Sex With Emily

How’s your orgasm lately? Do you wish it was more intense? More frequent? More predictable with a partner? Orgasms don’t have to be a thing of mystery. And that’s why today's call in show is devoted to all things O. First up: she fears a loss of control while climaxing, which derails her arousal altogether. Can she relax and stay present? Next, he’s fit and athletic, with a girlfriend who loves sex. The problem? It takes him a long time to finish – maybe too long. Finally - when you’re with a partner who loves giving you oral, but it’s not exactly getting you off…what gives? I answer these questions and more from our brave live callers. Show Notes: Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays Promescent Delay Spray & More Article: I’ve Never Had An Orgasm Article: Where is the Clitoris? Article: 6 Tips for Mastering the Game-Changing Technique of Mindful Masturbation Article: How To Respond When Your Partner Can’t Stay Hard The Yes No Maybe List & Other SWE Guides Episode: More Sex, Le

Getting the sex we want: it’s easier said than done. Sharing your needs with a partner can be difficult and awkward. But what if we feel undeserving of the gift of pleasure all together? On today’s best-of episode, I’ll answer your questions all about giving and receiving. From trouble with orgasms to insecurities around body parts - how we receive the gift of oral is often where mental blocks around sex begin - and end. Plus, we hear some giving success stories. Because improving our pleasure potential is all about communicating our needs - ask, and you shall receive. Show Notes: Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays LELO HUGO (code ‘EMILY’ for 25% off all products) Article: The Kivin Method Article: How Do I Go Down on a Vulva? Article: How Do I Better Enjoy Oral Sex? Article: How Can I Be More Confident in the Bedroom? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Mental health and sexual desire - do you really have to choose between one or the other? While antidepressants like Lexapro can be lifesaving — all too often, they can deflate our sex drive. But conversely - it’s hard to get aroused if your depression goes untreated. Is there any way out of this predicament? On today’s show, I’ll discuss how to overcome this struggle that is more common than you think - as you’ll hear from some of our listeners. From alternative treatments to hacks around timing and dosage, I’ll help you keep pleasure in your life without compromising your mental health. Show Notes: Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays Article: These Are The 5 Arousal Styles. Which One Are You? Episode: What’s Your Arousal Type? The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness (36 Questions) Article: How Do I Have Good Sex During Menopause? Hormone Intelligence by Aviva Romm, MD  Article: How Do I Deal with Anxiety During Sex? Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Make Scheduling

Infidelity - it’s one of the most painful emotional experiences out there. But once the pain heals, it can also create enormous opportunities for growth and self-reflection. In this episode, I’ll unpack infidelity and all the ways it can play out. It doesn’t always mean the end of a relationship. Sometimes, monogamy just isn’t the right fit. Other times, it means a couple needs to work on deepening intimacy and trust with one other. Whether you’ve been cheated on or you’re the cheater, I’ve got advice to help you work through it to create the love life you want. Show Notes: Article: Ask Emily: My Wife Cheated  VUSH (code ‘EMILYBFCM’ for 60% off Empress 2 OR Big O Bundle) More Tom Goss: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Website Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We all strive to be lifelong learners - as the world and people around us change, we need to adapt and evolve to keep up. And nowhere else is this more true than our sex lives. Our sexual intelligence can only reach its full potential if we’re open to nurturing its growth. That’s the mission of today’s call-in show. I answer your questions all about picking up new sex skills. From a fun-loving couple who wants to incorporate others into their play but can’t find the right candidates, to a twenty-something who wants to learn how to squirt on her own - these brave callers’ questions offer something for everyone to learn from.  Show Notes: Article: The Different Kinds of Unconventional Couples Article: The Guide to a Successful Friends with Benefits Relationship Article: Ask Emily: How Do We Prepare for a Threesome? 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand Playground Je Joue (use code ‘Emily30’ for 30% off) #Open Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Got hangups around oral sex? You’re not alone. While oral sex can provide abundant intimacy and pleasure, lots of us struggle with giving – and sometimes, receiving – it.  Today, we’re getting out of our heads and communicating with our partners: two essential steps for mind-blowing oral sex. Love giving oral, but it’s not being reciprocated? Concerned about hygiene issues – either your own, or your partner’s? What if your partner takes a while to orgasm during oral, but your jaw gets tired along the way? From hangups to hygiene - I answer your questions so you can amp up your oral and enhance your pleasure. Show Notes: VUSH Destination: Play (code ‘SEXWITHEMILY’ for 40% off) Article: Ask Emily: Oral Sex for Beginners Article: How to Give a Better Blowjob Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Better Enjoy Oral Sex? Article: Ask Emily: I Hate Giving My Partner Oral Sex Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Life is short, so why not add sex toys to your pleasure routine? Vulva owners seem to understand this, but today I’m talking toys for penises. Whether you have one or you want to please one, sex toys offer tons of benefits. Plus, toys are not just for solo play - they can enhance connection (and pleasure) with your partner.  But it can be difficult to know what to look for, how to use them, and why you may need them at all. And that’s why on today’s episode, I’m myth-busting misconceptions and sharing my top products and tips for penile pleasure. From lasting harder and longer, to discovering those pleasure points a hand alone simply can’t reach - if there’s a penis in your life, I’ve got the toy for it. Show Notes: Je Joue Mio Vibrating Cock Ring Magic Wand Playground (SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off 1st order) Aneros Helix Trident Promescent Delay Spray Article: How Do I Buy My Boyfriend a Sex Toy? Hot Octopuss Pulse III Solo / Duo Fleshlight Tenga LELO HUGO (EMILY for 25% off all products) Fun Fac

First comes love, then comes anal. Isn’t that how the song goes? On today’s best of show, we’re talking your sexual firsts: your first dating app, oral sex experience, anal play, and so much more. I help you face your fears so you can radically expand your pleasure potential.  Up first: she’s 32 weeks pregnant and wants to keep her partner satisfied – but she’s never given him oral. Where to begin? He wants his wife to experience sex with another woman, so they can have their first threesome. But is she truly into the idea or just going along with it to please him? And last but not least - she’s got a play partner who wants to try anal, but has her reservations regarding pain and hygeine. How do you avoid a messy situation? We will unravel all this and more. Show Notes: 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand Ask Emily: How Do I Deal with Anxiety During Sex? 6 Tips for Mastering the Game-Changing Technique of Mindful Masturbation How to Make an Awesome Dating App Profile Ask Emily: How Do I Attract a Healthy Rela

Sexual fantasies are not only normal, they’re a key component of your sexual health. But why are we attracted to certain fantasies? And is it normal to have certain fantasies, or no fantasies at all? On this episode, I reveal your top sex fantasies and why you have them. I also divulge your fantasy success stories and questions, from CNC to cuckolding. I give you tips for expanding your erotic imagination. Show Notes: 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand Ask Emily: How Do We Prepare for a Threesome? Your Guide to Consensual Non-Consent Ask Emily: How to Become More Dominant In Bed Pegging 101: How to Try Strap-On Sex The Beginner’s Guide to Role-Play The 5 Best Ways to Have Sex Outside How Do I Explore Bisexuality While in a Relationship? What to Do When Your Partner Says ‘No’ to Trying New Things Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

So what’s the hardest part about dating? Meeting people? Making conversation? Figuring out if there’s enough chemistry? How do you have dates that leave you happy, aligned and energized, rather than defeated and hopeless? On today’s best-of show, I’m here for your dating dilemmas. He’s new to dating, and nervous to talk to women – I give some talking points. She wants to have sex, but also wants it to be more than casual – I help refine her approach. He’s super honest about being polyamorous, but they think he needs to grow up – I coach him on how to find the right partners, while still being open. Because when it comes to dating, your people are out there – you just have to learn how to look.  Show Notes: Higher Dose Infrared Sauna Blanket (use code EMILY 15% off sitewide**) Got A Sex or Relationship Question? Call me. Ask Emily: How Do I Attract a Healthy Relationship? How to Make an Awesome Dating App Profile Is Casual Sex Right For You? What Exactly is an “Open” Relationship?  **(excluding Full Si

We’re all looking for better ways to have sex. But what if I told you the thing holding you back is your own beliefs around sex and sexuality? My guest today knows a thing or two about how to realize our own sexual well-being. Author, filmmaker, and founder of The Sex Ed, Liz is a sexual wellness connoisseur. In her new book Sex, Health & Consciousness, Liz explains how to build a sexual consciousness for a radically happier, healthier life. She’ll help me answer your questions on masturbation, shame, BDSM, and how to rewire the way we think about pleasure.  Show Notes: 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand Pre-Order Liz’s Book: Sex, Health, and Consciousness More Liz Goldwyn: Website | Instagram | Twitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Got relationship drama? Don’t we all. On today’s Best of show, I’m helping you navigate choppy relationship waters, to get to the other side safely. First up: he just divorced, and jumped right into an ultra-serious relationship. Too soon? Next: when you’ve got a massive crush on your coworker, should you divorce your spouse and pursue your colleague instead? And if you’re not so into your partner’s bedroom style, can you teach them to be more dominant? All this and more on a particularly juicy Best Of show.  Show Notes: Article: You and Your Partner Have Mismatched Sex Drives Article: What Your Attachment Style Says About Your Love Life Podcast: The Clit Notes XConfessions.com Article: 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand Foria: Awaken Arousal Oil with CBD Hot Octopuss Pulse III Solo Hot Octopuss Pulse III Duo Aneros Helix Trident Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you know me, you know that my dream is to have a bottle of lube on every nightstand. But why? Enhanced pleasure is one reason. And on this episode, I’ll give you several more.  Think of this as your consumer reports on lube: I’m answering all of your lube inquiries, giving you the low-down on key ingredients, and helping you reach for the right lube at the right time. I’m also breaking down the science behind lube’s benefits, and walking you through the best options for every type of sexual occasion.   Show Notes: Article: How To Find The Best Lube For You Playground (use code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off first order) Uberlube “Good to Go” Travel Sets from Good Vibrations  Woo More Play Coconut Oil Pjur’s Back Door Lube Sliquid Silk System Jo Coconu OhLavinia Foria CBD Intimacy Oil GoLove CBD Intimate Lube First Response Pre-Seed Good Clean Love Biogenesis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When it comes to penis parts, do you know which ones are rich with nerve endings? Which areas need a gentle touch? And which can handle more force? On today’s Best of show, I’ll give you tips for penile pleasure from head to shaft, perineum to prostate. We also take your listener questions: when you’re in a long term relationship, who should initiate sex? If you’re not turned on by your partner of nearly a decade, what’s next? And when you’ve been masturbating for years, but discovered your entire family could hear you…how do you deal? We’ll cover all this and more.  Show Notes: Playground (use code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off first order)  10 (Super Hot) Ways to Pleasure a Penis  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s the question everyone has asked themselves at least once. Should I break up with my partner? Relationship success depends on so many factors - communication, emotional intimacy, and of course - sexual connection. Figuring out which problems are worth solving and which ones are directing you to the exit sign can be confusing, exhausting and painful. So on today’s show, I take your questions - live - to figure out if you should make up or break up. Is bad sex worth leaving someone over? What about an age gap that puts both of you in much different life stages? Or how do you know if an affair has the potential to turn into something real? We learn so much from other people’s relationships. No matter where you are in your own, this will teach us all how to make better choices going forward.  And if you want your questions answered on the next Hotline Call show, please reach out! You can leave messages online at sexwithemily.com/ask-emily or by calling 559-TALK-SEX (825-5739). Just leave your name, age, where

So you want to try a new kink? Well, you’ve come to the right podcast. On today’s Best Of show, I answer your questions and help open your mind (and body) to all things kink and BDSM - from squirting to nipple-gasms.  Pushing ourselves outside our comfort zone can lead to enhanced intimacy and heightened pleasure. All you need are the right tools, compassionate communication, patience and plenty of lube. Show Notes: 6 Kink Styles (& How To Explore Them) Tickets to Book Release Event with Jen Freed Playground (get 15% off first order with code SEXWITHEMILY) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Quiet quitting: the act of leaving without leaving. At a job, it’s refusing to stay late, not seeking out extra projects, and only doing exactly what your role requires. Critics call it lack of inspiration or hustle – but proponents say it’s simply setting boundaries. But can quiet quitting apply to our relationships? I’ll explain the signs to look out for and how to initiate the hard conversations you may need to have with your partner. If we can put aside our inner people pleaser, we can avoid long term resentment and articulate our needs. Show Notes: Playground (get 15% off first order with code SEXWITHEMILY)  Gottmans on Compatibility, Conflict & Conversation Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let’s train our orgasm muscle: the pelvic floor. We all have one. And like our other muscles, strengthening it can yield physical benefits. In this case, a more explosive orgasm.  On today’s show I put the spotlight on edging – a sex technique for more intense orgasms – and give you a slew of additional tips for maximizing your pleasure. Penis owners, do you use toys yet? Because I’ve got killer recommendations for you. People in relationships, ever been cheated on? I help one caller move through the process. Stuck in the friendzone? Through direct communication, we can all escape platonic purgatory. Show Notes: Tickets to Book Release Event with Jen Freed Playground (get 15% off first order with code SEXWITHEMILY)  How to Climax Harder and Faster Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How do you know if you’re bisexual? In honor of Bisexuality Visibility Day, author Jen Winston helps me answer just that. In her book Greedy: Notes From a Bisexual Who Wants Too Much, Jen reveals how she came to terms with her bisexuality, in a world that loves to slap stereotypes on it: greedy, slutty, and constantly confused. Whether you’re a vulva owner in a heterosexual partnership who wants to explore same sex fantasies, or a penis owner who has recently come out as gay but still has thoughts about the opposite sex, Jen helps us all understand why sexuality is about so much more than who you’re sleeping with. Because after all, your sexuality is less about the destination and more about the journey to get there.  Show Notes: Tickets to Book Release Event with Jen Freed Jen Winston’s book Greedy: Notes From a Bisexual Who Wants Too Much Open by Rachel Krantz Jen Winston on Twitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let’s manifest our dream partners and our best sex. Because listen: if our romantic lives aren’t aligned with the people we actually are, we have an opportunity to change that.  Today, I’ll tell you how I manifested my own partner, the specific steps used to get there, and why the science behind this practice works. I’ll also answer your questions about finding the one and how manifestation can apply to your everyday dating and sex dilemmas.  Show Notes: 15 Types of Sexuality and Attraction To Help You Understand Your Desire Style Joe Dispenza - Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself Introducing Playground's chief sexologist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.