Why Are People Into That?!

“I didn’t how to kiss gently. It was always about grabbing the person, putting my hand around their throat, biting. Leaving as many bruises on a body as possible. I confused a lot of people!”How is being an actress like being a dominatrix? Tina spoke with the creators of the groundbreaking new webseries "Mercy Mistress" about BDSM as healing, sex work as a consent ritual, and the perks of crop tops in winter.Mercy Mistress is an episodic dramatic series that follows Mistress Yin, a queer first generation Chinese-American professional and lifestyle dominatrix living in New York City. Each episode focuses on a different client and explores the roots of their particular kink while the larger story is one that unveils the layers of Mistress Yin's own sexuality and how she broke from a cycle of abuse, self-destruction, and childhood violence through her healing journey with BDSM.Yin Q is a BDSM educator/writer, media producer, sex work activist, and mother of two fierce girls. She has a BA from Barnard College and

“The ultimate fantasy is love.” Live from Camp Ravish, a sexy outdoor event in rural Texas, comes this atmospheric YAPIT Live! My special guest was world renowned rope bondage expert JD from 2 Knotty Boys. We discussed bondage, exhibitionism and voyeurism, spanking, age play, and more!  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

“Chivalry is the kind of ritualized flirting that goes on and on and on." In this episode, iconic writer S. Bear Bergman makes a case for chivalry; a modern, bespoke, very queer kind. He compares it to high protocol BDSM, cruising, and good ole fashioned courtesy. Very much the kind of convo you’ll only find on YAPIT.S. Bear Bergman is a writer, storyteller, educator, activist and the founder and publisher of children’s book publisher Flamingo Rampant, which makes feminist, culturally-diverse children’s picture books about LGBT2Q+ kids and families. He writes creative non-fiction for grown ups, fiction for children, resolutely factual features for various news outlets, the advice column Asking Bear and was the co-editor along with Kate Bornstein of Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation. These days he spends most of his time making transgender cultural competency interventions any way he can and trying to avoid stepping on Lego. Learn more about his projects at sbearbergman.com.  See acast.com/pri

“Back in the 90s, I touched so many pussies and so many penises while doing erotic awakening massage that eventually I noticed there was no fucking difference: People were responding as erotic beings!”Part 2 of YaPi Tantra begins with Barbara Carrellas guiding us through the first steps to full body blissgasms. She also explains how the 10th anniversary edition of Urban Tantra came to include trans and gender nonconforming erotic awakening massage, and tells a bit of the origins of her tantra practice in a downtown Manhattan strip club. Barbara Carrellas is celebrating the brand new second edition of her bestselling book, Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty First Century—the world’s first LGBTQ- and BDSM-inclusive Tantric sex book. She has also written Ecstasy is Necessary: A Practical Guide To Sex, Relationships and Oh So Much More, and Luxurious Loving. Barbara is the founder of Urban Tantra®  — a philosophy, an international communit

“The AIDS crisis was taking away our sexual freedom as well as our lives. I wanted to have sex in a way that was safe from HIV, but ecstatic as gay men in the all night disco palaces of your dreams.”Barbara Carrellas is a queer kinky sex educator whose work has been very influential on Tina’s personal and professional life. To celebrate the tenth anniversary edition of Barbara’s seminal book Urban Tantra, the two of them sat down to discuss breath and energy orgasms, their relative tolerate for “woo,” and the complications of cultural appropriation. This is Part One, with Part Two coming later this month!Barbara Carrellas is celebrating the brand new second edition of her bestselling book, Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty First Century—the world’s first LGBTQ- and BDSM-inclusive Tantric sex book. She has also written Ecstasy is Necessary: A Practical Guide To Sex, Relationships and Oh So Much More, and Luxurious Loving. Barbara is the founder of Urban T

“The part of sex that most people love is the letting go, the freedom of connection with themselves or another person, the expansion, literally the OMG of it. Most people feel that want more of that and they want it to go on longer. Tantra offers practical ways to get you there."Recorded in front of a particularly enthusiastic audience at the Pleasure Chest in NYC, December 2017, this is the Tantra Edition of YAPIT Live! Featuring Barbara Carrellas, author of the kinky queer sex guide Urban Tantra, along with Sloan, a Pleasure Chest educator and curator, this episode covers massage, breath, orgies, and much more! $5+ Patrons get the episode early, as well as NOT ONE BUT TWO EXCLUSIVE EXTRAS including sex advice about asking for what you want when what you want is love, and a whole lot of fascinating audience questions.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Part Two of my conversation with Melissa Dessereau, MFT, in which we discuss attachment theory, and why queers are especially well equipped for non-monogamy.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

This February, let's rethink our idea about romance by focusing on self love and solo sex!Tania has been with the Pleasure Chest for 2 years managing the Lincoln Avenue location in Chicago. She loves poetry, cooking and crystals. She finds a lot of joy in helping folks find a way to love themselves and others.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

“You can’t really control whether you’re having an emotional connection with someone." By popular demand, here is an entire episode on the topic of open relationships, with a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who also happens to be an out queer polyamorous badass. Is having a customized relationship really worth all that processing? Listen and decide for yourself!Melissa Dessereau is a perceptive and nuanced therapist with a refreshingly frank style. For over 20 years, she has been working with individuals, couples, and families to foster personal growth and satisfying relationships. She has a way of making clients feel comfortable, understood, and at ease — like no matter what you say she gets it and doesn’t judge you. And she’s funny.Melissa can deal with complexity and better yet can make it simple and manageable. She’s well-versed with queer, kinky, and polyamorous relationships and experiences. You can visit her web page at http://www.phiirst.com/bio-melissa.htm.Melissa is a licensed Marriage a

“In summary, life is pain; submit to me!” Mistress Blunt’s professional practice incorporates devotional principles of yoga with classic BDSM training. In this highly intellectual and erotic episode, she talks with Tina about altered states of consciousness, the relationship between chronic pain and S&M, and her specialized femme induction sessions. Danielle Blunt is a New York City based professional and lifestyle domina. She is a classically trained dominatrix, a sex worker’s rights activist, a public health student, a full-spectrum doula, a yoga teacher, a writer, an award winning visual artist, and a plant mom. Her play, work and research all explore the intersections of tenderness and pain. She enjoys long walks on the beach and making men cry.@MistressBlunt   See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

A freezer filled with vacuum-sealed dirty panties. Breeder gloves for fisting. How to turn a vibrator into a bondage toy. Putting feet in assholes. A mutual love of ruined orgasms. The dominatrix edition of YAPIT Live at the Pleasure Chest in NYC has all this and a whole lot more kinky shit. “I want you to feel like you can’t get away at all. I want a hundred locks. I want to chain you down. I want you to feel like a complete prisoner.”This all-BDSM sex worker panel features NYC-based dominatrix Lucy Sweetkill of La Maison du Rouge, and Ryan, the Outreach Coordinator of the Pleasure Chest NYC. Recording by Justine Mclellan, sponsored by Acast. If you’re in the NYC area, come to the monthly live series to enjoy raunchy talk with my special sexpert guests, wine and refreshments, schmoozing with babes, and discounted sex toy shopping! Updated info is always at TinaHorn.net/live.   See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Cleaning things up so you can get extra dirty. That’s the philosophy of Ask A Clean Person columnist and podcaster Jolie Kerr. Tina had the misconception that a cleaning expert probably wouldn’t share some of her disgusting interests, but Jolie defies expectations with her dirty mouth and filthy mind. In this episode, Jolie gives tips for using ketchup to clean leather strap-on harnesses, and using meat tenderizer to clean up period blood; and Tina tells a very personal story about an anal catastrophe.   See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

NYC-based Sex educator Carly is sick and tired of shame-y New Years' Resolutions. So we decided to brainstorm body positive ways to start 2018! From watching yourself masturbate to treating your sex toys extra nice, this is the only resolution guide you'll need this January!Carly S. has been a sex educator since 2010 and runs the blog dildoordildont. If you ever meet her, she loves strong coffee and even stronger vibration. She's called the Queen of Wands, and it's easy to figure out why. Check the Pleasure Chest calendar to see her teach!   See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

“What I love the most about being a porn performer is the vulnerability." This summer while Tina was visiting Austin Texas, she had an extremely personal and poignant conversation on with her old friend Mickey Mod. Mickey opened up about his career as a porn star, how stigma changes when you fall in love, and why the double standard of the “interracial” porn genre is an economic justice issue.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In this special holiday guide from the Pleasure Chest, LA sex specialist Tracy walks us through all sort of stocking stuffer ideas from vibrators that double as jewelry, to porn, books, bondage toys, massage oils, gift cards, gift packages, and special deals to give the gift of stress relief to all your loved ones!Tracy is the Supervisor and Sex specialist at the Pleasure Chest in West Hollywood. She has been working for the Pleasure Chest since 2015 and in the adult toy industry for 6 years. Her goal is to help others explore and add a lil spice and everything nice to their lives!   See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

“Theres a tendency for men in tech to trust machines more than they trust women.” For the first time ever, Tina tackles a speculative YAPIT: or as guest Rose Eveleth calls it: why WOULD people BE into that? Rose is the host and producer of Flash Forward, a spectacular podcast about the future. She’s also written extensively about sex robots technology with feminist humor and scientific skepticism. In this episode, Tina and Rose muse on everything from the consent politics of machines, to how sex workers and sex robots might work together, to where the hell you would store a sex robot in a New York apartment. Rose Eveleth is a journalist who covers how humans tangle with sports, science and technology. She’s the host and producer of Flash Forward, a podcast about the future, and has covered everything from fake tumbleweed farms to sexist prosthetics. Before all that she worked at The Atlantic, Smithsonian Magazine, Nautilus Magazine, TED and CBS. Her work has appeared on Vice, BBC Future, Racked, Sci

Lesbian vampires. Face-hugging aliens. Blue collar werewolves. Shitty boyfriend robots. Abject zombies. Mermaids with strap-ons. The devil’s ice-cold dick. These are just some of the hilarious ways we sexualized monsters on this Halloween edition of YAPIT Live at the Pleasure Chest in NYC. My gore whore guests Katie Skelly (author of the graphic novel My Pretty Vampire), Kristen Sollee (author of Witches Sluts Feminists) and Carly (sex educator at the Pleasure Chest and author of the Dildo Or Dil-Don't blog). Recording by Ben Weber sponsored by Acast. If you’re in the NYC area, come to the monthly live series to enjoy raunchy talk with my special sexpert guests, wine and refreshments, schmoozing with babes, and discounted sex toy shopping! Updated info is always at TinaHorn.net/live.   See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

“I’m imagining a sperm-soaked pulsating os right now.”Tina hopped on the phone with Stephanie Berman, creator of the Pop! ejaculating dildo. They discussed the reproductive origin story of this innovative toy, as well as kinky and gender affirming uses.@TheSemenette  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

For the latest in my special series from the Pleasure Chest, Mary joins me to chat about Domination and Submission. Mary has worked in various aspects of the adult industry for nearly two decades. Through pleasure education, pro domination, and outfitting premier adult stores, her focus has always been on validating fantasies and relieving humans of sexual oppressions. She currently resides in Los Angeles with her partner, two kids, and often teaches kink oriented workshops at the Pleasure Chest West Hollywood.   See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Happy Pub Day Jaclyn Friedman! Unscrewed: Women, Sex, Power, and How to Stop Letting the System Screw Us All is now available everywhere! To celebrate, enjoy this recording from our live crossover podcast at Sex Expo NYC. We discussed Ted Cruz’ “staffing issue,” the reproductive rights actions of the Satanic Temple, psychic dicks, masturbation, our favorite vibrators, adult baby diaper lovers, tentacle porn, and how to start the resistance from your bedroomRecorded live in front of an audience at the Sex Expo in Brooklyn September 23rd by Nora Linde. Educational programming sponsored by the Pleasure Chest. Engineering sponsored by Acast.http://www.jaclynfriedman.com/unscrewed@jaclynf TinaHorn.net/Live@TinaHornsAss@thesexexpo @PleasureChestNY @acast Music by Trezure Empire  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.