Career Revolution With Dr. Ck Bray | A Place To Fix, Change Or Create Your Best Career

It feels good to have a friend, someone we can call, hang out with, and go to during difficult times. Yet, it isn't easy to make friends in today’s environment. We hesitate when we contemplate taking actions that build friendship and directing such behaviors toward others. We worry that it will be awkward or that the person won’t really care about the gesture and will respond in kind. This mismatch between our perception of how others act toward us and how we think others will perceive how we act toward them is created by our innate egocentricity. We get caught up in thinking about our thoughts; if we notice that we acted awkward during an interaction, we figure the other person noticed our awkwardness too. We struggle to step through our feelings to put ourselves in the other person’s shoes; if doing something doesn’t give us a sense of surprise, we can’t imagine the positive surprise it will create in someone else. Reams of studies have been done on the human failure to read other people’s minds accurately.