Pirate Monk Podcast

On this episode: Aaron talks to returning guest Chris Bruno. Chris leads story work counseling at Re-story Counseling, and guides groups of men at the Restoration Project. Aaron and Chris discuss the history of “rites of passage,” women raising boys, and consequences of boys going to approximations of manhood. Chris has written a new book called: Man Maker Project. This book helps guide males (and females), even without kids, in fatherhood, brotherhood, and sonship. Join along as they offer hope and love on this part of the journey. Links:   ReStory Counseling Restoration Project Man Maker Project: A Father’s Guide to Initiating His Son Into Manhood Sage: A Man’s Guide Into His Second Passage Brotherhood Primer: A Man’s Guide To Turning Buddies into Brothers Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this

On this episode: Aaron, Mark, and Jason start the show at 9:05pm Tennessee time. Mark talks about sharing his story in a co-ed setting. Our Guest: Nate and Aaron talk with Ian and Tamara Dowling. Ian gets excited and talks fast. He shares about how his childhood abuse and introduction to pornography shaped his view of relationships. They discuss the importance of seeking healing for yourself and not to save a relationship. Ian and Tamara share how their marriage has healed and grown as they have experienced healing in therapy and intensives. They also discuss the financial hardships and how it led them to begin Lit Path Ministries to give scholarships and help others on their healing journeys. Links:   Lit Path Ministries Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of

Our Guest: This week, Aaron interviews Matt Wade. Matt’s life started as a small boy. He’s now a couples counselor specializing in EFT therapy. Matt discusses his journey of not being supported in becoming a pastor and how he had more of a passion for ministry than a passion for Jesus. He shares how his childhood abuse led to promiscuity to find acceptance and love. Matt encourages us with the healing that occurs in relationships once there is empathy for one another. Intimacy is established where there is no secrecy. Matt leads us to engage our spouse in curiosity, not judgement. Links:   Unstuck Therapy Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Su

Our Guest: Aaron has a talk with Trent Dollyhigh. Trent is from Mayberry. Yes, that Mayberry. He grew up with whistling, fishing, violence and pornography. Trent was also youth pastor to Andrew Bauman. He shares that Andrew was a student of his and now he is a student of Andrew. Trent discusses how unresolved trauma is usually repeated, and the value of understanding an abuser's history. In his ministry, Trent “helps men die a good death so they can live a good life.” Finally, he addresses why having intelligence is not enough to heal. Links:   Be Vulnerable Mentoring Christian Counseling Center Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for

On this episode: Pablito is not Nate, and Rob is back from retirement. Together, they compare improv to recovery. Our Guest: Aaron and Tim Ice interview Joel Roberts. Joel shares his transition from military career to becoming a therapist. He discusses how our culture and church are not characteristically raising men to be husbands and fathers, and how important it is to pursue growth in those areas. Understanding why it is important of share your story from the perspective of villain, victim, and hero. Links:   Deeper Stories Counseling Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is availabl

On this episode: This week Aaron goes solo. Our Guests: Daniel Weiss and Josh Glaser. Josh is executive director at Regeneration Ministries where he works with parents, equipping them in the digital age with kids. Daniel comes from Focus on the Family, where he specialized in healthy sexuality for families and now, he equips leaders to promote Gospel-centered sexuality in the church. Together, these gentlemen co-authored a book to parents from parents titled: Treading Boldly Through a Pornographic World: A field Guide for Parents. The book helps parents get involved in discussions about the body and sex with their children. It also helps the parents address their own sexual stories. Finally, it helps parents understand why this is important, addressing what is the good in all of this. Links:   Josh Glaser, Regeneration Ministries Daniel Weiss, Sexual Integrity Leaders, Inc. Book:  Treading Boldly Through a Pornographic World: A field Guide for Parents. Events: 2024 Samson Summit If you have thoughts or questi

On this episode: Nate and Aaron made it back from England. Aaron gets up at 2am. Our Guest: Aaron and Nate have a discussion with Justin, Jason, and Mark. Nate is anxious about going to a group intensive lead by Andrew Bauman and wants the guys to give him the lowdown. Justin, Jason, and Mark share what they experienced as they recently went through the retreat together. They share how recovery is more than an intellectual fix or sobriety. The group discusses why it's important to have multiple avenues in the process of recovery. How recovery is an adventure and not a death march. Links:   Andrew Bauman 4-Day Retreats Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsoc

On this episode: Nate is travelling. Aaron hosts solo and has many sub points. Our Guest: Dr. Joel Muddamalle. Joel resides in North Carolina via Chicago. He co-hosts a podcast with Lysa TerKeurst and Jim Cress called Therapy and Theology. Joel shares his journey of trauma to arrogance then humility. He guides us to see how safe curiosity brings us to humility and back to our own humanity. Joel also shows us that we can have peace and rest via codependency on God. He gives some practical exercises on sharing with others to help us see ourselves in truth to overcome the lies of our past. Links:   Joel Muddamalle Therapy and Theology Podcast Books:  The Hidden Peace: Finding True Security, Strength, and Confidence Through Humility Weakness is the Way: Life with Christ Our Strength by: J.I. Packer Events: 2024 Samson Summit If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on

On this episode: Nate and Aaron talk about Father's Day in England and time zone challenges. Aaron smokes everything, even asparagus. Our Guest: Returning guest Michael Johnson became a marriage expert as a single person and felt led to start a marriage ministry after 10 years in his own marriage. The discussion includes seeing beyond the obvious by supplementing feelings with facts. How to reprogram your sex drive by keeping dating out in the open. Michael shares why its so easy to fall for the wrong person. Fun facts include stats about arranged marriages and love marriages being basically equal in happiness and success, and that your sex drive is good. Links:   Future Marriage University Book: Date Like You Know What You Are Doing Book: Fit To Be Tied Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this pod

On this episode: Aaron gets socks, and Nate just got back from recovery church. Our Guest: Matthew & Joanna Raabsmith are founders of Renewing Us Recovery, where they help couples renew and repair relationships affected by sexual addiction, infidelity, and betrayal. Matthew shares his journey from youth pastor back to seminary where he and Joanna learned of the connection between therapy, psychology, and faith. He also talks about his road to recovery from sexual addiction through the 12-step process, and later to helping other couples in the healing process. Matthew & Joanna share the importance of having community -- males, females, and couples -- to go deep together. Links:   Renewing Us Recovery Free stuff from Matthew & Joanna Book: Building True Intimacy Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The

On this episode: Aaron has been writing. He turns one book into several books. Nate and Aaron also discuss the gospel, recovery, and dealing with the internal parts. Our Guest: Fausto Estrada shares how his story of addiction took him from Honduras to a place of healing in Calgary, Alberta, Canada. He shares that reading more books, getting married and having kids did not cure his addiction. He became involved in Prodigals International. After much success, he translated the material to take to those in need in Spanish speaking cultures. Links:   Prodigals International - en Español Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who

On this episode: Nate changed religions to pescatarian and Aaron talks about when he was vegan. They also discuss the podcast break and England long-walk. Our Guest: Leslie Vernick - host of Relationship Truth: Unfiltered podcast. They discuss the reality that new curtains don’t fix the termites in the basement of our relationships. Leslie explains the truth that we want people in our lives, but some people use each other as objects. She gives examples of many types of abuse that can happen in a relationship. There is hope for change. We have to own what we do and do what it takes to get better. There is a difference between healthy and unhealthy sinners. She gives many pointers to husbands and wives for intimacy, restoration and amends. Links:   Leslie Vernick Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Podcast Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to pirate

On this episode: Aaron is tired and cleans the fridge. Nate talks about the dragon of our age. Our Guest: Aundi Kolber - licensed professional counselor, author, speaker, wife, and mom. She shares her journey of being raised in the Catholic church and complex trauma. She encourages us to be present, loving, honoring, and respecting ourselves along the journey as she discusses her books Strong Like Water and Try Softer. Links:   Aundi’s Website Aundi’s Instagram Psychology Today Aundi’s Books: Try Softer Try Softer Guided Journey Strong Like Water Strong Like Water Guided Journey Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who hav

On this episode: Aaron rides an exercise bike and figures out how to get paid to exercise. Nate reconsiders his gym membership. Our Guest: Michael Ayala-White, a Buffalo NY native, is a Trauma Informed Certified Coach who is located in Buffalo, NY, but his certification is global and does remote coaching with clients all over the country. He specializes in addiction recovery, inner child work, and trauma informed coaching. He talks about the differences between toxic shame and everyday shame and how to work on them in healthy ways. Michael discusses his disconnects between reading the Bible, memorizing verses, and his inability to stop his addiction. Helping us see that recovery and healing involves ALL of you and can take many paths. Links:   Wayward Coaching Michael’s Email Boulder Recovery Tin Man Ministries Voice of the Heart by: Chip Dodd Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing by: Jay Stringer Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or question

On this episode: Nate observes people starting to walk on sidewalks. Aaron shares his crush on Anne of Green Gables. Our Guest: Kim Evenson comes to us from Oslo Norway by way of Australia. He discusses the desire and need for close male relationships. Kim shares the foundation of friendship being love, and including compassion, vulnerability, comfort, hugs, and seeing each other face to face. He started Brothers first out of selfish need, along with the desire to help others. We also consider friendship as we look at the relationships modeled by God and Jesus. Links:   Brothers Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who hav

On this episode: Nate and Aaron discuss ADHD, convergent and divergent thinking. How someone with ADHD isn’t broken. Our Guest: Rachel Allen has lived in Alabama and Tennessee, and now calls Utah her home. She is a CSAT who works with a lot of women and couples. She shares her fascination with human behavior and how she started explaining sexuality to women in college. Rachel urges women not to Google Women’s Sexuality, especially in considering rape and purity culture, women’s masturbation, and sexual addiction. She educates on sexual anorexia, shame, body hate, control, and dopamine hits. Rachel also disputes society's incorrect message that women are responsible for men's thoughts. Links:   Healing Paths Recovery Rachel Allen’s Email Books: Come As You Are by: Emily Nagoski Girls & Sex: Navigating the Complicated New Landscape by: Peggy Orenstein Organizing Solutions for People with ADHD by: Susan Pinsky Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that

On this episode: Aaron and Nate each allow Dr. Andrew J. Bauman to lead them in some therapy work. This episode is subdivided into two parts: first with Aaron and then with Nate, where Dr. Bauman walks them through exercises to connect their mind, feelings, body, and spirit for healing. Andrew will be the lead speaker at the 2024 Samson Summit, sharing how we can be closer to God through engaging our secrets and shame.  Links:   Andrew J. Bauman Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Sa

Our Guest: Aaron interviews our guest, Dr. Tamara Rosier. Dr. Tamara is an ADHD coach, and the founder of the ADHD Center in West Michigan. She shares her knowledge and history of ADHD going back to the 1800’s. Ways to cope with the thing that gives you reoccurring anxiety, including emotionally engineering your day. The fact that ADHD people are more susceptible to addiction, because dopamine makes them feel more “normal.” Other topics include ADHD in marriage, supporting kids with ADHD, Convergent and Divergent Thinking, and flight, flight, freeze, and appease. Links:  d Dr. Tamara Rosier Books: Your Brain’s Not Broken: Strategies for Navigating Your Emotions and Life with ADHD Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com

On this episode: Nate and Aaron debate one day for p@rn. Nate updates us on his speaking engagements. Our Guest: Nate and Aaron interview our guests, Chelsea and Layton Boeve. Chelsea and Layton host the Liberator podcast. The Michiganders share their journey that brought them to their passion for strong and healthy relationships. Layton grew up without TV and became a voracious reader which started his journey into fantasy and later porn. Chelsea brings us to an understanding of how trust is broken with image consumption. The couple shares how healing in a relationship happens as fast as the weaker person heals. Links:   Liberator Podcast Events: Samson Society Recovery Marathon 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For mo

On this episode: Nate and Aaron discuss 13 foot, 5 inch Oscar. Nate builds a screened-in treehouse. Our Guest: Natives of Miami, Josh and Charlene share their real-life experiences with alcoholism and substance abuse. Josh also talks about sex and work addiction and trading one addiction for another as part of his recovery in 12-step. Charlene’s journey in recovery includes becoming a certified addiction professional and an IITAP certified sex addiction therapist (CSAT). Josh’s journey includes becoming a sponsor and recovery coach. Together they have created an online intensive program for outpatient recovery treatment. Links:   Intimacy E-HAB Books: Comfort Crisis By: Michael Easter Scarcity Brain By: Michael Easter Addict America By: Dr. Carol Clark Events: Samson Society Recovery Marathon 2024 Samson Path Walk in England 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please d