Sexology

Welcome to episode 204 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT to the podcast. In this episode Ian speaks with me about the psychological reasons men have low desire, the negative consequences shame can have on your sex life and learning to reconnect with your sexual self.    Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT is a licensed marriage and family therapist and nationally recognized sexuality counselor who specializes in sex therapy, couples therapy and working with individuals on a range of relational issues. Ian is the New York Times best-selling author She Comes First (Harper Collins), which has been translated into more than a dozen languages. He regularly consults for articles in major publications such as The Atlantic and The Economist, and he also writes on the topic of sex for CNN Health. He is the co-director of the sex therapy program at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy, one of New York's oldest and most respected not-for-profit mental health training an

Welcome to episode 203 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Dr. Judson Brandeis to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Brandeis talks to me about the issues of low testosterone, how can you increase your testosterone levels and analyzing how a healthy lifestyle will lead to a better sex drive.     Dr. Judson Brandeis is a board-certified urologist specializing in men's sexual medicine. Brandeis has always been on the cutting edge of Urology. Dr. Judson Brandeis has been voted by SF Magazine as a Top Urologist in the SF Bay Area from 2014 to 2020.  In February of 2019, he opened his male-oriented office in San Ramon to focus his practice entirely on men’s sexual health and rejuvenation. BrandeisMD is a national leader in technology and innovations in sexual medicine.  Dr. Brandeis is the National Director of Clinical Excellence for GAINSWave and created and runs the SWEET Study, the largest study of Shockwave Therapy for ED ever.     Brandeis has appeared on The Doctor's TV

Welcome to episode 202 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Jeff Abraham to the podcast. In this episode Jeff speaks to me about premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction, common questions that men bring up when talking about these issues and we take a look at the scientific studies and credentials around Promescent.    Jeff Abraham is the CEO of Absorption Pharmaceuticals, whose lead product, Promescent, is addressing a global need for men suffering from Premature Ejaculation and Erectile Dysfunction. He and his team are dedicated to bringing innovative products to market that solve sexual performance issues for both men and women. With over 10-years experience in the field of sexual wellness, Jeff has seen and heard from thousands of couples and is a great thought leader in the space.    In this episode, you will hear:     Common questions that men bring up about their sexuality when talking about premature ejaculation   The differences between men and women on w

Welcome to a bonus Halloween episode of the Sexology Podcast! On this episode, I talk about how you can get playful with Halloween themes in the bedroom with my guest, sex therapist and host of Sex Talk with Erika, Erika Miley.   Erika Miley is the founder and practice owner of The Center for Mental and Sexual Health. She believes in accessible, confidential, and comfortable therapy. Erika graduated from Whitworth University with a Master’s of Education in Clinical Mental Health. She has worked in public agencies, prisons, and in her own private practice. Erika’s specialty lies in Sexuality, working with monogamous and non-monogamous couples, non-binary genders, as well as people who suffer from anxiety and depression.   In this episode, you will hear: The importance of incorporating fun in your sex life during these turbulent times Tapping into different dynamics to surprise your partner Role playing by dressing up in costumes Changing locations for something exciting and new How to work in exhibitionism in

Today on the Sexology Podcast we are celebrating our 200th episode! We’ll be revisiting past episodes that our listeners selected as the ones that helped them the most and provided the best sex advice.     In this episode, you will hear clips from:     Dr. Lonnie Barbach, a clinical-social psychologist, has received numerous awards for her work on sexuality and has written a dozen books on relationships, sexuality and menopause in addition to a number of video tapes and audio tapes.      http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2019/04/02/how-to-please-your-lover-by-dr-lonnie-barbach      Dr. Alison Ash is a sex and intimacy coach and educator, lecturer at Stanford University, author, and founder of TurnON.love.     http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2019/12/03/art-and-science-of-seduction-with-dr-alison-ash/      Caitlin V is a sex and relationship coach who helps men become amazing lovers and incredible partners.     http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2019/08/20/how-to-last-longer-in-bed/    

Welcome to episode 199 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Tina speaks with me about overcoming religious shame around sex, taking a look at the historical context of abstinence and learning how to remain within your religion whilst having a healthy sex life.     Dr. Tina is a vibrant thought leader around issues of sexuality, intimacy, and spirituality. Her life’s work is centered around rooting out the causes of sexual shame and providing tools that disarm and demystify all the negative messages that we receive in American culture and so often in religious circles. She regularly speaks at events, conferences, intimacy retreats, churches, and universities around the country.     Dr. Tina is a sex therapist, former professor of Marriage and Family Therapy at Seattle Pacific University, founder of the Northwest Institute on Intimacy, AASECT-certified supervisor, mother, wife, and author. She is currently doing work o

Welcome to episode 198 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Dr. Rebecca Gibson to the podcast. In this episode Rebecca speaks with me about sex robots, how people become attracted to them, why they won’t help you with relational skills and what the future holds as technology and AI continue to improve.   Rebecca Gibson is an adjunct professor at American University and Indiana University South Bend. Her published works include "Desire in the Age of Robots and AI: An Investigation in Science Fiction and Fact" (Palgrave Macmillan 2019) and "The Corseted Skeleton: A Bioarchaeology of Binding" (Palgrave Macmillan 2020).   She holds a PhD in Anthropology from American University, and when not writing or teaching can be found reading mystery novels amidst a pile of stuffed animals.      In this episode, you will hear:  What are sex robots?   How did Rebecca become interested in this line of work?  Why is there a lack of male sex robots?  Looking at the reasons

Welcome to episode 197 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Dr. Stephen Diamond to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Diamond talks to me about how we can best use the daimonic in our lives, analyzing the underlying reasons for our sexual fantasies and different ways we can engage with our fantasies.     Dr. Stephen Diamond is a licensed clinical and forensic psychologist practicing in Los Angeles, CA. A former pupil and protégé of existential psychoanalyst Rollo May, he is the author of Anger, Madness, and the Daimonic: The Psychological Genesis of Violence, Evil, and Creativity (State University of New York Press, 1996). Dr. Diamond has contributed chapters to the bestselling anthology Meeting the Shadow: The Hidden Power of the Dark Side of Human Nature (1990), Spirituality and Psychological Health (2005), the Encyclopedia of Psychology and Religion (2009), Writing Music (2018), a chapter titled "Existential Therapy: Confronting Life's Ultimate Concerns" to the textboo

Welcome to episode 196 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Cyndi Darnell to the podcast. In this episode Cyndi talks to me about dating in the time of coronavirus, exploring your sexuality during a pandemic and improving intimacy during this challenging time.    Cyndi Darnell is a NY based, internationally renowned sex & relationships therapist & clinical sexologist. Originally from Australia, her approach spans the clinical to the esoteric. Her academic work is published in the Journal of Sex Education (UK) & Sexual & Relationship Therapy (UK).     She holds a board affiliate position for the University of Wisconsin - Stout Graduate Certificate in Sex Therapy Program. She’s a clinical associate with Pink Therapy UK and faculty on Pink Therapy's Foundation Certificate in Gender, Sexuality & Relationship Diversity Therapy and at New York’s Omega Institute.     Her online courses  and podcast The Erotic Philosopher meet today’s adult sex education nee

Welcome to episode 195 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Erika Ettin to the podcast. In this episode Erika talks to me about online dating, the best practices you can use to meet people online and things to consider for yourself and the person you’re engaging with when dating online.     Erika Ettin is the Founder of A Little Nudge, a consulting company that helps people navigate the world of online dating, from first click to first date. She is also the author of the book Love at First Site and the co-host of the popular dating podcast So, We Met Online…     Erika studied economics at Cornell University and received her MBA from Georgetown. She started A Little Nudge in 2011 (after a seven-year career as an economist). She is responsible for many relationships, marriages, and the confidence some people simply need to “get out there.”     A Little Nudge has been featured in media around the country, including The New York Times, The Washington Post, NPR, Good Day Philade

Welcome to episode 194 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a solo episode where I answer your questions about ways in which you can improve your sex life. We’ll look at issues such as sexual trauma re-enactment, improving your sex life after the honeymoon period and the importance of intimacy after sex.      In this episode, you will hear:     Why we engage in trauma re-enactment and ways to overcome those behaviors  Learning to confront what happened in the past  The importance of body work that can be healing   How power play and BDSM can help overcome trauma  Looking at the dynamics of bisexuality   Understanding when the right time is to start taking medication  Improving your sex life after the “Honeymoon Period”   The importance of communicating effectively and directly with your partner about what you want sexually   How masturbation can affect our sleep cycles   Using masturbation as a crutch to get better sleep  The importance of intimacy after sex   Looking at cultural differenc

Welcome to episode 193 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Ariel Watriss to the podcast. In this episode, Ariel speaks to me about how she became involved working around the STIs, misconceptions people still have about STIs and analyzing the risks around sex.     Ariel Watriss (she/hers) is a nurse practitioner currently working in college health at Tufts University Health Services. She started there in 2013 and in June 2018 was promoted to be the Sexual health specialist for the clinic.      She received her bachelor’s and master’s degrees in nursing from the MGH Institute of Health Professions School of Nursing in 2011. Prior to her time at Tufts, she worked at the Fenway Community Health Center in their research department, the Fenway Institute. She was the primary clinician providing care to study participants and performed medical procedures in multiple HIV prevention biomedical studies, including HIV PrEP studies.      Before attending nursing school, she ran the HIV 

Welcome to episode 192 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome back Amir Mohebbi to the podcast. In this episode Amir and I talk about medical treatments for sexual dysfunctions, looking at the issues that cause sex to be painful and learning to change your lifestyle to improve your sex life.      Amir Mohebbi is a proud Iranian-American currently completing his psychiatry residency at St. Louis University. He trained under mentorship from world-renowned forensic psychiatrists, Drs. William J. Newman and Brian J. Holoyda, whom co=authored a review related to his interests in sleep medicine and forensics entitled “Sexsomnia as a Defense in Repeated Sex Crimes”.     Amir presented his work alongside an expert panel consisting of forensic psychiatrists at the American Psychiatric Association 175th Annual Meeting in San Francisco, CA. He earned his medical degree from St. Louis University and holds a Bachelor of Science degree in Biology from the University of California, Irvine.   

Welcome to episode 191 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Dr. Kelli Palfy to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Palfy talks to me about male sexual abuse, the stigma around this issue and understanding that recovery is possible.     Dr. Palfy has a unique background in working with victims of sexual abuse.  She obtained her Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology from the University of Alberta in 2016. When conducting her doctoral research, she examined the reasons why males do not commonly disclose sexual abuse. She was well-prepared to research this topic from the experience she gained in her prior profession in law enforcement. From 1995 - 2011 when she was a respected member of the Royal Canadian Mounted Police. During this, her prior career she focused on sex crimes investigations and specialized in the global sexual victimization of children where she gained experience in identifying the sophisticated grooming tactics used by perpetrators.       Dr. Palfy brings the many facets of her u

Welcome to episode 190 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Tim Norton to the podcast. In this episode Tim speaks with me about erectile dysfunction, ways in which you can begin to tackle this issue, connecting with how sex feels rather than how we perceive it to be and myth busting the idea that bigger is always better when it comes to penis size.     Tim Norton is a Los Angeles-based sex therapist working in private practice, and host of a podcast on erectile issues and male sexuality - Hard Conversations. He obtained his bachelor’s and master’s degrees from the University of Southern California.     Tim is a proud member of American Association of Sex Counselors, Educators, and Therapists (AASECT), the Los Angeles Sexological Association, and works part-time with the Pain Psychology Center in Beverly Hills.        In this episode, you will hear:     Distinguishing between erectile dysfunction and dissatisfaction   The psychological barriers that can get in the wa

Welcome to episode 189 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome GS Youngblood, to the podcast. In this episode GS Youngblood talks to me about leading from your masculine core, the importance of sexual leadership and understanding the masculine blueprint.     GS Youngblood coaches men in relationships on how to live, love, and lead from their Masculine core. He specializes in “nice guys” who are with strong women. His teachings combine deep embodiment work with the framework of the Masculine blueprint from his book “The Masculine in Relationship”. Learn more at gsyoungblood.com.     His writings are filtered through the laboratory of his and his clients’ real-world, long term relationships (including the successes and spectacular failures) to see what actually works and what doesn’t. Through this lens of Masculine leadership, he also pulls in principles from a variety of fields: psychology, martial arts, tango, meditation, and BDSM.     Reception to the book has been phenomenal. Both

Welcome to episode 188 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Dr. Lanae St. John, to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Lanae speaks with me about how to have better conversations with our kids around sex, empowering them with the tools and knowledge they will need and how parents can better understand sexual orientation and gender identity.     Dr. Lanae St John, known as The MamaSutra, is a board-certified sexologist, certified sex coach, and sexuality educator. She is author of “Read Me: A Parental Primer for “The Talk”. Lanae lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her significant other and two daughters.    In this episode, you will hear:     The hurdles we face talking to our kids about sex   Being aware and noticing the issues around you   How a shame spiral can easily develop   The importance of talking to your partner about sex   Taking a genital self-exam   Overcoming issues of using sexual language with kids   How Dr. Lanae turned the narrative around  Looking

Welcome to episode 187 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Dr. Stephen Snyder to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Snyder talks to me about having better sex in long term monogamous relationships, creating better psychological arousal and recommendations to improve your sex life.     Stephen Snyder MD — sex therapist, relationship therapist, and sexual medicine specialist — has dedicated his entire career to helping individuals and couples with sex and relationship concerns. Over 30+ years, he’s helped over 1,500 individuals and couples regain closeness and satisfaction in their relationships.     Dr. Snyder is Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai in New York City and the author of one of the most acclaimed sex and relationship books of our time, LOVE WORTH MAKING: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship (St Martin’s Press, 2018).        As an MD sex therapist, Dr. Snyder has a unique combination of sk

Welcome to episode 186 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Dr. Lyndsey Harper to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Harper talks to me about how to increase your sexual desire at any stage in life, evidence-based ways to increase your libido and we take a look at her wonderful app – Rosy.     Lyndsey Harper, MD is the Founder and CEO of Rosy, an app for women with decreased sexual desire. Dr. Harper created Rosy out of frustration when she couldn’t find a modern and accessible resource to help her many patients with this problem. Rosy is a resource to connect the 25 million women in the US with decreased sexual desire with hope, community, and research-backed solutions to improve their lives.     Dr. Harper completed Ob/Gyn residency in 2011 at Baylor Scott & White Health in Dallas, Texas, and Dr. Harper saw patients in private practice for seven years and now is a hospitalist. Dr. Harper is Associate Professor of Ob/Gyn for Texas A&M College of Medicine, a Fellow of The Ameri

Welcome to episode 185 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Peyman Raoofi to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Raoofi speaks with me about the Madonna and whore complex, its complexities for relationships, how we can learn to adjust our own behaviors and learning to see your partner in a different light.     Dr. Peyman Raoofi, licensed clinical psychologist in California, holds a Doctorate and Master's degree in Clinical Psychology from Alliant International University and a Bachelor's degree in psychology from California State University, Northridge with Summa Cum Laude Honors.     He is currently working in his own private practice with individuals, couples and families. In addition Dr. Raoofi is contracted with multiple Long Term Care Facilities and Nursing Homes as consultant psychologist.     He has many years of experience working with children on the spectrum of Autism/Asperger, and Mental Retardation. Throughout his trainings for intense psychosocial interve