Sex With Emily

Does dating ever feel like a second job? You’re not alone. Today, Jordana Abraham and Jared Freid of the popular U Up? podcast share tips to hack your dating life so you can make genuine connections while enjoying the process. Known for reading between the lines and giving their listeners the straight-up advice they need (but may not always want to hear), Jordana and Jared help me answer all your questions, from what makes a great dating profile to how people’s definitions of “casual sex” can vary. They also help me answer your questions about hooking up with a friend, long-distance relationships, the “ick” and so much more. In this episode, you’ll learn: What to know before meeting up with a date in person How to create a profile that sparks genuine conversations How to combat dating app fatigue See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Handle Performance Anxiety 5 Ways to Pleasure a Vulva SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need:

([TW // mentions su*c*de] If you would like to skip this portion of the episode, please skip through 47:00-48:00.) Do you (or your partner) start fights over nothing? Do stable relationships feel unsettling? Today, holistic psychologist, podcast host, and author Dr. Scott Lyons shows us how some of us may be more addicted to drama than we think. From attachment styles to toxic partners, Dr. Lyons explains how unresolved trauma can show up in ourselves and our relationships. We also talk about the desire to have rough sex, why makeup sex feels so good, how trauma lives in our bodies, and so much more. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to work through jealousy in relationships How addiction to drama affects our sexual pleasure How to identify and sit with uncomfortable emotions See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Handle Performance Anxiety 5 Ways to Pleasure a Vulva Magic Wand Micro SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Sm

Here’s something wild: nearly half of people in monogamous relationships report they’ve had affairs, according to recent research. Half! And that’s just the people who admitted it. We can all agree that getting cheated on feels awful – as in, the literal worst. So why is it so common? In this Best Of episode, we’re talking trust and infidelity as we break down the reasons why people cheat, what to do if an affair has happened, and deciding whether to rebuild or break up and move on. Plus, I take your questions: how to restore your confidence after an affair, what to do if you suspect or just caught your partner cheating, and how to come back from online infidelity. In this episode, you’ll learn: The history & evolution of relationship structures Reasons people have affairs How to rebuild trust after infidelity See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: Ask Emily: I Can’t Always Get Hard For Sex, Help VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Samp

We’re talking solo sex in the context of a relationship. In this Best Of episode, I’m addressing some of the most common questions I get on the subject, such as: “if I already have a partner, why masturbate?” and “if I masturbate in private, is it cheating?” We also discuss whether or not you should tell your partner if you masturbate, and touch briefly on porn addiction: starting with, is it real? Plus, I take your questions! How to set up your own “masturbation zone” when you live with a partner, whether it’s possible to have fantasy-free masturbation sessions, what to do if you can orgasm on your own but not with a partner, and much more.  In this episode, you’ll learn: Why masturbation is important for your overall sexual wellness The truth about porn addiction How to incorporate toys into solo and partnered sex See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Use Anal Beads Ask Emily: I Can’t Always Get Hard For Sex, Help Je Joue Amour, Duet & Vita (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off s

If you’ve ever faked an orgasm, this episode’s for you. On today’s Hotline Calls show, Producer Erica and I answer your sex questions, starting with: how do you tell your partner you’ve been faking orgasms without breaking their heart? Next: is it normal to be dating for MONTHS without penetrative sex? Let’s find out, as well as how to talk about sex with a new partner before you've had it. Looking to explore anal play the right way, after years of uncomfortable attempts? Let’s do it. And finally, we dive into the world of bisexuality. Do you have to tell your partner that you’re bi? How do you incorporate your sexuality into your relationship? From communication tips to sex hacks, I’ve got you! See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Use Anal Beads Elevated Masturbation: Try a Stroker Soraya Beads from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) Pjur Original Silicone Lubricant SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex:

Missionary is a tried-and-true classic. It’s the position many of us think about when we think about sex… which is also why it gets a bad rap. Haters say it’s boring and vanilla, I say it’s an underrated favorite. In today’s Best Of episode, I’m helping you upgrade your missionary game from “meh” to “mind-blowing.” We'll debunk myths about missionary and dive into ways to spice it up, from subtle tweaks to full-blown transformations that’ll keep you (and your partner) coming! Struggling to reach the big O? I've got position hacks to enhance clitoral pleasure, especially for vulva owners who might not feel the stimulation they crave in typical missionary. Speaking of “typical” missionary… Who says missionary can't be kinky? I reveal some of the hottest ways to incorporate bondage, dirty talk, and even some BDSM elements to transform missionary into your new go-to position. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Master Pretzel Position Elevated Masturbation: Try a Stroker VIIA Hemp

We all experience sexual highs and lows, but what do you do if your “low” is a literal low libido? And your “high” might result in a penis injury? Let’s find out. On today’s Hotline Calls show, Producer Erica and I answer your sex questions. Starting with anal rimming: what if your partner has expressed interest in receiving… but feels conflicted about wanting it? Next up: chastity play - it is "Lock-Tober," after all! But could wearing a penis cage set you up for long-term injury? After that, sex that’s gone from vanilla to straight-up boring. When you’ve tried everything to fix it, what now? What does it mean if your body goes numb during oral sex? Finally, you’re fresh out of a long-term relationship, and your sex drive has completely evaporated. How do you get it back? I’ve got a few ideas. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Master Pretzel Position Soraya Beads from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only

Awkward sex: it happens! People lose their erections. Oral sex gets ouchy. Orgasms are MIA. Don’t panic -- you’re in the judgment-free zone! I’m here to help you turn these moments into erotic opportunities. First, I give general mindset tips for sex before sharing your funniest awkward sex stories. Orgasmed so hard you farted? I call that a win. Next, I take your awkward sex questions. How do you play off queefing? What do you do when you’re nervous and keep losing your erection? How about getting too wet? If it makes you self-conscious or interferes with pleasure, how do you deal? If you’ve got a small mouth, and your partner has a large penis, where do you go from there? All this and so much more in this awkward sex recovery episode. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: Sign up for Sexts With Emily SMS & get my brand new Ultimate SEXTING Guide! Playdrop Sex Mat (code EMILY10 for 10% off + bonus play rag) All Vulvas Are Beautiful SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)

You’re in my Hotlines today, and Producer Erica and I are taking your calls! Today’s theme: conversations you need to have with your sex partners. First, how long should you wait to tell casual sex partners you’re sleeping with other people? We’re all up-leveling our communication skills, so I make the case for telling them immediately. Next, she’s on ADD medication and likes a drink or two – is it negatively affecting her orgasm? Or should her partner have a deeper conversation with her about turn-ons? After that, we’ve got a young couple who just started having oral sex. She’s sore afterwards -- is it a medical condition or underlying shame? Finally, she just discovered her partner watches porn… and the subjects don’t look like her. How can she talk to him about it without judgment? See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Master Lotus Position How To Meditate, Masturbate, Manifest Like a Pro Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant Playground Lube Feeld Dating App SHOP WITH EMILY! (free

We’re back for another AITA episode! This time it’s all about sexual mismatches. First: they’ve got a 12-year age difference, and she suspects his sex drive is dwindling. She doesn’t want to cheat, but she also wants more sex…what now? Next, he wants sex for pleasure, she was raised to do it only for procreation. Is there any way to meet in the middle? A self-professed "pillow princess" writes in, is she the asshole for wanting to receive pleasure – but not give it? Finally, they’re in a dead bedroom of 10 years. “She’s repulsed by my touch” he writes, but is he really asserting himself to make healthy changes? You decide. Send us your AITA questions for the chance to have yours featured on the show at sexwithemily.com/aita. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Master Lotus Position How To Meditate, Masturbate, Manifest Like a Pro VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free CBD Gummies Sample) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69)

Orgasms are learned skills. So says bestselling author and sex expert Susan Bratton, who teaches couples and individuals to have more collaborative, orgasmic intercourse. Today, Susan and I answer your questions about being a better lover, erasing sexual shame, and, of course… having tons of orgasms. First: how do you help a partner who never orgasms during sex? Susan and I have ideas. Next, how do you train your G-spot for internal orgasms? We give you specific techniques to train your vaginal canal, and help make the area more engorged and responsive. How about Doggy Style – can the receiving partner orgasm more easily in this position? Susan talks through the Glissando Technique to help you out. We also talk through female ejaculatory pleasure and squirting, delayed ejaculation and much (much!) more. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: The Best Sex Toys According To Your Zodiac Sign Low-Lift Pleasure Hacks: 5 Everyday Items That Elevate Your Sex Enigma Wave from LELO (code SEXWIT

So many of us follow a sex script that’s been handed to us. But is that script actually serving you? In this popular Best Of episode, I give you permission to let your favorite sexual behaviors lead the way, with tons of spicy ideas to play with. Sex isn’t just about P-in-V (penis in vagina) penetration. Yet, that’s what we often mean by “having sex.” Listen – penetration is great! But I have ideas for mutual masturbation, sensual massage, hand play, elevated oral and so much more. Play this episode, make a list of your favorites, then tailor your next sex session around your authentic desires. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: The Best Sex Toys According To Your Zodiac Sign Low-Lift Pleasure Hacks: 5 Everyday Items That Elevate Your Sex Enigma Wave from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) 4 Ways to Close the Orgasm Gap First Date, First Orgasm, First Threesome SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Bo

Ever wondered how often happy couples have sex? Or the little-known key to sexual satisfaction? In today’s Sex In The News episode, I reveal new research that answers both of these questions and a surprising new finding on who says “I love you” first. First, my Producer, Erica, and I look at a study on sexual frequency and the number of times per month couples have sex. Is it this often for you? Next, we dig into research on men saying “I love you” -- do you agree with our takeaway? We then get into amazing new research on mutual masturbation and give you easy ways to try it. Finally, we explore a study on sleep health and sex. Turns out, an orgasm might be more effective than sleeping pills. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: The Lover’s Guide to Sexual Etiquette 5 Ways To Do It Doggy Style Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Mutual Masturbation & Other Guides SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever

What are your sexual fantasies? No matter how unique (or not) your fantasies are, they teach us something about our needs. On today’s Hotline Calls show, we’re exploring fantasies and partner dynamics so we can get our needs met shame-free. First, cuckolding: when a partner, typically male, asks their partner, typically female, to have sex with another man. What if your partner wants it… but you’re not so sure? Next, living with your ex -- if you’re still not over them, how do you successfully connect with others? Later, when you’ve got a unique kink or fetish, how do you talk about it with your partner, especially if they’re freaked out? Is there any way to get that need met? Finally, when a partner says they’re not sexually attracted anymore, how do you call it quits and find the sex you deserve? See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: The Lover’s Guide to Sexual Etiquette 5 Ways To Do It Doggy Style SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need

Welcome to "Am I The Asshole?" for sex and relationships! New to Sex With Emily, we weigh in on your AITA questions. First up: their marriage is on the rocks, but he wants a threesome. Is she the asshole for shutting it down? Next, his partner says she’s in pain during sex. Is he the asshole for not believing her? After that, she’s not into anal…but her partner really wants it. Is she the asshole for refusing? Next: mom just revealed she’s in a 24-hour BDSM relationship with dad. Is their daughter the asshole for freaking out?  I answer these questions and more today with my producer, Erica. Send us your AITA questions for the chance to have yours featured on the show at sexwithemily.com/aita. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 5 Hot, Consensual Ways to Practice Voyeurism VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free CBD Gummies Sample) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your

Are you and your partner sexually compatible? That’s the theme of today’s Hotline Calls show, as my Producer and I break down these couples' sex and relationship issues. First, when your partner isn’t pleasuring you as much as you’d like, does that mean they aren’t attracted? Or just nervous? Next, do you squirt during sex? It’s a goal for many, but what if it’s happening more than you’d like? How about sex drive discrepancy? When you’ve had more chemistry with past partners – and more sex – is your current partner not a fit? Or do you need to find a middle ground? Finally, what happens when your partner’s got a kink that weirds you out? We don’t yuck anyone’s yum here, but one caller needs advice on navigating brother-sister role play. Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: Oral Herpes? How to Keep Living Your Best Sex Life 5 Hot, Consensual Ways to Practice Voyeurism Playdrop Sex Ma

Esther Perel is one of the most fascinating contemporary thinkers on sex and relationships. A psychotherapist and two-time bestselling author, she’s the host of the “Where Should We Begin?” podcast, which takes you inside the therapist’s office and lets you listen in on her sessions with clients. Esther is noticing some important changes in sex and relationships. Non-monogamy is becoming more common as a relationship model: why? And is it right for everyone? How about ”family-alization” – when couples start looking at each other like siblings or roommates, how do you bring the sexual spark back? Especially if you’ve never had it in the first place? Finally, how do we revive our sensual selves when we’re immersed in technology? Can we use it to turn each other on instead of numbing ourselves? See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 7 Signs of Sexual Compatibility Oral Herpes? How to Keep Living Your Best Sex Life Where Should We Begin? Podcast: Apple Podcasts | Spotify Where Should We

Sex toys have exploded in popularity in the past few years, but there’s one situation where they still tend to be forgotten: sex itself. Using a toy with a partner can feel intimidating. That’s why I’m devoting this episode to beginner-friendly toy play, with ideas for oral sex, intercourse, and even anal play. Listen, you don’t need all the bells and whistles to get a lot out of sex toys! So I kick things off with two essential toys and all the versatile ways you can use them: bullet vibrators and penis rings. Next, I talk you through three sex positions and how to use a toy in each one: missionary, spooning, and cowgirl/cowboy. Finally, I answer all your sex toy questions, including when it’s harder to climax after giving birth -- which toy and techniques can bring your O back?  See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 5 Steps to Your Happiest, Healthiest Vagina 7 Signs of Sexual Compatibility Magic Wand Mini Massager SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) Grand Bullet by

“Low self-worth makes authentic sex impossible.” So says bestselling author Tara Schuster, who broke out with her runaway bestseller Buy Yourself The F*cking Lilies and released the life-affirming page-turner Glow In The F*cking Dark this year. On this episode, Tara opens up about hating her body, having sex exclusively in the dark, and how she rewired her brain to love herself (and her body). Tara and I also take your listener questions, where we discuss dating burnout, sexual triggers, and solo sex as self-care. When you’ve just gotten out of a toxic relationship, how can you feel more confident when you go out in public? When dating is one long string of disappointments, what gives? And finally, how do you have exploratory sex when you don’t have a partner? See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Have Honeymoon Sex Forever 5 Steps to Your Happiest, Healthiest Vagina Glow In the F*cking Dark, Tara Schuster: Bookshop | Amazon | Barnes & Noble Glow Getters Journal Club More Tara

The Sex With Emily Hotline is open! On this episode, I’m joined by my Producer, Erica, as we talk about disappearing erections, prostate massages, and so much more. First, what do you do when your partner has health issues that cause them to lose their erections? I give one caller ideas for how to work around this issue and thoughts on what might be causing it in the first place. Next, why don’t couples fantasize together more often? A couple calls in to share their sexual fantasies, and we give you inspo on how to do the same with your partner. When your partner wants a prostate massage, how do you pull it off? I tell you what to feel for, how to apply pressure and fun toys you can use. Finally, when your partner has never had an orgasm before, how can you help? And should you? Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: Is My Penis Normal? How to Have Honeymoon Sex Forever TOR 3 from LEL