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I'm Not Good Enough PART 2 It's time to let that belief go In part 1 we looked at how this Limiting belief "I'm not good enough" affects everyone, one of the true generalizations! And what it does for you or better said what it's trying to do for you now that isn't working. Here's where we get to see that conflict more clearly and experience, should you choose to so, a process or two to let this limiting belief go where it belongs - In the Past = and find what really works for you and your goals and dreams. When you do the only limit is your imagination and that, as you know, is limitless! Simply put - What would you be able to achieve, do, and feel if the belief 'I'm not good enough' and the negative emotion that's attached to it was to disappear from your life? We'll even have a look at that too!   :O) So come on - press play > or the download button and join me this second part of the podcast V and enjoy. Remember if you're going to follow along with the processes make sure you have nothing that needs your

Good Enough  A five-minute Quickie podcast Slipped in between parts 1 & 2 of I'm not good enough longer episodes I want to break up those deeper dives to get you thinking differently. Trust me they all come together quite nicely. This is in effect a reframe, looking from a different perspective and taking learnings from there into those you may be contemplating. Even if you're not this is an interesting perspective in its own right. It's only just over 11 minutes long (not bad for our 5 minute quickies) so it's just right to wet your thought buds :O) Please share because it will make a difference to those you share it to https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-313-good-enough/ ‎ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Go to paulclough.co.uk/subscribe to learn more Or simply click here to go straight t

I'm Not Good Enough PART 1 Following our deeper dives into a little bit more serious topics in recent our longer episodes, I hope you enjoy this path we're taking, I wanted to tackle something that affects us all. This Limiting belief "I'm not good enough" affects everyone,  Yep, You're not alone we all have it lingering beneath the surface. How do I know it affects us all, I'm psychic - No, but I see it surface with so many of my clients in both the hypnotherapy side of my life as well as the coaching side. Because of this and working with this belief, I began to question its validity and discovered some interesting things to get below the surface of this limiting belief,  the root cause, and how when you deal with it the awesome results generalize in all areas of your life. We'll discover that in some areas of your life this belief is, in fact, a fact that once acknowledged will springboard you to greater heights, expertise and skill levels. Now just that is worth the money you paid!   :O) We'll also learn

I'm Leaving Everybody And for something better Butterflies flap on one side of the world and create a storm, at least that's how the metaphor goes. We never know how far the ripples of change will go, that's a fact. And following an old saying, if we follow it things will get better in your world and those close to you. What is that old saying and what am I talking about in this short podcast? As usual, you will have to come with me. When you do it might remind you of what you already know and need to do or simply remind you of what you need to do. We have to begin somewhere, why not here? Please share this reminder with all you know https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-312-im-leaving-everybody/ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Go to paulclough.co.uk/subscribe to learn more Or simply click here

Hostile Relations Resolving Conflict I loved the making of this episode and incorporating a wonderful process to boot - So make sure you have nothing that needs your attention other than your intention to let go of that part that's holding you back. I'm sure you've said something like this: On the one hand, I want to (you fill in the blank) but on the other hand ........ Or A part of me really want to do (you fill in the blank) but there's another part of me that's holding me back I think we've all experienced that at some time in our lives - even now I would tell you more but that would spoil it for you. So let's get curious and come with me to find out more. and when you do - tell what you experienced, I can be emailed at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com This is a form of a  process, thanks to Stephen Brooks, that I really love to work with my clients and I hope you will too. Please share what you learn and experience and especially this podcast and this episode: https://personaldevelopmentunp

Turn Frustration to Calm or Even Peace Includes a mini process We all, well I do, get frustrated at so many little things. There are also natural phenomena of triggers in our lives - anchors if you will. So I've had a little think and found a way to incorporate a thing that we see daily and used it to fire off Calm or even Peace. And the thing is the more you see it the more calm and peaceful you become. You can easily adapt this to anything you pass in the day that you think would be useful to use as a trigger. Ok, as I mentioned above there is a mini process in this episode (which I'm trying to incorporate more of) so if you decide to follow it make sure nothing else needs your intention. It will be worth it though :O) Share the peace and calm to people you know by sharing this episode: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-311-turn-frustration-to-calm-or-even-peace And there's some important news of a Free Hypnosis track when you visit https://paulcloughonline.com Shine brightly Paul Please remembe

Scared of My Bias and How To Change It When you understand how our cognitive bias is formed you will be scared, I was! It's inbuilt from the day we're born but how we learn to use it from the examples/experiences we have doesn't always make for us be the best version of ourselves that we would like to show the world. Heavy stuff Hey? But if we could get it right, how we act and react would make for such a better life - for you - for me - and everyone else in the world. Because it's an unconscious process/program where better to go and fix it other than the unconscious level, which is where all the stuff, the noise tries to influence us. When we notice the noise and question it, look for the opposite, and the data we start our way to Self Sovereignty. If you follow me down this rabbit hole we'll learn how to make those changes that in turn will affect a whole lot more in the messed-up world for the better. Strong stuff, it's simple but takes effort but together we can do this. Come and find out the Why, the Wh

Make Yourself Known it works both ways You probably know my thoughts on World Mental Health Day (it's too important to be only one day, should be 365 days every year). Anyone suffering in any way in terms of their mental health, the way they feel, and how that affects them generally hides it or doesn't know how to broach the subject. That's a great shame that we have to help make disappear. This short podcast, 5-minute quickie, was inspired by watching a TV program of two comics, getting on a likkle bit, and reminiscing and being open about their health and issues they had experienced - It was lovely to watch and be part of this experience (thank you, Bob Mortimer and Paul Whitehouse). It was during one of their chats they invited a lovely doctor to give advice on opening up and what he shared was simple yet so effective. What did he share? Come on with me for the next few minutes and find out. What you learn could save a life and that might even be yours. I hope you enjoy this episode and feel enough to shar

Tim's abuse What a brave thing to do So this episode of the PDU podcast follows the recent episode of the Tim Ferris podcast #464 'My healing journey after childhood abuse' and I wanted to first applaud Tim for being so courageous and also offer maybe a bit of commentary and help of my own. One of the most simple yet powerful messages to come from this is "You Are Not Alone" Tim shared with us his journey yet I wanted to offer some alternative thoughts to seeking help, providing hope to those unable to follow that path. Even if this does not personally apply to your life someone you know may be dealing with this secret so it would be great to share conversationally with as many people that you know and it might just be the difference that makes the difference - I truly hope so. I'll leave it there and let you come and press play. Simply set your state simply to be curious and see/hear what you find. Please share as always - here's the link if it helps: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/204-tims-abuse/

How To Let that feeling go-Don't push it away Craving be gone! So a 5 Minute Quickie Podcast to show you how quickly you can let go of a negative feeling. There's not that much that I can say other than have a listen and stop pushing feelings away because they tend to get stronger and more persistent when you try. Heck, I'll even guide you through it :O) Come follow me! As usual please share this episode: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-309-how-to-let-that-feeling-go-dont-push-it-away and if you're new here then find a subscribe button on that app. Let me know your thoughts and experiences feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Go to paulclough.co.uk/subscribe to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave

 Changing Your Limiting and Core Beliefs Can you? And should you? And How? Can beliefs be changed even if it's a core belief? The simple answer to that is a big fat yes - if it no longer serves you or you find it not to be true. A silly example is of a person who, in the past, used to 'be' a smoker but has stopped. In the past, they believed they were a smoker and now they believe they are not.  I've put the be in ''marks for a reason, because their belief would have been "I am A smoker" describing who they are at an identity level by their behavior, which is what so many of us do but it isn't who we are, it's what we do, it's not our identity. Remember the last FMQ about labels?  Have a listen if you haven't already and you will see how the labels we are given become our beliefs too. When working with clients I find nearly all have a core belief such as 'I'm not good enough' or 'I'm not worthy' and it affects all that they do and feel. When they disappear BOOM! Their whole life changes. If you think about th

Labels -They Are Not Who We Are Be Careful They Don't Define you When I work with clients I often hear this "I'm depressed" or "I'm Anxious" or even more dramatically "I'm Clinically Depressed" or well you can fill in the blank. Is that who they are? Absolutely not! That's not their Identity it's their behavior, the way they 'choose' to behave. Yet we say things like this so easily without thinking and said enough will define who we are = WE ARE THE LABEL Throw away the label, change the behavior, and be YOU! The REAL YOU! This is only a five minute quickie  podcast but we do cover serious 'stuff' here, so please press play, listen and commit to be you Oh! and share this to everyone you know so they can throw away their labels too   :O) https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-308-labels-they-are-not-who-we-are Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email

Secondary Gain - What's That? Secondary gain, Is that an NLP term? Probably not. Is it something I want? Well, some people have it without knowing, some use it, and some have it in some way foisted on them. In any event, you really don't want it or be part of it. Although I do share one story where I used it to my advantage in a naughty way  :O) It is important to notice it or the effect of it and if you are at service to it trying to be a nice well-meaning person. If you don't know what I'm writing about that's the point of the podcast and I'll share with you my thoughts and examples I have seen so you can get a picture and feel of what it is. If you know what it is it's still worthwhile listening as knowing and doing, as we know, are not the same thing. Just so you know there is a small process within this podcast, as I like to do to give you a real experience, so make sure it's safe to do so. Press play and Awaaaaaaaaaay! Oh! please share this episode: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/202-secondar

The Value Of Questions I Love questions, they are a foundation of how we can develop and improve. We also hear talk of active listening - what's that? Let's put the two together, which I think you will end up agreeing with me, is a must when we really use questions to create deep change. In the five-minute quickie podcast we, you and I, will dive a little bit deeper and see where we can take this. So put your swimsuit, goggles, and flippers and let us see and hear what we can learn. Please share what you do learn and also the podcast: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-307-the-value-of-questions/ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Go to paulclough.co.uk/subscribe to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review If you want to access my FRE

It's Really Not That Complicated When you know what and how and here's where I share that Inspired by listening to'experts' getting it wrong I think (Well I know) I have an answer that works to ensure when you work on yourself or have a feeling you just don't like and want to change. If you don't start in the right place and go in the right direction the chances of getting to where you want to go are pretty slight and I'll share with the example from the experts and a client of mine. Heck, I'll even go with you and explain the process and unlike many actually go through it with you - How nice am I? :O) Remember I am a hypnotist and hypnotherapist but not yours so as I say in the recording if you really feel you need help go search out a therapist, there are so many great ones out there - even me, and get the job done quickly and easily. Having said that the process is simple maybe so give it a listen first. It's worth saying, if you're absolutely fine right now it's still 100% worth listening to as there may

I Had A Dream Nothing even near a little bit like the MLK Dream that inspired the world. But just a dream that when I thought about it and saw the message. The thing is the message didn't jump out at me but a series of things happening that over time went Ahhhhh! I got it. I hope by sharing this it may just get you to think, not overthink, and make up answers but ask the right questions to let the Ahhhh! come to your conscious awareness and then follow that advice. It's all about asking the right questions I found and then to listen with your awareness as the answers can come at unexpected times. Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-307-i-had-a-dream/ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Go to paulclough.co.uk/subscribe to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music /

Accepting 2nd Best Would you? Do You? If you wouldn't accept 2nd best why do you? What? Where do we, you and I, accept 2nd best, It'll be ok it's good enough or it's just about good enough - It'll do? From ourselves maybe. We don't like accepting 2nd best from others, do we? This is a bit of a forerunner to episodes to follow. They are going to include going into serious subjects such as loneliness, depression, OCD suicide, and trauma to name but a few and I want to ensure when we do we hit them being our best because when we do we'll get so much more for ourselves and others who need that help. Even without this being a forerunner this subject is so relevant to everything we do and I do mean everything! So even if you only pick up one golden nugget from this it will make your life immeasurably better. Please enjoy and have a paper and pencil available if you can as I go into how to deal with what happens if the how to's don't work - I don't know of many that go through this part and I've been thinking about

Striving Here's something to think about and you can muse about it right now, doing the thing you're doing right now. Are you doing your best right now? or is it just good enough or maybe Oh! I never thought about it. Would you put up with "Well it's good enough" or "Just good enough" when you're engaging the services of others? Hmmmm I think not Yet you may accept it when you do things for yourself or others. What would you think if this was the standard that you or a significant other brought to your relationship? Now here's a musing - what would it be like if you were to Strive to be your best in everything you do? How would that affect your career? Your relationships? Be the example to others? you fill in the blanks. It's a simple concept (In simplicity there is genius) not difficult to do and it only takes the will to do whatever it takes and you have that in abundance. Please share https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-306-striving Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or em

The Wrong Way To Success   Maybe when we look at how to be successful we have so many ways to choose but we have to prepare for it. Are there only the right ways? Hmmm, let's have a think about that. I love sharing a process created by an NLP wizard called Robert Dilts and it makes so much sense, well to me it does. It's called the Logical Levels, I'll briefly tell you about it. It is soo important to me because it helps me with every client I work with. But and I don't often like a but I got to thinking, maybe if we turn it on its head, got a little counter-intuitive we might be able to use it as the basis of creating success. If you listen often you may remember the podcast where we talked about having a retreat to work on ourselves well this can be linked to that too, in fact, it could apply to so many things you work on or plan to do. It's simple, and we like simples, and like anything you want to have a great result it does take effort, maybe 'the will to do whatever it takes' this will be a foundation o

Five Minutes Is All You Need This is literally 5 minutes long and is the epitome of the Five Minute Quickie podcast I simply want to remind you of something so simple yet so beneficial Please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-305-five-minutes-is-all-you-need What are you caused to remember and will begin again and create a wonderfully rewarding ritual? Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Go to paulclough.co.uk/subscribe to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie Why not look for me and the podcast on > SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q