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Self Sabotage - What's Your Excuse If this offends you then this is just for you Creating the success you deserve through all your effort is what this podcast is all about, creating the best version of yourself without anxiety and with all the confidence you want - That's why ask "What's Your Excuse?" that's if you keep finding ways to put it off. And we all do that - Don't we? You see I have never bought into this thing we call Self Sabotage, not even the definition of it too. But I do think we do find ways to put things off and I also believe we have the tools to make sure we don't derail ourselves. That's what this episode will go into, not just the theory but real processes to explore the why and even more importantly the HOW TO. So don't put off listening to this and bring your notepad and a bucketful of curiosity. I'll go through those excuses I've used, and I bet you have used them too, and then dive deeply into how your values can be in conflict, they clash and the result is not finishing what we star

A Song To Sing La! La! La! It's a singing lesson. Not really, that would be silly but it's a great metaphor. We talk about, well I do, that we have a song to sing and that sounds great. I discover a big problem with that - What if we don't know what our song is or if we have been singing one it may not be ours? When we feel lost it gets even worse and we can get wrapped up in so many other people's songs, what they think we should be doing or how we should be doing or don't do that it won't work or worse than that you're not good enough to do that. When we feel lost we can also get more lost by simply taking the easy way by going with the flow and that means out of your control - sorry but it's true. I'll tell you about how learned to sing a completely wrong song and what a difference when I realized that! But I think I'm getting to learn my real song now but it took time and learning it bit by bit. So how do you find your song with all the BS that hides it? Well, that's where I want to share what I think and

The Secret Of Failing At Life The positive art of failing Is this really personal development/improvement? And this is not an 'Oh! I'm so lucky I failed story' that makes me look so good. You've listened to or seen in the media, enough of those phony anecdotes to sell you something. (Well that's a relief Cloughie I hear your inner voice say). No, because when you know the art of failing you get the double whammy of knowing how to succeed! It's just that we shy away from the negative and failing, if you believe in it, carries with it many negative feelings and behaviors. One of the biggest forerunners of failure is the well-known phrase, GO WITH THE FLOW. It seems such a great easy going way to live - NOT! In this episode we will dive deeply into not only what 'failure' is - really is - not only how to learn from 'failure' but the real HOW TO create a life without failure. Now that really is personal development/improvement! So bring your curiosity, your thinking head, and maybe a pen and paper so you can get

Making A Good Feeling Even Better Why? Because we/you/I can A quick 5-minute quickie to get you to think - Oh? I tend to find that most people think of therapy, Hypnosis, NLP or Time Line TherapyTM as being used for dealing with negative 'stuff', and it's partly true because they are all great for that. And Using the same processes we can take a good feeling and make it better but we have to be vigilant because when we feel good we can forget that we are feeling good because we're in the feeling good feeling. And When we get into the present moment as we're feeling good then ......... Well, I'll tell you how in 5 minutes right here. When you have listened and like what you heard please share. Here's the link if your friends haven't a podcast app. Get them to subscribe as well. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-376-making-a-good-feeling-even-better/   Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other

What's Next For You? What's Next For Me? You don't really know but not knowing is worse than bad Some people think don't set goals, go with the flow - That's bad And the thing is there's always a goal in there somewhere whether you like it or not. At the other end of the spectrum, some are so specific in their goals and what they want - that's a little better    :O) But they both, and all in between, have a fault if you really want to succeed, have continued motivation, and ensure you continue on the path of feeling proud of your achievements and continue .............. People who finish in second place experience this and people who win and become the gold medal winners experience this. They put everything on hold and put every effort into their goal and then .............. So what chance have you got, I got? Well, no chance because we're leaving nothing to chance, we'll set our sights on achieving more than what we dream of or what we set our sights on. This is all very vague I know, but it's what I do when

What's next for you, for me? A five-minute muse, a conversation in which I hope to fire those synaptic gaps and neural pathways of yours and set you up for a longer and meaningful podcast episode. I want you to think about your goals in life if you have any, I know you do and I know you have more than you think you do. I'll want to remind you of goals you have set in the past, whether you achieved them or not. And that's all - For now Because, as I said, we will dive deeply into how not only to achieve your goals but understand and make sure there is more. Now that has to be important to you, and me, when we get that (and more). Press play >>>> and please share this conversation. https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-375-whats-next-for-you-for-me/ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to sub

Help I'm Being Attacked! And so are you Have you ever had the experience of walking in the dark forest, hunting for food, looking for some kind of sustenance and you hear 'CRACK!' You look around and can't see anyone and your heart begins to race and you begin to imagine that tiger, not just any tiger but a Saber-toothed tiger, and imagine all the things that could happen to you if it gets you. No! of course not, that would be ridiculous! Yet you're doing that very same thing and creating anxiety, nervousness, low-self esteem, and ultimately a complete lack of confidence in yourself. How do I know? Because we all do it. We still have this program inside us trying to protect us from danger. In the past many hundreds, if not thousands of years ago it was totally appropriate and would have saved our lives. But that was then and this is now (unless you're in the bear/mountain lion woods) We have to change this because those negative emotions you feel don't get better by themselves and they tend to get worse and I

Another Way To Put Passion Into Your Life - At Any Age That's right never too old and never too young There's more to the past was the old title, sometimes we let the memories from the past that had negative emotions dictate what happens in the future and the now. Let's reverse letting the past create the now and create the life you want right now. Can you d that - I think so. Instead of the negative events of the past what if we take wonderful memories when we were in the flow and full of passion and use them instead? If your unconscious mind was to recognize how safe you were back then in those memories it will begin to learn a new way leaving fight and flight to protect you together with the learnings of the past. Come with me as I share my thoughts and a few how-to's on ways to make your life richer. How would your life change when you have passion, richness in your career, relationships, mental health, physical health or well you fill in the many blanks. If that's difficult to answer I'll help you with t

Finding Passions Of Your Past In The Now We all want to live a life of passion, some wish to find their passion and in this 5-minute quickie podcast episode, we can begin a little search to find what's hiding in plain sight. And then we'll follow with a deeper dive into a longer podcast. So this a muse on what I heard in a conversation with Robert Green, not with me but on another podcast, and it reminded me of a lovely memory and what I too have been talking about when we lose sight of our passion. I say lose sight because it's always here hiding in plain sight. Hopefully, this will trigger lovely memories for you too. If you spend a little time, a minute or two, to remember. I'll give you a question to ask your unconscious mind to help this too. Come on, give yourself permission to spend this special time on yourself and then get ready for that longer podcast. Here is a link to share if you would like others to get a sense of their passions: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-374-finding-passions

You Make Me Feel and it's your fault You make me Sooooooooo ANGRY, SAD or If you, like me, have experienced having had that said to you and don't know why or what you did. Or If you, like me, have experienced having said that to someone else Then They were wrong and you were wrong - period! WHAT! Yes, because no one can make anyone feel anything because you CHOOSE the way you feel and that's a bit of a bummer when you get this. The good thing, when you do get it, you get to choose how you feel and how you react and act and be. Heavy stuff but also simple, it's all about taking responsibility and not living in the land of excuses, and reasons because reasons are excuses too. When you take responsibility, some say living at 'Cause' (with an uppercase C), you get to be empowered and that's when we get to choose and live in our reality - on one's elses. Come with me and let me share my thought on this dilemma and of course my ways of overcoming this, there's always a way(s) And when you have please try it out be

This Is A Key To Success Do you do this or don't you do this? Five minutes to muse over, to wonder if you actually do what you think you do or know. Everything starts with a thought and I wonder if you, I, really take time to think? Do you schedule out time to think about what you want, how you want it, when you want it, and what will it be like when you get it? What would happen if you were to be the professional you are and do the work that all starts with a thought? There you go a five-minute quickie muse enjoy and please share: https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/fmq-372-this-is-a-key-to-success/ Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to subscribe to the podcast (I know you do) click here to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a rev

When Beliefs Hold You Back Imagine being able to find the belief that's holding you back from succeeding and change it - What would that success feel like? And that's where I go in this episode, being able to find, identify and be able to change limiting beliefs. And beliefs can change in a heartbeat, even closely held core beliefs. I know this to be true because I have done it myself and with virtually every client I work with. So if you have a dream for yourself, something you really want to do but it just seems to falter as if something is holding you back then this is for you (Cloughie said modestly) First, we loosen your model of the world around that limiting belief, I'm not good enough, I don't deserve this you know the type and then......................... well I'm not telling you hear - it's a podcast silly! We'll go deep and if you have the will to do whatever it takes, and I know you do, then I believe you'll find this so right and you will be able to change the beliefs that have been holding you

I'm Not Good Enough - What If It's Not True What!? I may be good enough - No Way! Maybe there is a question, when you ask it of yourself you may just change your mind - Your Unconscious Mind. We all have negative beliefs, don't you? I'm not good enough, I'm not worthy, I'm stupid, I'm So from my thinking book, my 'Puzzle book' where I sit and think and muse and in some way connect to my unconscious mind. This is what I  was thinking about these negative beliefs we so easily accept - have you ever asked "Is this true?"  and then ask yourself have I ever been the opposite, when I have been Good Enough - been Worthy - been Ok - been successful? What examples do I have from my past that disprove those beliefs? When you find them then you will know these negative beliefs are untrue ad unfounded. I know we will dive deeper into this but it's a 5-minute Quickie podcast to get you to think over a coffee, a tea, a beer, wine Please share Here's a link for those who don't have an app: https://personaldevelopmentunpl

The Secret Of Thinking We all think we think but do we? A personal admission - I used to think I thought about 'stuff' and I enjoyed thinking that, it made me feel good even a little special - What a dope I was! When I thought about it I didn't really know what deep thinking was - do you? And when I found out I hadn't really been thinking I gave myself a real dressing down - which made me feel worse ( why do we do that to ourselves, I didn't do it on purpose) And the thing is it isn't even a secret, sorry. Is what I have found out in my own personal discovery the only way? Absolutely not, there a better people than me who do it better than me but that doesn't matter and never should it -This is my small step in the adventure of deep work! So come with me and let me share with you what I learned and as usual for me, it had to be simple   :O) I hope you find it both interesting and something you can do better, and when you do let me know. Sharing is good. If after listening you think it would be good to share t

Have You A Song To Sing? Have you a minute to think about what your song is? This episode was born by listening to Lynn Fox on the Mark Devine podcast (you have to listen to that show - it's great!) and what seemed a short throwaway line "Be Your Song In The World" and it made me think that's your mission, your reason for being here. Yes, I talk a lot about finding your true voice and now we can take that one step further with that found confidence. Not just to sing our song, quietly, but to BE our song and follow our ultimate vision whatever that may be for you. So how do you learn your song to be able to be your song? Maybe start with a little hum, a little hum on the inside so we can develop it into our song to let it come out on the outside. Come with me as I develop this metaphor that I hope will want you to muse deeper and take steps to find your song and allow us to hear it. This is a 5-minute quickie, straight into the microphone. I hope you enjoy it and want to share it with your friends so we can al

Hypnosis Frustration to Calm From Agh!!!! to Ooooo! I thought it would be nice for a change to have just a hypnosis track that is simple in its process of taking us from that feeling of being frustrated to just a sense of I'm ok, I'm calm. Why nothing fancy? Well it may not be a fancy, all bells ringing process (that no one needs unless you're an ego-lead hypnotist) but it is important to move away from frustration, which if st in too long just gets worse and leads to Anger and all the fall out that it brings, and move towards a neutral feeling where you can deal with things more appropriately and access better resources. Please enjoy, with my compliments, and make this transition a habit. I'll also be putting a copy up with the 55+ other FREE Hypnosis and NLP processes so you can find them easily and download them. If you have signed up for them you'll know where they are and I might drop you an email to remind you of your special link to them. Please feel free to share this experience using the share button

GET THE STACKING PROCESS NOW The 2 processes in episode #303 have been separated out of the episode so you can use them without going through the chat to find them. They're FREE and downloadable so what are your waiting for? Remember I’m a therapist but not your therapist The information with this website or online work, techniques and exercises provided within these free and paid products are for educational purposes only. Do not use the techniques or exercises contained within some of these free or paid products whilst driving or operating machinery, or if you suffer from epilepsy, clinical depression or any other nervous or psychiatric conditions. The information provided is not a substitute for proper medical advice. If in doubt, please consult your doctor or licensed medical practitioner. Any decision you make having received any of Paul Clough's free or paid products are your own and you remain wholly responsible for any decisions and actions you take. Music by Wataboi from Pixabay Music by DreamHeav

Skill stacking THE process PART 3 Here's where we put it all together Creating what we want now and in the future Yup! We've gone through the theory, we've found those wonderful qualities of ours and created a powerful general anchor that we can fire off at will. And Now We're putting it all together so you can create a specific anchor of your chosen resources such as confidence, awareness, and curiosity, you fill in the blank and use it to put you into your desired state for success. Tailored to your specific requirement and context. Then Use that to ensure it works for you in any future event. How There are two separate processes included in this one podcast episode and I'll guide you through them both. I've made it to be in easy simple steps that just work. Because this is all specific context driven I have decided to extract the processes and will be uploading them to join the other 55 or so FREE NLP and Hypnosis processes so you can go straight there and use these as many times as you want. So if you hav

Skill stacking To Success part 2 And a process to begin our skill sharing The skill sharing I'm talking about here is the skills you have, in different contexts, that you want. So we'll borrow them from one context and use them where you want them. Sounds difficult - not here where we break down the difficult to easy, manageable steps that I guide you through. Firstly We'll dive into what you need by what you're experiencing and don't want, looking a little into core issues and what would serve you better and be more comfortable. Then We'll need to find a few qualities of yours first to begin to get the understanding that you're so much more than you think you are right now and when I say you have all the skills you need right now you'll begin to agree with me. So it would be worthwhile having a pen and paper handy. And Then We'll also get to be comfortable with anchoring, an NLP term, to access those feelings that you experienced before and can fire off at will. We'll start with an awesome general anchor to

Skill Stacking and Sharing (with yourself) If you know how you want to feel then you have already Felt it that is Oh My! Inspired by the last episode and the process of transferring of skills, or should we say here Trance-Ferring, it got me thinking about how can we do this easily. And in NLP and Hypnosis, we have been doing this for years. You see the pictures you make in your mind are linked to your feelings and linked to your physiology and all come to produce a behavior. It's part of NLP's communication model, that together with anchoring (stimulus and response) we have the perfect recipe. But before we get there we have to know what we want and have a wee look at where we have experienced it before, in our past. I got into this deep dive it exploded into more than just one episode. I'll build for your simple steps so that when we come to the process you will have everything at your fingertips to excel. And then you will be able to use the process as many times as you like even though your Unconscious min