right size to get it and the work on it. Even if you say to yourself Well I'm not an angry person - you don't have to be angry all the time to work on it - deal with the snowball before it grows bigger as it slowly rolls down the hill - nip it in the bud. The stories I share are of real people and how quickly they were able to let go of their anger and the effects when they did. And you won't have to wait long for the second episode as I've swapped it with the next FMQ. It's so important to learn about the negative emotions in our lives and how we can deal with them

Who Creates Your Reality It's lovely to think you create your reality. It's said with abandon in self-development circles but is it really true? And if you don't who does? And can you - really? Well ............................ Let's take 5 minutes or so to muse on this and understand how your reality is created and by whom. Come on, sit down for a SPELL and press play and I'll begin. Here's a link you can use to share too: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-429-who-creates-your-reality/ And here's a link to the video of this FMQ  https://youtu.be/fdvRnbCV2MY Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designe

Back To The Obvious That should be that isn't So many make, or try to make things complicated and hard to follow and I guess in their eyes it makes them look good. Oh! And this is not a rant on this topic, this time it's just an observation. This topic, Back to the obvious is about the thing we forget and is hiding in plain sight. I have seen it many times and one example of being brave was when my son, Joseph, went to an NLP seminar to see one of the originators of NLP, and what happened was   ........ You know the thing it's a podcast and you will have to press play and listen. But it made a lasting impression on me. Similarly, when I have had my doubts serendipity has stepped in on a similar vain - Yes Again, You know the thing it's a podcast and you will have to press play and listen. I guess you're getting the picture, loud and clear After you have listened and enjoyed the sharing please feel free to pay it forward and share to 3 more https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/375-back-to-the-obvious/ Shi

Turning Pain Into Pleasure Some human beings find it today acceptable to inflict pain to others for gain and we're the only species that does that. And my musing in this episode is how can we reverse that in our little world? Instead of pain how can we inflict pleasure, happiness, and good STUFF on the people we meet, our friends and family? It's a short but sweet episode simply to get those cogs whirring and hopefully action. If you enjoy this episode feel free to share with one AND ALL https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-428-turning-pain-into-pleasure/ And the YouTube link:  https://youtu.be/6snGfgxyzZM Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR le

Making Space and not just the one outside Some of us believe our environment is the last thing to concern ourselves with. If you believe in your skills and know you can do them then you know you can do them anywhere. That means no excuses. But what about our internal environment? Our state of mind or emotion to get peak performance has a crucial part to play, I'd probably say the most crucial. I'll explain that more clearly in this episode, promise. So whether it's being able to work with your goals and dreams, problems, decisions, self-work, or anything you want to do well I think this is the dogs' b's.      :O) And we'll go deep into the things you can do to put yourself into the right state, emotion, in any environment so you can excel anywhere. That means no excuses. It's really simple and fun and works like a dream. So dive in and press play, it is a podcast after all Oh! sharing is good too https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/374-making-space/ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a co

FMQ 427 Review Not Resoluting or should it resolution? If you have listened to this podcast for a while you will know I am not a big fan of New Year's Resolutions, in fact not a fan at all. Why? Because to try to make changes by tradition on one day of the year which are almost doomed to fail seems like a waste. Especially when we have 365 days in most years to create positive changes in our lives and can do it every one of those 365 (that's forgetting leap years). So in this 5-Minute Quickie, I give you something to muse (and do) that I think beats NYR's hands down. Come with me and let's muse and notice the difference that I suggest could make in your personal development, which is why you're here I guess. Oh! And as usual please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-427-review-not-resoluting/ And the YouTube link to see the lovely me https://youtu.be/DjgSc3lRh2w Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed

Months of Therapy - Really?? I believe therapy should be quick, easy, and comfortable and I have witnessed so many times I think I'm right. Even if I wasn't, and I am, it's the best belief a therapist can have along with 'my client can do this!' So what follows is a little Cloughie rant and then suggestions on how therapy can be quick, easy, and comfortable. I guess this rant happens once or twice a year when I hear people, some may call influencers and aren't we all, say things that don't help anyone suffering and in need of help. Let me know your thoughts and please share and guide others who need help https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/373-months-of-therapy-really/ ‎ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click

Feeling Grateful But Differently I don't know if you're like me, I believe in the feeling of gratitude and how it connects to your unconscious mind the feelings of what makes your life rich. Maybe, like me, you get stale in writing out 'The Act of Gratitude' in your journal. To me, it can feel repetitive and rote. So in this 5-minute Quickie, I muse on how can I still notice the things I'm grateful for in a different way and I think you may enjoy and do it too. Please share https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-426-feeling-grateful-but-differently And the all important YouTube link: https://youtu.be/DmURKPqvMSQ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe O

F#ck The Noise How can we be free from all the noise that distracts us from being who we really are and can be? This is in effect Wakey Wakey #3 in an attempt to wake up from a dream, being sleep. Like my friend Tim Freeke's book Lucid Living questions are we dreamers dreaming this life or can we awake from it? For me, it's all the noise that deafens our senses and tries to manipulate our thoughts and behaviors. Is it just me, I plan my week, my days or should I say daze and when I look back over the day I find I missed and sometimes didn't even think of those things I intended to do. Please say it's not just you Cloughie. And what do I do when I notice this? I give myself a really good dressing down - How's that working for me? The thing is every year, maybe every month or week, there's new noise to take your attention away from creating a great life. So how do we combat this intrusion and manipulation? Well, I'll tell you by following in part Jocko Willink, David Goggins, and Joe Rogan to name but three ( I

Rewind To Kindness A little bit of a personal sharing of a behavior I am not proud of and want to change. I think when you listen you may well experience the same emotions and behavior and know its consequences if not checked. And the thing is we know it's not a good thing to do or be yet we, well me, still do it. But I found the simplest way to make amends and recognize the failing and thereby hope we, I, will get it right more than I get it wrong. What is it Cloughie, this behaviour?!!! Passive agression - passive agressive. And it's not that passive is it? It's only a 5-minute quickie episode so have a listen and see if it resonates. After you do please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-425-rewind-to-kindness/ Oh! Nearly forgot the YouTube link if you want to watch https://youtu.be/Q8dBIWpRc14 Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email m

Day Dream Believer Are you? Do you? What do I mean about all that? Well, we all daydream and most of the time we don't realize we're doing it. That can be a bit of a shock if you are one of those people who think they can't visualize because you do it perfectly when you daydream. The thing is I am not talking of those daydreams we simply get lost in and then forget them when things interrupt us. So what are you talking about Cloughie? I hear you ask. I am talking about deliberate daydreaming, using this natural superpower, this natural phenomenon to create confidence, success, and anything you want. The great thing it's easy, simple, and takes no time at all or as much time as you like because when you do it the feeling you get is also great! How am I going to do that Cloughie? Well if this was an article I'd write it out for you but it isn't so as always you will have to press play, listen, and take notes. And maybe get yourself a Dream Book - available at all good stationers  :O) Please share https://perso

How Interesting Hopefully, this will get you thinking just as it did me It's about being interested but in what? That's what I want you to muse just as I did. Confused? All will become clear after you press play Enjoy and share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-424-how-interesting/ ‎ and the video https://youtu.be/x-I9I8okJiA Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed programs for developing Supreme Inner Confidence, Free Your Life of Anxiety and specialize Hypnosis tracks go to PaulCloughOnline.com If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter

Creating The Real You If we could do this in half an hour that would be magic and I am not a magician. Creating the real you is a work in progress and you wouldn't be here if you thought otherwise. This episode is inspired by reading 'The Creative Act' by Rick Ruben famously from a music background. As I read it (well I am not finished yet) I kept comparing his thoughts on creativity in music to that of personal development, and self-improvement. The terms of finding our true voice and the privilege of being able to create just resonated with me and I hope I can resonate with you with my comparisons and a process or two. I also look at what stops us in this creating of our true self, those limiting beliefs of "I'm not worth it" or " I don't belong here" and how we can change those and find more supporting beliefs and their associated emotions and behaviors. Please join me by pressing play and I hope you enjoy  :O) Please share if you do https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/370-creating-the-real-you/ Agai

Thinking About Thinking  A 5-Minute Muse I used to think I thought about things but after a while, I thought about that and decided I didn't, or if I did I didn't do it very well. How well do you think? And could you think better and deeper? I was a lazy thinker. A lot of the time I used to leave it all up to my unconscious mind and wait, and guess what? Yup! I just waited and waited. Let's have a muse, so please come with me for 5 minutes or so after which you may think to share this  :O) https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-423-thinking-about-thinking/ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review Remember for my specially designed progr

Right Here Right Now - I'm Safe Past events and memories can and do evoke negative emotions such as anger, fear, hurt, and guilt - you fill in the blank along with their associated limiting beliefs. And we continue to feel them long after they have finished. We get anxious, worry, panic - you fill in the blank thinking of things that might happen in the future and play wonderous movies in our head of all the bad things that might happen. AND....... They are all in your head. The past is gone, finished, it's over and the future hasn't happened which all means tight here, right now those negative emotions, beliefs, and internal movies are all of your own making because right here, right now you are safe. In this episode, we'll look into how to change this by choosing a safer way to be because all these other ways are no longer appropriate. Getting your unconscious mind to find and access ways to keep you safe and deal with all that Negative 'STUFF'. Please come with me on this dive down the rabbit hole and see,

If You Believe Act Like You Do I was listening to someone who some like and some don't, Russell Brand and he said something that struck me and, made me think and connect to NLP. What did he say Cloughie? If you believe in God, act like you do" And that rang the bell inside my head ACT AS IF and how often do we do that? I know we know the concept but how consistent are we at doing that? And if we did act as if with the positive mindset of our ultimate vision we have of ourselves more often wouldn't our lives be so much richer? It's just a 5-minute muse to get us thinking https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-422-if-you-believe-act-like-you-do and to see me recording this https://youtu.be/G8KVOUR7bq4 Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here

#368 Magical Steps How many magical steps to create the life you want, to find the real you, to find and follow your passion? Have a look at YouTube you will find all manner of the correct number of steps which all, if not most, are BS and when you look are 'Clickbait'. There are a specific number of magical steps but they are never the same for everyone or specific projects. I'll share a true story of how Joseph, My youngest son, and I were given magical steps to create, or better said, increase our NLP and Hypnosis trainings. This has stayed with me and used, and adapted to create other successful outcomes so if that's of interest listen up!    :O) And I also believe you are in the best position to take advantage because of your intention to create that life of being the best version of you - You wouldn't be here if you didn't. I promise I won't leave you hanging without the How-to, the process, it's all here. I'd love to hear of your success and sharing those will really allow you to recognize just how far

A New Way To Learn Something New Is this new? I think so but is there really anything that's new these daze? Disregarding the above this five-minute quickie episode is merely to get you to consider a different approach to learning something that is difficult and could lead to frustration and if it works, and I think it does, has to be a good thing. It starts with looking at what you want to learn or improve in a way that you spend less time on it and more time on what you're good at. I think 'they' call it counter-intuitive So spend the next 5 or so minutes with me and see, hear and feel what you think of this approach and after you do please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-421-a-new-way-to-learn-something-new and there's a video of this of me recording this episode on YouTube https://youtu.be/V8qtU8IP1Mg Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. J

#367 Getting Better Every Day For me, personal development is partly striving to be a better me every day, just a bit, bit by bit. This is both a long-term goal and the steps along the way to constantly be the best version of me to find the REAL ME. And that's great but we need specificity (Don't you just love that word?  :O) Let's take a look at this thing I've termed 'Wheels and Spokes' and you will find it's a constant work in progress. Wheels are the different areas/contexts of your life and the spokes that make up the wheel. I'm sure I didn't coin this myself but the metaphor helps me. The thing is whilst you can't work on every area at once when you work on one other areas just tend to improve as well -Cool! If we miss out on this specificity (love it) I think we can experience negative emotions such as anger, sadness, fear, anxiety, and even grief. So.............. we will dive into the HOW'S which is, to me, the thing so many don't do and I pride myself in sharing. So without further ado, this is a po

Where Do I Start I Don't Know The First Step This is not a goal-setting episode because if you don't know what to do first toward what you want it won't help. Why is that Cloughie? Well, when we think we have no clue what to do or have too many what to do's we get overwhelmed and "Oh No! I'm procrastinating again!" and you're not and we all do it some time or other. And there is a solution and guess what? It's both simple, we like simple, and it's easy as in not complicated. If you don't know where you want to go there is no step to take and if it's not important to you then you probably won't want to start or finish. So..... Obviously, you do need to know where you want to go or achieve and it has to be important to you - Your why. Then what? Well you know this is a podcast, a listen-and-learn thing, so come with me by pressing play >>>> sit comfortably and we'll begin   :O) Oh! And as usual, it is always kind to share and pay it forward https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-420-where-do-i-start-i-do